How to get along with your partner?

China
November 24, 2011 11:00pm CST
I am a girl and have been together with my bf for nearly half year.We both have jobs.In daytime we go to work and at night we come home and stay together.My bf is dependent and needy,so he always calls me and chat me online when i am working.Even though he does so because he miss me alot,but it really disturb me a lot. What about you? How do you get along with your partner?
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10 responses
@Hazelme (647)
• United States
25 Nov 11
I don't have a partner right now, but i think he wants you to spend time with him. Just tell him nicely that it will distract you and try making it up by spending the weekends with him or cooking him something. Guys love that!
• China
25 Nov 11
Good day Hazelme, I am sure you will be a good parter.Thanks for your advicing,It will work.But i really dont know about cooking. Wish you can find your sweety soon. Now just enjoy your single life.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
It would be better to ask him not to do that, because it might cause you your jobs. Chatting online for personal matters are prohibited by companies. Once you are caught doing that, you will be subjected to disciplinary action or worse, be terminated from the job. Please explain it lovingly to your boyfriend.
• China
25 Nov 11
Thanks god in my office we dont have so strict discipline management.Just sometimes i am busy with my work but he is busy sending me messages and vibratings.It really bothered me alot.
• United States
25 Nov 11
I'm going to attempt to further address your problem; I encourage you to inform your boyfriend that he is becoming somewhat of a disturbanceat work! If you think he won't understand that, tell him its messing up with your efficiency, or tell him your boss has implemented new rules were personal phone and I'M conversations ca not be held while servicing your work station. This should nip that communication in the bud. If he gets discouraged by the loss of oppurtunity, offer him more love and chattiness at home so he can still get a portion of what he's been missing! Kindly alert him, then offer a nice alternative that won't leave him too upset!
@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
I think it's his way of showing concern to you. He checks on you from time to time to get updated as to what you are doing. If you are bothered, you can talk to him about it because if not, this could cause some serious troubles.
• China
25 Nov 11
Yeah,you are right.My bf is a Marketing Executive.Most times he is outside of his company. He has more free time than me.When he is free,he starts to chat me on his mobile.If i dont reply or reply later he will feel ignored. Then he will be angry and we start fighting.About this question,we fought many times.Now the condition is much better.
• Romania
30 Nov 11
I tend to be the one who sends more text messages and such when I have some free time at work, but it's mostly something that we do together, it's not a rule that i send more text messages and such than he does. He's the main person I turn to when it comes to messaging, but I know when he's busy and cannot talk and let him do his job - and the other way around. He knows that I cannot use my phone a lot during work hours so he knows how to act :) and we usually send each other messages of love and support so the time when we are not together passes faster till we meet again at home after work :)
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 11
Everyone have their own preference and style in a romantic relationship. I would be happy if my partner is dependent to me though. Me and my girlfriend are undergraduates in a local university. I'm majoring in language and communication while she is majoring in accounting. We are staying together outside of campus. Basically we tend to spend the maximum time together, eating, study, leisure etc. We are both dependent of each other. I always tutor her with her assignments and studies, while she fold my clothes, cooks and arrange stuff in our house. What I can suggest you is that, communication and understanding is a vital part in a relationship. If there is anything that discomfort you, you can always talk nicely to him about it while realizing that he cares about you a lot that drives him to be dependent and etc.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
25 Nov 11
I think the approach to any relationship is talking, when we expose our feelings and thoughts everything changes, cause sometimes we are angry or we missunderstand and you will be suprise on how many times we judged wrong, even people who don't get along might change that with a good talk.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Some guys are really needy why others are so independent. If I have to choose, I will choose the needy one. I know that it can get really annoying sometimes but I prefer that than someone who does not show his feelings. If it really bothers you then tell him this. He might get offended or something but at least he will know it bothers you. I am pretty needy myself and my boyfriend is somewhat in the middle.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 11
hello my advice is best shared his feelings all your thoughts. everything about that dream. many things can be made by phone. I know what it means to miss someone just talk an awful lot because if you do not speak then complicate things always say what you want and also listen too. success. nice day!
• United States
25 Nov 11
I'm going to attempt to further address your problem; I encourage you to inform your boyfriend that he is becoming somewhat of a disturbanceat work! If you think he won't understand that, tell him its messing up with your efficiency, or tell him your boss has implemented new rules were personal phone and I'M conversations ca not be held while servicing your work station. This should nip that communication in the bud. If he gets discouraged by the loss of oppurtunity, offer him more love and chattiness at home so he can still get a portion of what he's been missing! Kindly alert him, then offer a nice alternative that won't leave him too upset!