sad memory

every thing can be happened in the first date.. don`t be sad like thah hooha.. i do hope that girl can understand your feeling...

I'm so sorry, you are such a nice guy. If she is nice as you she'll give you a second chance, after all if she is intelligent she might had not talked to you (her fault either, you prepared the date now she could begin a conversation if you are having trouble, I dated shy guys and there's nothing wrong with begining to talk) she will know the effort you went through to make the date, she will know because of the restaurant and the flowers. Now why were you not talking? Maybe you were afraid of what she would think, how about be natural and talk what's on your mind? That way you already get to know each other in the begining, let girls know the real you.

Hmm You KNow The bad thing is you Thought so Much about it Next time dont think too much about the Date Just be Normal. I Know its hard but just be normal Everything will be fine Good luck

Hi hoohaa, When you realized that it is a 'sad memory', why do you still keep it in your memory? Just erase it and go ahead what best you can do to repair the situation. Don't get too anxious next time when you have a date with the girl. Be calm and be yourself, after all you can't impersonate very long what you aren't. Soon she will like you as the person you are, if you have lost words to chat just ignite her to tell about herself. I am sure girls like to talk about themselves and they like guys who listens to them. The best thing in life is to do what best you can and leave the worries to God. Good Luck Happy Living calpro

There are lots of things to talk about but maybe your just too nervous to talk. She felt your nervousness that's why she didn't talk too much too. You were the one who asked her to go out so who do you expect to lead the date? Do better next time. Goodluck.

Oh what a memory to keep for a first date! LOL I can understand the feeling.What I don't understand is why did you go to a place where both of you were not comfortable at talking with each other. You could have started strolling along the shore, or did the window shopping just to make yourselves at ease with each other. Like a little casual just to unfreeze yourself as well. Next time, do the unfreezing before settling down for a dinner date and strike a conversation that interests her. Make a little research about her likes and dislikes so that you can have an initial topic to discuss or share about. Good luck to your next date if there's another one.

Hello there... It ain't your mistake buddy... Probably, there was nothing common between you, which is why the conversation didn't pick up... I can understand you're feeling sore about it.... Just forget it, until she calls you... And even if she doesn't call, move on and look for someone who has something in common with you... Good Luck!!!!

Hi there Hoohaa, Welcome to Mylot! I'm a woman and I think most of us understand the nervousness that you guys go through on a first date. If this woman is worth your time then she will have noticed all the effort you put into trying to impress her and understand how nervous you may have been. Don't assume that it was a flop. Talk to her and explain just how you did here. Set up something in a more relaxed atmosphere and just be yourself. Some of my best dates have been ordering pizza out and just hanging together without any formalities. Don't give up...try again but go for something a little more comfortable. Sounds as if she may have been nervous as well.

in each of us has been like. sad memories left to fester in our hearts. we can not change things just invoke our thoughts and our sad is sad. but life is not always pink. I hope no more such sad and happy memories. nice day!

Hello, hoohaa! I understand how you feel. Don't worry about what happened. That's normal to people who are inlove. They say that love can make you do things you can't imagine you can do. Try to also send her messages to show that you care. You may call her once a week or everyday depending upon your schedule. If both of you are not busy, you can talk over the phone. This is the best way to do so that you'll start to know each other more. When you're talking over the phone, she doesn't see you so you'll not feel so shy. I think you will be more confident to talk about topics where both of you will be interested. Take your time. You have all the time to know each other better. I suggest you make a list of topics that you want to talk about. You should also know her interests. From those interests, you can start a good discussion. In your list, enumerate what you would like to talk about. Then, review them before seeing her again.

Well, its okay. You dont need to force yourself to talk to her. Just talk to her when you want to. Some girl will like your type, if she doesnt. Not all people are the same you know. Maybe she is the kind of girl who likes your type, who knows?

Well there is always a first for everything. First dates are really awkward most especially when both parties aren't really close. I guess the first thing you should do is to know more about the girl so that on the next date, at least you will have something to talk about. The person inviting should at least not stop talking so as not to make the moment awkward. Good luck on the next date! :)

Don't be sad...don't you have plans of asking her out for your 2nd date? You like her, don't you? Then go!!! At first its just normal to be nervous, still in uncomfortable situation but then later on as you go along with her, things would be perfectly well. Just act normal & be who you are! You don't have to pretend!!! Good luck!!!

one way that keeps interaction going is actually talking,maybe the night before the date you should have thought about all the topics you guys could have talked about.you could have made a list of interesting topics or questions or even some funny jokes just to make the conversation going and the mood more enjoyble.so next time you plan to go out with your date again better prepare yourself in advance not just for the places you guys are going to visit but also the things you will be talking about.best of luck!

Well... She liked you enough to say yes to the first date... It's not all that bad... And talking is over-rated anyway... Tell you you were little nicer the weather & you'd like to make it up to her for how the first date went... Try to find out what she likes... If she likes arts, see if you can look up some stuff about arts... I'm not talking about read up on arts... I'm talking about finding out what's going on in art world... Find some art related news... It's great for conversation starters... "Hey... I saw it on a news the other day about museum closing up... Did you know about that?". She'll give you an answer & take it from there... Usually, conversation about one thing will lead you to another subject... If you guys run out of things to all about, say something like, "why so serious..." or "you know what? I like your smile & I haven't seen it in few minutes... How about a smile?"... And make a comment & take it from there... That's how it was when I met my current girlfriend... We started out talking about baby diapers in a grocery store & 4 hours later, we were sitting @ a coffee shop talking about camping & skydiving... That was on our first date...

Hi, Everybody make mistakes and no one is perfect. So, you made one too. That shouldn't be a problem. Let bygones be bygones. Look ahead and plan your next date. Since you are not good at conversation, why not bring her to the movies. After the movie you can go for a snack. Now you will have something to talk about, at least a comment about the picture you have just seen. Take it easy. I guess you are jumpy because it's probably your first date with her. Get enough sleep. Your girlfriend just might lose her interest if she finds you tired or nervous. Have a great evening together. Cheers!

The success of the date, does not depend on those trimmings. It depends on both of you. If both of you , have interests in knowing each other more, you could have talked about yourself and hers. From there, you can talk of other things that interests you both. That's the start of how it is to build a more intimate relationship.

This is only normal especially if that is your first time. Once you are getting used to it, then it will not be hard for you having a hard time dating. Don't worry because girls will understand you if you will just tell them honestly what is wrong with you. Good luck.

That was really disappointed on your part because your expecting to much to the girl whom you dating with.Its not about spending to much but the two of you being happy accompanied with.That would really the problem of expectation you cant get what you don't want.So maybe when planning for a date you must know better the person if your enjoying to accompany with or not.

I'm sorry it did not turn out but I guess the most important part of a date is the conversation itself. I haven't ever dated and I'm shy myself, to the point where I can't even approach a girl . There are many free programs available on the net. One such program was from a guy named Bobby Rio. I had subscribed to hisnewsletters. It did nothing for me but his tips seemed to be worth it. Try them.