smoker woman
By bashabasha
@bashabasha (400)
Philippines
November 25, 2011 2:31am CST
What do you think when you have seen smoker women?
For men ( smoker or not ): how do you feel about it?what if your woman you love is a smoker? would you let her do what she want,for her happiness? or stopping her?
For women ( smoker) : how do you feel when someone is stopping you for doing this thing? you will feel happy or feel irritated? As a smoker, what is your man preferences?
I'm smoker, It's hard for me to commit myself to someone or love him back who can't accept for what the things I used to do..
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14 responses
@UmiNoor (4522)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 11
Two of my daughters smoke. My husband smokes so I guess they got it from their father. I don't have any sons so my daughters behave like boys too. I used to be irritated when they smoke and they would do it behind my backs and whenever I tell them about the dangers of smoking, they would agree with me but they're addicted so they can't stop. I hope they would realize that they need to stop smoking if they intend to have children because smoking can affect the fetus in their body.
@UmiNoor (4522)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 11
It's very difficult to give up smoking once it has become a habit because when you smoke, feel good hormones are released by the brain and that is what you want to feel when you smoke. Once you get used to having that feel good hormones, you will be irritable when you don't get your dose of the hormones. That is why if you want to quit smoking, you must be very determined otherwise it can be challenging to quit smoking.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I'm glad you're where you're feeling better. I hope you get on well with your mother and don't feel so sad too much. Every cloud has its silver lining.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Yes I your right about it! Its really hard for now. For now, I never thinking quitting to smoke even I feel happy now because I tried once . And I feel I can't live without even one stick for a day. I've been sad it was 3yrs ago when im so far away to my mom. And makes me angry when I saw my father bringing other woman everyday. But I'm very happy now. I'm with my mom. I love staying with her ^^,
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Yes we can't avoid that. My mom is a smoker too till now but I got my bad habit when I lived with my dad for almost 3yrs when I'm in college. I know its not a good to hate my father but seeing him with another women every night makes me feel angry. Missing my mom who i didn't see for almost 3yrs when Im schooling makes me feel so sad. This is the reason why I became like this,felling sad and anger . but now everything fine . I'm with my mom now. But i just can't stop from smoking because I used to do it
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
when i was still a teenager my older sister and my mom used to smoke a lot like a pack a day, at first i hate to see them smoking until the day come that i was in smoking habit too,.. have started smoking when i was 18, i planned to stop it when i was deeply in love with my gf at age of 22 until i finally managed to stop it at my age 34, it really was a hard habit to break but it's not impossible. i already enjoying 8 of smoke free and healthier life,.. it is better for you to stop smoking..
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Its great to hear that you completely quit your smoking habit and live a healthier lifestyle now. Thanks for your advice. I know myself .. Maybe one day.. when the right time comes. I can manage to stop this habit. I tried many times but I always failed.
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
that day will surely come because you are interested in stop smoking and doing something about it, i tried listening to subliminal programming found on youtube you might want to try them too..and i think you did not fail yet, remember it took me 12 yrs before i finally stop smoking...
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Hi Basha,
I'm a woman and a smoker also. I would like to quit because I know it is unhealthy for my body and my purse. I've cut-back but so far haven't been able to fully quit. One thing though, I will NOT put up with anyone telling me what I can and can't do. Unless someone is paying my salary then I don't do well with commands and restrictions.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
haha your right!I feel quitting one time but It didn't work for one day without smoke.I know its not good for our health but why I can't understand that words. I'm very hard headed when it comes to stop myself. I smoke for 3 yrs . Somebody told me I need to stop that when I start to have a child but still I saw woman 7mos pregnant and still doing smoke! really cool:D
@mzgorgeous (85)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
hi bash I do smoke too so I don't mind if someone stop and smoke beside me.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
It really irritates me when someone's trying to stop my smoke. I know its not good but what can I do? I'm not ready yet to stop this habit..
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 12
i too remain a smoker, now i left smoking, if any my lover habitual to smoke, i will try not to smoke as their health not suffered more. yo self smoking or not?
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
I can't help it. I wanted to quit but still I'm not ready ,so till now I still do smoke and really smoker. I know the consequences but still I'm a hard headed and love my bad habit.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
I do smoke only for sometimes, for example if i'm drunk. I never do judge persons who smoke either a girl or a boy.They might have some important reasons behind.It is okay as long as it doesn't violates the rule and still we manage to respect each others right!
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
I like your point of view and the way you understand smokers. I hope you will not make it habit because seriously its hard to quit smoking when you get addicted into it. Have a good day..
@sreejithsreenivas (10200)
• India
17 Sep 12
Hai basha. i am from India and here it is very difficult find smoking womens.I never seen a women smoking in my place.Smoking is very dangerous to our health and it is more dangerous than drinking.I dont like both drinking and smoking,but i tried it once in my life when i was studying in college.I find nothing special in that ,so i decided not to take it in my whole life.Both smoking and drinking is injurious to health and it is better to keep away from this bad habit.With out banning such products,it is very difficult to keep people away from this bad habit.There is limitation in a waring the people about the hazards that caused by this had habit.Self determination is the best method to keep away from this.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
25 Nov 11
Hi Bashabasha,
I am a woman and I smoke. I have to quit and I agree that it is a really bad habit. When I quit,it will be through my own personal efforts and not because some man that feels it is his right to tell me what to do tells me to. Your words, "let her" kind of grabbed me.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Lol.. yeah. you're right about that and that's the reason I want too for myself.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
I've always respected the right of people to smoke, man or woman. I never stereotype them. I believe that all smokers know the consequences of their action and had chosen that habit. That being said, I don't think I would stop someone whom I love to smoke except if we're about to start a family. She has to keep her body as healthy as possible if she is going to have a child. It'd be no longer about our relationship but it would concern the child's health now.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
thanks for being broad minded. I agree in what you've said here . Maybe in the future I will limit my smoking for the sake of my future children.
@prospectboy (754)
• United States
11 Jan 12
I'm a male, and I've never been a smoker. I personally don't think I could be with a woman who smokes. If she were a friend and I was interested in her, I would encourage her to stop. True enough smoking may make someone happy, but it's not healthy either. If I'm going to commit and be with a woman, I want her to be healthy and not dying from something that could have been prevented. That's just my opinion though.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
Thanks for your true opinion. Having a healthy woman in your life is a good thing. Live an healthy life and never try to smoke.
@asiacevillar (643)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
I've had a Gf once who was so against my smoking thing, I told her like "well, if you can't take it you're so free to go around and find a new me" hhahahah. Smoking makes makes me feel euphoric from all the stress in my life. I just can't quit or dare lessen it. it's psychological indeed, according to one psychology book I've read.
@ashleyxatrocity (2)
• United States
26 Nov 11
I'm a smoker and have been for longer than I can legally admit. Lol! My whole life, I've been with men who smoke as well until I met my current boyfriend. He doesn't smoke and has never been with someone who does. I was concerned at first because I thought he would try to make me quit in which case, I would kick him to the curb for my habit. However, he really doesn't have a problem with it. I used to not smoke around him, but he kept insisting that its okay so now I do. He doesn't have any issues kissing me afterwards even though I smell and taste like smoke. He's even begun rolling them for me. There's only 1 time he has ever mentioned me quitting and that was because it became an expensive habit, but I explained to him that its not going to happen, but that I WILL quit when we decide to have kids.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Oh cool. I'm happy for you. You really found someone who can accept and understand your bad habit. I hope one day I can find someone who are willing to understand and accept my bad habit ^^,
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 12
i self remain smoker for 10 years before 20 years but now i left smoking, if a woman smoker i find, i will try for her health and not more smoking as not suffered her health.
@alllll (83)
• India
27 Jul 12
I was very surprised,when I saw a woman smoker first time in my life.Now,it is a common factor.In my opinion,women smoker want to show their as a smart by smoking.