having an affair in a man who already had a son/daughter......

If the other woman is no longer interested to be back with her man, then I see no reason why it should not be. The problem wold be the future consequences of such affair, it would never be permanent with the fact that he has some previous commitment that may seek redress if the comes. You should be ready for such eventuality if you are willing to forge ahead with the relationship.

If they don't have any more attachment with each other (physical/emotional) then,go on. There are lots of same story like this. The good thing is, he never hide about his past and been honest from the start. But you need to be careful always...

I presume that the guy is not a married one. If this is so, I don't see any reason why this will be a deterrent. However, if he is married to the mother, stay away from him. It is never well and good to become someone else's number two woman. However, you must be sure that this man is worth taking the risk if ever you will decide to proceed with an affair with him if he is still single and with a daughter to answer for yet. Marriage is not a thing that anyone can play with. It is a commitment for life. One wrong decision and it will make a hell of the rest of your life on earth.

Its always dangerous to get seriously involved with married men. They have this notion that women are cheap and easily disposable.you could be a pawn in his hands.If he married then he is legally committed to that women as hubby.You can only fulfil his physical needs as mistress.You can be dumped any time.women have much more to lose in a relationship if it goes wrong

There is nothing wrong in loving a person who has children as long as he is no longer married or he's no longer together with the mother. I believe that loving a person is never wrong at all but being in a relationship with him that could destroy his relationship with his family is. If you say that they still keep in touch but they're not together then i don't see any fault in loving him.

I think there is nothing wrong if you are having an affair with that guy because as you have said he is not already living with that woman who were the mother of his off springs.If they are married then that will be a big issue. It seems that you are a mistress. You should talk to the guy that he needs to settle everything first to the woman.

Well, first off make sure he is not lying to you. Make sure he is not a married man, also, make sure he is not cheating on the other woman with you, because if he is, he will only do it to you. If he is truly single, there is nothing wrong with having an affair. But do not put yourself in a bad position.

If he is not married and if he is not having an intimate relationship with the mother of his child anymore, there are no reasons that you'll not have a relationship with him.You should also be sure to accept him as he is.I mean that includes being a father to a child who is not your kid.You should also be careful with your decisions,what could happen to the mother of his child could also happen to you.You may also end up having a child outside marriage,if he is not the marrying type.So be prepared for the consequences of your actions.If you think you can't take the responsibility of being a single mother and if you think he's not the marrying type of guy; you should get out from that relationship as earlier as possible.

There is nothing wrong in falling with a man that has a child, and vice versa.....But if you are asking whether you should walk away because you suspect that this man is still attached to his baby mama emotionally, then the answer is yes...you should....yes, i know, you havent mentioned this in your statement/question, but the fact that you are asking this question, means that you have doubts as to how close this man is, to his baby mama. If you feel that there is still a romantic attachment between the both of them, then there probably is. My advice to you is.....whether or not he is telling you that he never loved her, or that he only sees her only for the purposes that are geared towards the welfare of the child, you should tread with the utmost caution, because you do not for one minute want to get deeply involved with this man, and then as time passes by, you realize or find out that he is still sleeping with her, or seeing her intimately, etc. You should maintain a friendship as long as it takes for you to know what kind of man he is, and what kind of feelings he has for you and his baby mama. When you are absolutely sure that this man has only eyes for you, then you can be at ease and let your guard down, as time goes by....no hurry....no hurry in the game of love...absolutely none...you will be glad that you put those precuations into place in your life, because galfriend, no one can take care of your heart better than you can.

hi asliah, i think you are not wrong about fall in love to that man, love is very complicated feeling and we can't treat it.