would you be friends with your ex?
By aimhrea
@aimhrea (181)
Philippines
November 25, 2011 1:43pm CST
the trusty facebook tickler informed me of new photos of uploads by a friend. in it was tagged The Ex. lol when we were still going out, i told him i'd rather us part while we could still be friendly with each other. then things happened, he did stuff that not what one might call friendly by any stretch of imagination. we went our own ways but with having common friends it was inevitable that we'd see each other again. he acted as if expecting i would be friendly towards him.
on the other hand, i know of ex-couples that have managed a pretty amicable friendship after breaking up.
so what do you think? would you be friends with your ex? could you be friends with your ex? under what circumstances would you or would you not?
9 responses
@soulist (2985)
• United States
29 Nov 11
I actually am friends with some of my exes. We ended things on good terms, and one has hung out with me and my boyfriend. We talk about his dates and things like that and it isn't weird because we ended it mutually; decided we worked better as friends. There are other exes that didnt end as nicely but that's fine we live in different states. But in all it is possible to be friends with an ex.
@pebblez8989 (321)
• United States
28 Nov 11
i can not be friends with my ex. because for some reason i end up liking them again. i tried so many times to be friends with my ex but i always ended up liking him or he ended up kissing me. and he would be jealous if i talk to a guys in front of him. so i guess it never worked for me having my ex as my friend.
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
26 Nov 11
If the break is mutual and amicable I don't think staying friends is a big deal . I think if I was in such a situation I would have managed to uphold a friendly relationship . In such cases both should sustain the same thought . If all goes well decency and courteousness can be maintained .
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
25 Nov 11
if i have break with my ex, she will be my friend and i can do that.
i dont want to end any relationship with someone,.
i think, past is past, what we do now is different, we dont have to influenced because of the past at all.
we have move now ahead, just let what we have done, and start a new relationship that better.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
If we parted in a hurtful way I think I wouldn't want to be friends with my ex anymore. We can be casual but being friendly with each other, I don't think so. It would be painful no matter how I try to conceal it. It also brings awkward feelings when suddenly some of our friends starts talking about love life.
@chillmaik (67)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
it depends.. i think i call it a civil relationship..you can be friendly with your ex if you really have moved on before i was bitter about my ex because i was thinking of the things he had done to me and really affected my self esteem but when i had moved on and became happy with my life it wasnt hard anymore to say hi to him although still theres a bit of awkwardness..i believed if you have really moved on its the time you could be friends
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Nov 11
I think that, in this sort of case, it would depend on the circumstances. There are certain things that would affect whether the two individuals would become friends or not. Some can manage to be friends, while others it just doesn't seem to work out. It will vary and depend on several different things.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
25 Nov 11
I've been friends with my ex husband since we divorced nearly 25 years ago. However, the divorce was by mutual agreement and there was never any arguing or disagreements of any kind. It must be hard when any kind of relationship breaks up under a cloud to stay friends, but some people seem to manage it. As to what would stop me being friends with any ex, would largely depend on what he'd done.
@Hazelme (647)
• United States
25 Nov 11
It would depend. First if i still have feelings for him and i want to get over him i would not stay friend, just have time to myself and avoid all contact or communication with him. Then after i'm okay i will just smile or say hi, but i need to make sure i would not feel anything at all. But however if hes acting dumb by spreading rumors like many do or saying bad things about me i wouldnt talk to him or even smile. Every relationship is different so i don't know what to tell you, but for example my last relationship i didn't stayed friends with him because he treated me bad and after i broke up with him he started saying so many mean things and specially saying so many bad things about my family.
Of course i wouldn't like to be friends with him after all he said and the drama he caused, and even though he sometimes try talking to me i ignore him and just enjoy my life, friends like that i don't need them in my life.