please help me!

I've had the same problem... not for that long.. only been about 8 months and we're just "Friends" with benefits mind you considering i'm 5 months pregnant with his kid... He tells me he isn't ready for a relationship yet and isn't sure when he will be. I told him I loved him and he didnt really respond to me in any way... basically just told me that he's not going anywhere as far as he knows. I wish I had the guts to ask him if we're more then just friends now... he's not with anyone else, only me and i'm only with him... its confusing and hurtful and i'm too damned afraid to ask him... too afraid of being rejected... i know its not an answer to your question but I want you to know your not alone in the feeling.

I am sorry to hear that, you won't get same return that you invested in this person. That is his lost, but it also wasn't his fault. I hope that you will find someone who really love you more than just friend. The same relationship happen to me. Some girl I really love in the past, but I knew that she never love me back the same as I love her. Eventually, I have to leave her and also leave this friendship behind. It is a choice, it is up to you.

As a man feeling like i did with my "ex-GF", just for first time we had a friend relationship, i actually had a little feeling to be falling in love with her but i just can say at that time as a friend is or sometimes when she had to insist again and again what i felt to her, i just no comment. Then, i started to think this is just has happenened to you i guess that your friend have a little feeling to be falling in love with you. What you have to do right now is don't give up, get him! Sooner or later he will give his whole feelings to you;)

You better find someone else. Three years is a long time you have wasted. Maybe while your eyes were all over him someone else was making a move on you but you just didn't notice. You know what? When you find someone else you will realized how stupid you were to fell for that guy who doesn't love you in return.

It's kind of a one way admiration/relationship. That's quite hard to maintain. if he honestly admitted that he can only offer his friendship then so be it. Don't expect more than that because you will be at the losing end. On the other hand, I can sense that he also has a feeling for you. Perhaps he just want to enjoy the kind of relationship you have: as friends. In that case, I think you need to respect his stance. If you really love him, you will respect what he wants at the moment. Don't go beyond that. Men in general doesn't like to rush things. Getting into a serious relationship is one. They are slow in making decisions because they want to be sure that their decision id the right one even though it might not be the best. Hanging around with friends with him is somehow, allowing the two of you to really know one another.Make the most of the time that you are together.Enjoy every moment with him. Somehow, you are making good memories together. Cherish and indulge in it.Who knows, he is only trying to be sure of his feelings toward you. If you don't mind, don't act as if you are the 'girlfriend'. He might get suffocated and might despise you for acting such. They don't like that kind of attitude of a friend. Just allow him to be free. If he is really meant for you, he will come back. If he won't, then he is not meant as your lifetime partner but as a friend. Good luck. Again just respect what he likes at the moment. Curb your feelings toward him. Feelings can be educated by the will. Just will it.

Hi april. If you say you guys are so close, it is almost impossible that he doesn't have feelings for you. Maybe it is some other problem. Maybe it is his family that doesn't allow him to be in a relation. Maybe it is his religion, financial status . . . Can be anything. You confront him once and for all and ask him if he doesn't have any feelings for you or just doesn't want to be in a relationship. If it is the first option, Move on. If it is the second one, and if you think he is the perfect one, then you may consider waiting for him.

Hi April, I have to be honest with you, April. I don't see this turning into a romantic relationship. It is very one-sided as a friendship and as a romance. He has been kind enough to be straight up honest with you. He sounds like an amazing friend that really really values your friendship. You look at it as something more and are not valuing and respecting the friendship. Maybe you can't because of your feelings for him. You also have been honest. Maybe you two should just take a break from each other for a while. Of course there is always the possibility his feelings will change but you can't force that and you shouldn't shut yourself off from other possibilities because they may not. One thing that is a strong possibility is that your friendship will be destroyed if things keep going as they are.

You stick with him every weekend away from others possibles suitors...You're missing the opportunity to meet others guys. You dont give value a good friendship as it should. Who is friend respects the other's decision. Who is smart not to dig a deep hole to can not get out tomorrow. You doing that is hindering his life and yours too. You can walk in groups and so others guys will see you are free... and others girls will see that he is free too. THE 2 WILL HAVE A CHANCE. and P L E A S E the scene of jealousy is horrible...uglier even if you dont have a right.

Hi, I'd say just be friends for the time being. Let things take its own course and don't ask him if his feelings for you has changed. Look forward and move on with your life. Maybe along the way, you will find someone interesting. Keep an open mind. Look at it as a win-win situation. If he falls for you in future than you will have someone you love in your arms otherwise you'll always have a good friend. You may never know what the future might bring as love is quite unpredictable.

There is always an open possibility that he might change his decisions to accept the kind of love you offered or still stick to his words as true friends. We cannot rely exactly to his words because people do change especially if he realized it by Himself. I also would like to express you that though it's very hard in your situation to confess about your true feelings, you are still brave enough not to take advantage of your true friendship by being sincere to him. However, IF he really has no other person more special than you? I think he may be suffering from Identity crisis in which he wanted more to know himself and it is only you he can rely with. Or, there are situations in his family or experiences that he rather accept your companionship up to the stage of friendship only. HE may be confused with many things and only you can understand mostly than anybody can. He is also sincere to be straight to the point, what he wanted to be between both of you, BUT, he must also consider that it's very hard for you.SOmehow you understand his point? it is still a feeling of rejection in your heart but you cannot get away with the feelings you got as it grows more intense all this time. The question is, Are you still capable of accepting such? or getting more pains? and your friend has nothing to do but just be in play safe mode?" for he do not want to loose you? but do not want to accept your proposal? Where will you place yourself? IS it much hard if one day you wake up after your investments? would be the worst scenario you have to accept? IT is much painful when you are always around and your feeling are not been credited for that somehow. I guess. for him to wake up and face this situation both of you are having, you give him more space to SEE YOUR IMPORTANCE, and let him think and see his efforts. Ask him also the space you need to cope yourself from all of these. Maybe, after this things will change and much better for you.In this, all your questions will be answered. YEs, he allow you to control some of his doings? but it does not prove that he is really doing it because he loves you that much, he is just giving you that opportunity cause he thinks you are true friends only. He hangs out with you because he is comfortable with you, but still not enough for him to realize that he can love you the same way you want right now. DO not be depressed about this ok? the feelings of a person may change once he realized many things he wanted for himself same as you when you realized your feelings for him .Maybe, there are many things that surrounds his mind and fears that he is afraid to make that start.Just give both yourselves enough time for it to be realized and be healed too. Thanks for sharing and I wish for your recovery.

hello,april_02.I just got the same exprience.Here is the tip.Stick to,but not forever.Just struggle to pursue him the last time and you can regard this as a chance for you and him.Whatever the answer is,please respect his decision.before show your love you should do your best to let him move for what you did.although failed,but you did the best and will never regret.Then stop keeping in touch with him,because every time you stay with him you will be hurt even by some small fairs.what is more,he get the girlfriend oneday.so stay away from him and never touch.Time will fly everything.Maybe the second you will be deeply depressed,but week's later.it will be nothing.i believe a word that there is no true friendship between female and male.I just did the tip,so i am okay now.it is just my own opinion.hope can offer you a bit help.thanks!

Don't get disappointed, we can't make one to love us the true love comes from heart, by telling your feelings and at last he loves you it will not last long, so be calm,now you are a student concentrate in your studies the time comes it will come to you

HI APRIL, it sounds like you are in a delemia..I don't want to be negative, but it sounds like you should continue to be friends...It seems like he has been very truthful with you and is offering you what he is comfortable with you,...It may not be very obvious but there is a reason he just want to be just your friend.. If you don't want to lose a good friend I think you should chill you with your jeleousy..remember he has friends other than you based on what you posted....Let him be him and don't drive your friend away,,,If its meant to be time will take care of it...maybe you focus your attention else where and he might change his mind about just friendship.. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

There might be a slim possibility of him returning his feelings for you, But the real question here is are you bold enough to take the chances? Are you aware of the consequences of the actions that you are going to do? If so and you still want to go far in the deep end, then go for it! For me, it has been a kind of motto for me to go take the chances rather than living in doubts and "what-ifs". I have learned in time that regret will come to you if you don't do what your heart has set to do. Just ask yourself clearly on what your really want. Do it if that's what you want. You will only have yourself to blame if you don't follow your instincts. Remember what they say. "Fortunate are those who follows the path that is set for them, But GReat are those people who make a path for themselves. the choice is yours to take my friend.