Are you a great conversationalist

I guess I am not a good conversationalist. I am just a listener with nothing to add. So I guess I could not suggest anything to this discussion.

Hello Joni... It is not the length of conversation that matters. What is important is the quality of the things or discussion... A couple of vulgars can have day long conversations... A couple of proffessors can chat for a couple of hours and exxhange a lot of ideas... Two scientists can talk for a few minutes and give away a very valuable things... You see what I mean... :-)

I've gotten better, but it depends on what you are talking about. I can wax long on favorite topics. However, as I tell people, my first words were a very short story, and my stories have remained that way - short and violent! Maybe a bit longer and better plotted, but...

I would say I am not a person who has a lot to say also. I was always shy and I felt like no one would be interested in anything I had to say. I am not one of those people who can just ramble on about anything at all. I try to talk more sometimes, but I have a boring life and nothing to talk about.

Honestly, I'm not a great conversationalist but in order for me a conversation to last long I asked a lots of questions. In order for us to not to be left behind we must Listen because it is one of the fundamental elements in a conversation.

I don't know.. straight to the point is what I like. I talk more that way, I know I write different. For me people who seldom speak but do say something interesting if they speak are more interesting as those with there never ending blah blah about mostly nothing. I do like stories, fairy tales, reading. You can learn a lot from that. Ask yourself when reading or listening what exactly is attractive to you. The kind of language (words/expressions) used, the (sound of the) voice or... It's not about the length of the conversation but about whát people say that counts. The joke, the funny part, the sarcastic part, the brain breaking part, that 1 sentence of wisdom. Long conversations are tiring me out. I don't care if I can follow it or not. Ask yourself what exactly you want to change and if you know that you can practise it.

i do have problem also carrying on a long conversation. i am used to being a quiet person also.

I used to be very shy. I kept to myself most of the time and most of the time I do not mind it. But sometimes it helps if you can strike up a conversation. When I first became a teacher, I could hardly talk about anything to my students. Now, it seems pretty easy. My suggestion is to keep a list of questions that is applicable to anybody like "How did your test go?" "Wow, you look blooming today. Who did your hair?" "Where did you buy that?" etc. Then, most of the time, from the other person's response you'll find some bits and pieces that you could follow through.