young love
By Jo Hill
@Carpathian (582)
United States
November 27, 2011 12:43am CST
My nephew keeps asking me what to do. He is in love with his wife and trying to make their relationship work. They are in their early 20's and have 2 babies. But, his wife is not happy being with him anymore. How do you tell him you can't make someone love you. He needs to just let her go and move on. What would you tell a young person when they are in love and the one they love does not love them back?
Have you ever known someone in this situation or any young lovers with problems like this? What would you do if it was you?
*Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life*
9 responses
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
The children are the only thing that's binding them. If the girl is not happy anymore then he should set her free. Its hard to go on with the relationship in that state. I pity the guy who gives an unreciprocated love.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
You can't force someone else to love you back. it's as simple is that.
Tell him that do what ever it takes to win her heart back, like, going back to good old days where he would court her, give her flowers, send her love letters, go on dates, cuddle her, show her how much you mean to her,AND the stuffs which made her realize that she accepted your nephews proposal for marriage. Don't give until YOUR nephew has tried EVERYTHING, and I mean "EVERYTHING".
to do this it would take him at least 2 to 3 weeks, and if it doesn't work out, Atleast he would not say to himself or regret that he did not try.
by now he should realize that there is nothing he can do but accept the fact that his wife is ....., you get the picture right?
you can't force someone to love you back, but you can try until you realize it that there is no other way than to let go...
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Her wife loves him before. So, he can still win her back.
He just have to know what made her wife fall out of love with him. From there , he will know of what to do , to win her back to him.
@Mashnn (4501)
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27 Nov 11
Let your nephew understand that there is no way he will force to be loved by his wife and even if he tries very hard, the wife my dissapoint him sometimes later. He just have to be strong to move on incase anything happens. This will not be end for him to fall in love.
@amybaby (17)
• China
28 Nov 11
Hi Carpathian,i think the first thing your nephew need to do is to make clear why her wife didnt love him anymore.Anyhow they have been together for years and have two babies.the girl should have feelings to him.Just solve the problem between them and try to make her happy,make her love him again.Try your best.God bless you.
@Lord_Perv (34)
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27 Nov 11
There are many reasons that a marital relationship fails. 80% of divorce in the united states if often related to money problems. So find the cause solve it and make it work.
@ASHUDEEP (1774)
• India
27 Nov 11
tell your young nephew to ask her wife that how deeply he loves him .and try to make her happy by doing work of her interest and try to give a wonderful gift and in this gift write a letter how deeply he loves her.so by applying this i think your problem is solve.
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
I don't consider him as young anymore. He's already in his early 20's and people at that age can already make a decision. The fact that he is already married and has babies tells me that he's mature enough.
Anyway, if I were you, I would not go in the middle of this. This is their problem and they should be the one to fix it. He loves his wife so much, so in my opinion, whatever you say to him would not register in his mind. If you tell him to let her go, he would not do that since he loves her. Just let him be. Wait for the time he realizes that he's only wasting his time in his wife.
The only thing you could do for now is be on his side. Be a listener. If he's voicing out his feelings to you, listen and comfort him.
I hope they would be okay soon. Good luck.
@andy4pinoy (298)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
It takes two to tango, Love begits love this are just few phrases that we could compare with this kind of problem.
Tell your nephew to talk to his wife but don't tell him what his wife was telling you. This is a personal issue that both couple should try to settle. Sometimes love is unfair, but if the two partners talked and renewed their relationship, re-examine their true feeling with each other and I guess clarify what went wrong.They could perhaps save the marriage relationship.