Like Mother Like Daughter
By p1kef1sh
@p1kef1sh (45681)
November 27, 2011 2:03pm CST
There is a saying that before a man marries he should look at his intended's mother because she will end up like her. My MIL was a very cheerful, slightly crazy lady. Friendly and always chatting to strangers. She was much loved and is very much missed. The more that I look at my own wife, the "Boss" as I call her, the more that I see her mother. This friendliness pays dividends though. Taxi drivers pick her up for free. People stop me in the street and say how kind she has been. I married my MIL!!! Did you?
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@ellie333 (21016)
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27 Nov 11
I actually really like my ex MIL and I guess in many ways we are similar although my ex husband would say that if I was the last person on earth he would rather become gay lol - he doesn't mean it as we do get on these days but probably meant it at the time. Your are so very lucky to have such a lovely 'boss'. huggles Ellie :D
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@pumpkinjam (8754)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 11
Well, speaking as a woman, I would like to think that I would NEVER turn into my mother. As you know, she is not a cheerful, friendly, chatty lady. She's an evil crocodile and I don't want to be like that. My other half has told me I was like my mum though but that's usually when I'm nagging him because he thinks it will make me stop! If I grow up, I intend to be the opposite of my mum!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
1 Dec 11
I guess my hubby is lucky I am nothing like my mother, total opposites really. I on the other hand didn't like my mother in law at all..Seriously and I am glad my hubs is nothing like her. I would loved to had a mother in law such as you described..
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Nov 11
hi pikey my mother in law lived in 'washington state,we lived in California but I met her twic e and she was the kindest, gentlest person so I saw here my husand got his ways from . she loved to help people so did he and strangers were always friends to her, and he was the same way.When I was ill a few times I was babied and pampered and thought oh my G how fortunate I am to be married to this man.
He was so much like his mom,his dad did not figure much in his life as his parents divorced after the last child was born His dad threw money around then would be broke long before payday. My husband obn the other hand was very careful with our money.He was not at all like his dad. thank goodness for that.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
That's very lucky of you pike, that you actually have a kind mother-in-law. Seldom would husbands like their mother-in-laws. They would usually consider them as bothersome.
I think, my husband didn't take a look at my mother before she married me.
But if he would have, i think he will still marry me, because my mother is a kind and happy woman too. She is down to earth and an understanding one. She maybe opinionated but would keep silent once told that what she is saying isn't feasible.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
28 Nov 11
Hi there... I'm not married yet.. I feel I agree with you. That is how it should be! I don't know when I'll marry, but I'll definitely keep this in my mind. Marriage should be happy one, cheerful and full of happiness... If it is not then whats the point in marrying.
Thank you!
@littleowl (7157)
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29 Nov 11
It is true both male and females alike base our relations on our parents. They were the first male and female in our life when we were born, therefore become our first role models of how we should be when we grow up.
The same goes for our relationships, we tend to have the same kind of relationship with our girlfriends and boyfriends as our mother and father did. So you mum and dad must of been very gentile, kind and loving people.
Hugs
LoLo
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
I agree with you that mother like daugther.. coz the first thing is she carry her daughter on her womb nine months.. how she became not like her.. Hehehe...
Mostly almost xerox copied. The same thing with Like father like son..too. They are the same too, copied too.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
a pleasant day p1kef1sh,
what you have been experiencing and witnessing is somehow a part of the general rule. as the many are saying, generally, like mother like daughter. hence daughter grows following the footsteps of their moms. and in every general rules, there are exceptions.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
28 Nov 11
Wow I had heard of this before but never really thought it was true. So basically when I grow old I will turn into my mother? And I have also heard that the way a man treats his mother is the treatment the wife will get after marriage. Is that also true?
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
28 Nov 11
Well I am a woman but when I see my mother in law is like I am seeing my husband, they talk in the same way, make the same sounds between phrases,say the same things when are driving and a bad driver show up! they are very similar my husband doesn't believe me when I tell him but I can see it.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 11
Haha... I would certainly hoped that my girlfriend would be like her mother when we get married later. Her mother is a kind, loving and responsible mother. She took care of my gf and her siblings very well. Providing almost anything that they need. On the other hand, her mother has been a good wife. She cooked for the family, making sure that the husband's needs is fulfilled, she even waited by his side whenever he has to meet people or have his late meals. How lucky would I be to have such a wife .
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
For me yes it is not much to do with that way because I half like my mother and half also like my father.
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
27 Nov 11
Yes and no...LOL My husband is a lot like his mother in some ways, but not in others. He has her kindness and sense of humor, her strong work ethic, manners and respect for others, but that's where it ends. My mother in law can be ditzy some times. God knows I love her but she's funny. She is child like in so many ways and she drives me crazy when it comes to shopping because she can never quite make up her mind which is infuriating most of the time. My husband is the complete opposite when it comes to being scatter brained or things like shopping. Like most men he hates to shop and can't wait till it's all done wheres we can finally head for home....LOL