Real Happiness is in helping others.
By capinoarnel
@capinoarnel (86)
Philippines
November 28, 2011 2:12am CST
That's the title of my oratorical piece back in my high school years. Yeah, I'm one of those who used to memorize oratorical pieces and speeches, do school competitions and trying to win not only for the pride but also for the prize. :) But seriously, this piece or the title itself is still instilled in me even up to now. Most will say that everyone has their own definition of happiness,its relative. But I observe that when you do your share and extend your assistance to others, everybody seems to have a same feeling of fulfillment. And I believe, when you're satisfied, you feel happy. That's all. thank you. Bow! :)
8 responses
@andy4pinoy (298)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
I do help others, I feel like this is one of my calling. I just can't turn my head to those you need my help (those obviously needly).
I am thinking that if I'll die this would be one of my legacy that people will always remember me. I do share what I have specially to the people close to me. I send 2 of my cousin to school and my nephew and nieces too. I do hope that one day they will have a good future. I am hoping too that one day they will do the same helping people.
@andy4pinoy (298)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Hi capinoarnel,
Thank you my friend. I just feel it helping people specially those close to me. I feel like I'm guilty if I couldn't help them when the fact if I can.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
I had the same instinct as yours, that you feel actually bad if someone close to you ask for an assistance and you beg at first,but deep inside you're struggling to bend the beg thing because you know you can give that hand. So you're ending up,still helping them. I think this is your core value. Its within you and it will always be in you.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
A good samaritan indeed!. I commend you my friend for being like this. I am sure that they will remember you for doing noble acts. How lucky those people who are close to you and those you have helped. very inspiring!
@JER616 (545)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
I'm happy for you that you feel that way. Actually, your feeling is Biblical since that is the essence of being alive:
"Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the duty of all mankind." -- Eclesiastes 12:13
"Let us not become weary of doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers." -- Galatians 6:9 - 10
I am urging you to find a group of people who share the same feeling with you. You may find their website: www.angdatingdaan.org.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Thank you for the Biblical verses you have said. Indeed,its more meaningful to do things not just for yourself but for others as well without expecting anything in return. Hope that we all continue doing this,because I believe its not exclusive to some,its in all of us,that being helpful. We just need to tap it once in a while.
@JER616 (545)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Yes, I share with your view that being good is "not exclusive to some". The website I gave is not an implication that doing good is not exclusive to the group of people I mentioned. Since you enjoy being helpful to others, you may find other people who share the same joy of doing that. Please try visiting the site.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Noted. I am paying a visit right now. May I clarify too that I don't pertain to the website you've mentioned about the 'exclusivity' statement I wrote,its more of a general line of thought. Anyway, thank you for giving me feedbacks and references and I felt that you are guiding me in this interest of mine. Have a great day bro!
@GemmaR (8517)
•
28 Nov 11
I think that you're quite right when you say that you can indeed get a lot of happiness from helping other people. Only today when I was in the supermarket, an elderly lady dropped something on the floor and I picked it up for her. This made me feel good because she was so clearly grateful for what I had done for her. I often leave change in vending machines when I leave them, because this means that the next person will be able to get something for free, and this will hopefully put them in a good mood for the rest of the day.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Well said my friend! Those little things,in our point of view, may be of big deal to others especially if we do it sincerely. I am sure of the joy you felt when you helped the elderly woman, but she feels more than happy you did that to her ,I bet. Its seems idealistic, but if all will have the same view towards sharing, I think, we will have lesser negative vibes in the world.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
29 Nov 11
Yeah,everybody just had their own happiness,and i'm really enjoy the feeling of helping others.It's really great that i can try my best to help other people when they encounter problems,so i always choose to be volunteer.Have a nice day and hope you also enjoy your happy life.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Have that great feeling my friend over and over again. Keep on inspiring other on whatever good deeds your showing to others. Selfless is what they call it. have a great day too!
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
helping other to conquer themselves and not by just giving money or food to the poor...
no such people are poor on this world if they only conquer themselves...
it doesn't matter if someday that person you help become as successful as you are,
the most important is you help the person conquer himself...
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
just like the saying, " give them fish,and they will last a day..teach them how to fish, and they'll last a lifetime", something like that. Yes, I agree on that. If someone asks for help or we really intend to help them fully, we must not just give temporal solutions (although this is much appreciated also), but we impart them skills that will guide them to fully recover on whatever they are having,and perhaps,do the pay it forward ideals.
@MizTeacherLady (37)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Nice. My oratory piece was Apathy: Another Epidemic. Was one of us a little more cynical than the other? :) Really I think we were both on the same track, though mine was a lot further in the past than yours. Both trying to get people to care, to find goodness in humankind. I hope more than not, people are working toward the greater good. As you said, fulfillment comes from personal satisfaction, and that often comes from service.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
An inspiring words of wisdom from you mam. See, this is what I'm trying to point out, even in just relaying inspiring statements just like what you did, can make an impact to someone who hears and understands it. Thank you mam. Well,its really a high hopes in seeing that everyone works for the greater good.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
You are very right indeed. You will always find happiness by helping others. In fact, that is the reason why I became a rescuer. I took up accounting way back in college. But during my second year, I joined a volunteer rescue group. I realized that there is indeed happiness in helping people so and so that after graduating from my accounting course, I decided to concentrate on rescue work and joined the rescue unit and became a paramedic. I stayed with the unit for 13 years. Well, now, I no longer work with rescue but I still conduct training to teach people on saving lives and helping others during emergency. Still, I find the joy from deep within.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Congratulations my friend! I can feel your sense of fulfillment. Working for 13 years in a rescue unit and still continuing by imparting what you have learned is really commendable. You're an inspiration to many and a proof that one can have that joy and real happiness by sharing themselves to other.
@capinoarnel (86)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Thank you haopee. As I've said, we all have our shares on this, we may not notice it or consciously do it, so we all deserve a pat in the back. But for those who have not, don't force it just to experience it, I mean, it should come out naturally.