how do you get your mind off of unpleasant things?

Hello. I'm sorry about everything you are going through. Everything would be alright soon, don't give up. Each one of us has our own way of coping to hard times. Mine would be playing with my cats . They are my bestfriends. I don't know, but whenever I'm with them, I always forget about the bad things that happened to me for that day. Maybe it's because of their cuteness or whatever. What I know is they are the ones who always cheer me up when I'm down. Maybe you should get a pet too. Whatever way you can find to 'get your mind off of unpleasant things', you know that it would be temporary. After some minutes, this dark feeling would creep back in your heart and would make you feel lonely. I guess the best medicine for this is time. Time would heall all your wounds, just wait for it. It might take months or years but after that, you will be a stronger person than before. I would pray for your better situation thatgirl. I hope you'll be alright soon. Good luck to you.

Do things that are of interest to you. Go out to your friends and enjoy their company. Lastly, do Mylotting!

Well... As a Zen practitioner, I get my mind of unpleasant things by focusing even more on them. You cannot really fight the mind once it gets on to things that we'd rather not think about. In Zen we view them as visitors into our awareness that won't go away until we have at least acknowledged them. As a therapist, I have always recommended to my clients that when something disturbing comes to mind, that they just focus on all the thoughts and feelings of "what if" or dread, as strongly as they can, and just watch them disappear like toothless phantoms. It always works, but it is a question of being will to feel worse, before one feels better. I also practice what I teach as I am not immune to worrying about things. If I find myself worrying, I focus strongly on it, and it disappears. Some worries take a little longer than others, but once the mind has been taken notice of by our awareness, it naturally drifts on to other matters in life, that could be more pleasurable. It is good to also talk to closed friends and/or a therapist, if the issues are particularly deep-rooted. Writing on a large sheet of paper - or word processor, all that you are worrying about without trying to censure anything that you are writing down. You don't need to keep your writings afterwards, as once it is come out of the subconscious mind, it tends not to get back in there again. _Derek

Well, I come in here and look for something humorous to help turn my mood, or someone who needs a verbal hug..anything to get my mind and mood turned towards thinking of someone but myself..Enjoy!

Thee was a time in my life when I was in a depression that happened 10 years ago. When I was the process of my divorce, I lost 50 pounds, I lost all my friends,and the love for myself. But i could recover from that getting a job, I used to work 7"00 am to2:00 pm and those were the only hours that was not crying or mad. So I decided to receive God in my life and I began to help children in critical situation which helped me to understand that I was not the only one with problems, and that instead of being sad for my pain, I had to be thankful because all those bad things that happened to were just lesson of life that O learnt and that now I am free of that because now I have the concius of never allow that nobody try to ruin my life. Another thing I did was practice exersices walking is good because it makes you don't think about bad things, it help you to see all the good things of the life.. I hope that I have helped you and you can do what I did to overcome of the problems.

Ah! i have the same problems. Sometimes i let things eat away at me and i keep telling my self to move on or forget about it but by keeping busy doing things i love to do or talking to someone i can trust (my bestfriend) usually helps me get things off my mind. i wish you the best!

You will be ok this is a part of life, ying yang I think they call it, must be ups and downs this is what makes us appreciate the good times in our life, every day is a new day so to speak, I hope things get better for you thatgirl...

Hi there... We're on the same boat... Even i'm going through the worst phase of my life... I try to do what I like the most... Like reading and myLotting... The key is to be busy with the things that we love the most... Take care... If you want you can write here when you're low and you'll get good advices... Good Luck!

that girl hi I have not had a great year either so am mylotting to get my mind of this tiresome retirement center and the fact that I am still stuck here . Also I listen to music and do graphics on my computer as those ate things that really make me happy.if there is anything you can actuall do to make your own life happy do that first but if there is not then find things you love to do and do that with all your heart. hobbies, or sewing,knitting,cooking,writing poetry,you name it and you do it. also take som time to volunteer in a hospital or a nursing home,or even a retirement center. you will be taken away from your problems and absorbed by other people.

Hiya TG, I would agree with Lara T. You can get to feel so lonely and in the darkest moments of your life. When I was about 11 was one of my worst years and when I lost my three Babies and no one seemed to care either and I had to see everyone with newborn Babies and me with a great loss. Not only that everyone asking me what had happened as well. Have also had to sell my own House twice let others go because of big problems caused by other People but you can come out of it all depends on the depth and the will you have to see the rough seas through. Lara gives some great advice very often its not a question of will power you have more strength when you can let it all be which can take a very long time to achieve. Its always great to have a shoulder to cry on as well if you have. I wish I could cheer you up more.xxx

Hiya TG, First of all sorry to hear that things have been so bad for you. I think most of us have felt like it´s been the worst year of our lives we have all been through one of those Years several times by now. You don´t forget everything right awayindeed you would be very fortunate not to suffer at all anything you would be like a rare gem. I would not challenge that situation because it will only turn into a tidal wave in the finish. Don´t try and sit on it either like swallowing your feelings cry them out throw things if you have to let all those negatives come up and go. I am sort of feeling like that now but I am managing it the best way I can and thats the way life is do what you can but trying to jump over it or get around it just like that is not as easy as it can seem. I talk to mine but they think I am from another Planet they don´t understand that wavelength at all so I just let them go and let them get on with it. One has just lost his Job and is angry at the World right now only normal and the other one is about to lose one of his Jobs too they both react the same.xxx Hope this helps not much comfort to say that there are so many People out there in the same boat. But even if we are in the same boat if we all row together we can try to make it a better situation I think.xxx

I always have activities that have deadlines. This keeps my mind fully occupied having no place for unpleasant things. And with time these unpleasant things get diluted making it easier to handle them if at all I make up mind to.

Life screen canvas has been painted so for most of us. It may be only 0.01% of human being who are born in a very good family, brought up in a very good way, lead a very good life and have no complications or problems. Otherwise life of everybody is a mixture of plus and minus --including mine --I was born in a rich family -- forced to lead a tough life on account of change -- got employment in government bank --lead a steady life --no ups and downs--But there are many known to me risen from rugs to riches and brought down to street from palace. How to forget unpleasant things -- Think of the plus points you have --look at people who have more problems than yourself --automatically you will feel happy. If we get food for one time a day only then we should look at others who do not have food even for one time a day.

The thing is to keep your mind so busy with other stuff that it forgets about problems...like me, when I'm sad, I go out, play rugby, read something, play games...just do as many stuff that interest you that you can in your time and in time you won't be thinking about any bad stuff, and they do come again to your head, just do something else. You'll find out that not only will you be happier, but also more productive, when instead of doing nothing and getting depressed, you take up a book and read it.

When things are overwhelming for me, and things all seem to be going wrong, and all I can seem to do is think about them and stew, I write it down. I don't really have anyone to talk to about the things that are bothering me, so, I write them down, and the more I write, the better I feel, and the better I feel, the more objectively I can approach the situation. Then, I am able to move forward with a feeling of release and as if I just unloaded a ton of bricks off of my shoulders. Sometimes, while I am writing things down, I see where maybe I am taking things too hard, or where there is a simple solution to a problem that seemed as if there was no solution at all. It is like looking at things from a third person's perspective. Once I am finished writing, I rip the paper into tiny pieces and throw it away. This is symbolic to me and I feel like I am getting rid of the problems. Of course, I know that I still have to take the steps to get through the problems, and move forward, but, by writing them down and then throwing them away, I am mentally destroying my own negative thoughts and am able to become more positive, thus, making things easier to deal with and making it easier to focus on other things in life.

Lets go hit a club or 2 sweetie. Drown our sorrows and unpleasant things with vodka. We might feel a bit delicate tomorrow, but at least that will be something else to worry about. Now get your shoes, i'm waiting.

hello there. i am not promising you that my advice will help you a lot. do something that will divert your attention from thinking of your problems and concerns.when i am preoccupied thinking with my problems, i sometimes listen to my favorite songs or watch a movie.i like doing these things and it has worked for me.

I feel you girl! 2011 tested the best out me, really! What I do when things get rough on my end, I just eat, listen to music, go out then take pictures of lovely scenery! It works for me.. Hope it works for you too! After doing those things, I just kinda forgot what I've been through! Good luck!

Same here, 2011 is really a hard year for me.. Maybe it sounds weird, but if I have to much unpleasant things in my mind, I will write all of those in a piece of paper and re-read it many times. I highly realize that if I have many problem, I can't run from them. I have to face and solve them. Or at least, I should make sure that those things would never happened again. Well, by the time I re-read and re-read it many times, that would be really a hard time . But later, I may found some solution or just simply realize something. And then, after that, everything seems better for me..

Honestly I go through periods of time where I feel like this and the best way I handle it is go to some secluded place, a park at night, a meadow, an orchard, the woods, any place lonely and secluded and just clear your mind, maybe have a good cry. That usually helps me clear my mind, but then again I'm kind of a loner, so it may or may not work for you.