Tell Everything or Almost Everything?

Philippines
November 28, 2011 7:38pm CST
Must you be completely honest, and tell everything to your lover? No secrets kept, and pure transparency? ..Or are there things that you do not wish your lover to know, because it's not worth knowing? Would you tell everything to your partner? Do you tell everything to your partner?
11 responses
• United States
29 Nov 11
Okay so here's my take on this. It depends on 1, how long you've known eachother/been together, 2, how close you are (whether your partner just keeps the other side of the bed warm, or if they're close to you), and 3, whether or not they need/want to know. If you tell them you wanna talk about past relationships, and they say they don't need to know your entire past to love you, then let it die, but if they actually wanna know, then tell them. Honestly, your partner doesn't need to know how old you were when you had chickenpox, it's not important, but they do need to know whether or not your allergic to something, does this make sense? You do need to be open with your partner, but they don't need to know every minute detail of your past.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Hi Sapphire_brean13! I get what you're saying. Past is passe. But, what about things you do now? Not necessarily just about the past. How bout.. More of the present? the, where-have-you-been or what-did-you-do-today things, you know?
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
You don't actually need to tell everything to the person you love. Remember that he or she is still not your married partner so there are tendencies that you will be separated. You have to keep some secrets for yourself.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
For me no specially if I think he get angry I keep close my mouth.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
No, I don't think that I will tell everything to my partner. I will keep some for myself. Because every body has his own secrets. I don't think your partner will tell you all his secret if you tell him all, too.. So what for? :D
@romzz05 (572)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
if married then you must tell almost everything to your partner especially money matters.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
29 Nov 11
I don't think I could tell hm everything. I think every person in the world has his/ her own world inside their minds, and there are things we prefer to keep for ourselves. I am also very introvert, and I can't express my feelings so easily. But, however, I believe I communicate very well with my partner.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
I believe i am always about 90% honest to my partner. i do not usually tell him the things i am seeing or hearing or doing, like the time i ate, etc. but i think pretty much every details that is important for me to tell him, i let him know. like what i am feeling, what i want to let him know, such details. :D
@allknowing (137822)
• India
29 Nov 11
Everyone needs space and that includes lovers. As long as those secrets do not harm anyone there is no point in blurting them out. No matter how close you are there is always something that you and only you should know.
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
No I don't. It's not that I'm fooling my partner. I'm keeping a part of myself for myself. There are some things in this world that is best kept to ourselves. And besides, telling our partner everything will not make a relationship to be any better. Trust is what's important.
@bb_gabs (205)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
If you are already husband and wife, I think its really a must not to keep secret to your partner, because you can fix things up together if you both know what is happening with your partner and it will help you understand more about your partner.
29 Nov 11
Yesterday a friend just havethis kind of discussion . And I will say that again . We must keep loyalty to our lovers , but it doesnot mean we will told everything to our lovers . For example , there may be some secrets in our word ,should we told this to her ? Absolurely not , we should keep this in our mind . But to other topics , maybe yes . This depend on different circumstances .