distant friends....
By SandeeE
@SandeeE (346)
United States
November 29, 2011 12:09am CST
I have noticed the older I get and less into partying and drinking the more some of my friends begin fading away. I know it's not necessarily thier fault as it is mine for changing. But is it bad? I don't feel so. I think that they as adults should grow to a maturity that they too need to spend more time with thier families and friends and be more responsible. We have had our time to party and drink out of control and as adults it tends to lead to domestic violene, dui's and jail time. It's pointless and a waste of time.
It's okay to watch a football game w/friends and enjoy beer and food. Or to go dancing a few times a month or at least once maybe. But for most of the friends I have no matter how few they drink or how much they always make for a bad, drama filled night. I never go out and enjoy myself all night because I end up babysitting the drunk ones or having to make sure everyone get's home safely because the DD usually ends up drinking too. It's just pointless. I end up withdrawling from my friends and some just stop inviting me to go out or I them and we loose touch. It's sad. : [
2 responses
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Hi SandeeE,
It appears what is happening is that you are changing, and following a different path in life. I don't know if I would categorize it as you are maturing and they are not. I would say that you are proceeding in the direction that you want to go, while others are going in a different direction. It has happened to me as well; I am not into parties and going out drinking like I used to in my early 20's.
But you will soon notice that you will make new friends, ones that share the same direction in life as you do. I would definitely not say what you are doing is bad, nor would I feel sad about it. If your friends are doing what they consider exciting, then some of them may feel bad as well as they are thinking you are missing out on the fun. Neither you or your friends are missing any fun, you are just finding it in different places.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
30 Nov 11
Hi SandeeE,
I totally agree with you, as I would not consider anything that you described as "fun". Any activity that causes a person to ignore their responsibilities can't be considered fun. Leaving your children with babysitters and then getting drunk to the point that your ability to care for those children when you get home is called into question is simply abhorrent behavior. When you abandon friends on the side of the road, or passed out on some corner, you are not being a friend to that person at all. We all have life changing experiences, and we must respond to them accordingly. Sometimes those changes dictate that we leave our old ways behind us. As you say, they need to examine themselves, and change their ways, before it's too late.
