How can a person be happy when they live in a city they hate?
By thedataminer
@thedataminer (515)
United States
November 29, 2011 8:46am CST
I made a big mistake here recently. I should have listened to some people's good advice they gave me when they told me I shouldn't do what others want and I should live where I want to live. Well my first mistake or my 2nd mistake I should say was I moved to a small town near northeast TN. I was there for about 1 year. Living there got me very depressed as I was not happy, or satisfied, with my choice. So early November I relocated back to IL where I lived for over 30 years. There were a few reason I moved back here and believe me I wasn't thinking of myself when I moved back here. Now I wish I had just been selfish if only for self preservation sake and/or for my own mental well-being. So this entire month has been very difficult - difficult financially - difficult because the unit itself is not great (dirty and dumpy) and mostly difficult because I just don't want to be here. But my landlord here (a former landlord) let me move in this place without a deposit and only paying him a small sum of money until the housing assistance kicks in hopefully by Dec 1. My adult son is with me and he's not happy either. If we were to try to move we'd be broke all month with barely any money to live on - if all our money went to housing (or to a cheap motel). I hate it here. My mental state is not good. Plus I suffer migraines and I been having them very bad of late; I been having them daily since I got here. Any suggestions?
3 responses
@freedomcat (90)
• China
29 Nov 11
Try to get it over .You can find some part-time job which can help to change your mental state,besides,find the place you live something interesting.Life is such this,it is not sure what we will meet in next mimute,try to clear your mental space and keep a positive mind,you'll feel better rather than depressed in the situation now.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Yeah, I'm trying to get over it but I can't help my feelings of disappointment. And it's my own fault for not being able to make my own decisions and letting my son who lives with me run my life (so to speak). I really need to begin making that important vow to think of myself and my own happiness first because I need to be thinking about my health and my well-being.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Yeah your right and like you said I also need to find something interesting to keep me occupied until I get my next chance to try to relocate. As far as jobs I can't do just any kind of job plus there is not many jobs to choose from in this town. Anyhow I do plan to look. Thanks for your comment.
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
6 Dec 11
This is really a coincidence (seems you and I have a lot in common!) but I moved to a community in March of this year that I hate. Well at least there's a lot going on here that I hate. It was an emergency move, but we could have looked around more. Instead I followed my husband's advice and took this place. It is a dump with lots of problems and the landlord who ironically is a parent at my daughter's school is really good about getting his money but does not do any repairs. We hardly have any heat. We have troublesome tenants. I do get depressed about being here, but it is more complicated because of my husband being bipolar and a nuisance. I agree with the people that say make the best of it, clean it up, etc. I know a guy who did that to a place that was a total dump. He made it beautiful and homey. I also know how hard that can be if you have physical limitations (which I do) and a person living with you who makes more mess than I can ever clean up. I also have migraines and I recently started therapy for depression. One thing I recommend is spending some time each day watching or listening to something inspirational and/or soemthing that makes you laugh. It gives you a few minutes break from feeling down about your situation.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
25 Dec 11
Hi, I sent you a friend request but it's still pending. I'm sorry you hate where you live. I'm more talking about the city its-self then the actual rental unit. My place is very dirty and dumpy but what really gets me is the city I live in; I lived here for 31 years. I luckily got to leave but now I've ended up back here again. I moved back here thinking my family cared about me. I have 2 older brothers who I know care. My sister didn't invite us for Christmas.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
29 Nov 11
I can't imagine how you feel. I just love the town I live in, and I think it would be very hard for me to move somewhere else. But... if I had to, who knows? I think you should try to think more about the things that make you smile, enjoy the small things that make you happy. Stay around those you love and try to find comfort in them. Maybe you will be able to move where you want one day. Try to stay positive.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Yeah friend, I hear ya. You're so lucky to be able to live in a city you love. Yeah, I'm going to have to take pleasure in the small things in life for awhile now like Starbucks cafe Americano coffee. Thank you.
