Kids raised by grandparent/s are likely to grow/become spoiled brat, or not?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
November 30, 2011 1:08am CST
I am one of them.
No- not a spoiled brat!
My grandparents raised me since I was a baby.
I was a sickly baby and there's a belief here in our country that, a sickly baby should/must be separated from the parents to make her/his well.
So- it was done and it works somehow (coincidental or not- I do not know)
Another belief is, when a kid was raised by grandparents, they are likely to grow/become spoiled brat!
What do you think dear mylotters?
Have a great day everyone...
jaiho®
11-30-2011 3:07pm PT Wednesday
![](/Content/images/emotes/w00t.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
5 people like this
22 responses
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
30 Nov 11
I think it depends on the person. Any person whether it's the grandparent or the parent can spoil a child. It all depends on how they raise the child. Some parents were so harsh on their kids that if they take their grandchildren on they spoil them to the point where the kid can't do anything for themself but some keep the strict parenting. No one can really say yes or no to this because everyone is different.
2 people like this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hello SK,
Yes, that depends upon the one who raise the kid/s.
Even an uncle/auntie can spoiled a kid.
Thanks for your comment and have a good day ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
@smc1983 (23)
• United States
30 Nov 11
Hmm, not quite sure. I've seen spoiled kids that were raised by their parents. I think issues such as being "spoiled" goes into methods of raising, whether it be the parents or grandparents.
Maybe grandparents tend to be more lenient toward their grandchildren because of whatever circumstances have led them to becoming the primary parents.
On a personal note, my mothers mother ended up raising two of her grandchildren. My uncle and his wife literally just dumped their kids off at my grandmothers (disregarding their responsibilities as a parent). Being who my grandmother was, she took them in w/o hesitation and raised them. Both children turned out to be kind hear-ted people, and hard workers. They each are married now and have very loving families.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hello smc,
I, myself was raised by my grandparents.
Plus,I am the first grandkid in my mother's family.
I am spoiled by everyone, my aunties/uncles- but I am never become a brat.
I was hit by a slipper only once in my life coz I've did a good mistakes and worth the punishment.
It depends upon the way they raise and sometimes,there are kids no matter how their parents/guardian raised them in good manner
-still they come up brats.
thanks for your comment and welcome to mylot![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
so...you can never be mean and make your grandkids spoiled ones![](/Content/images/emotes/cheering.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cheering.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@johnvilmor09 (6)
• Algeria
30 Nov 11
i agree. i have a son which raised by my in-laws since i am working overseas. he is very spoiled up to this time. by the way he running three next year.
2 people like this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hello john,
It's fine to spoil our kids, but must not become a brat.
Your son is still young, but between the age of 2-4 are the most critical stage for kids.
That's the stage where our memory starts to develop and retain memories in our mind.
So, I suggest that,don't make your baby spoiled that much.
have a good day and welcome to mylot![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
1 person likes this
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
6 Dec 11
I don't believe that kids raised by grandparents will be spoiled brats at all. I think it is a shame these days that grandparents have to raise the children. Thats because everyone today has an extremely busy life and has no time for children. So, why did they have them in the first place? Thats the problem. I hope the children of today are able to change things in this world. Or at the very least, not get married and have children. Whats the use? Parents needs to take some responsibility here with their children. Not pawn it off on the grand parents.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
hello intertia,
Here in my country, some parents who works abroad or single mother usually leave their kids to the grandparents to take care while they are working overseas.
Most of these kids tend to become brats- spoiled with material things and less care/discipline I guess matter most and one reason why these kids grows to be brats. :x
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Grandparents do not have the energy- hehehe
but I am sure,grandparents love to spoil their grandkiddy![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
I believe on that... most children who were raised by grandparents usually grow up to be a spoiled brat. But I also believe that they grow up a good person.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
Uh uh...
I am a spoiled one..
but not a brat dear
I agree...101%
I am a loving person and soooo sweet ![](/Content/images/emotes/wub.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wub.gif)
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
Yah...
and...that's too bad you know.
I am used to get what I want..so,when someone says NO- I want to do like this
hehehehe
![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cry.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/angry.gif)
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
good to know you're not a brat and that you're loving and sooo sweet hehehe... ok, just a spoiled grand daughter... I bet she's giving you all you asked for when you're still young![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Dec 11
Of course there will be exception. In my opinion, most grand parents try to spoil the grand children. As when people grow old, they will become much more patient. And they will especially adore the grand children. And therefore, sometimes there is no principle. I still think that bringing up children is mainly the parents' responsibilities. The grand parents can give them help. However, they should not interfere much about their children and grand children. Otherwise both sides will be unhappy.
I love China![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
hello youless,
Yah, there is always an exception.
You were from China? ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
4 Dec 11
Partly, I guess it has a little touch of reality amiga. My brother was with my grandmother since elem and high school but when he gets older, he stays with me and I observed that he always want to get what he want. Later I found out that grandma spoiled him on some things... So there I understand why he was acting like that..and it's because he was used to be given what he wants or he needs.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
dear amiga,
I partly agree too, some really become a brat when spoiled and getting everything they want easily.
Miss you amiga...HAPPY HOLIDAY ![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
5 Dec 11
Hi jaiho: I really don't think this should be like that. People think the same in my country because grandparents usually try to give their grandchildren everything and make them happy but so does with some parents. It really depends on the character of the person who is raising the child the reason why some get spoiled and some others don't.
ALVARO
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
hello Alvaro
Long time no see my dear ,where have you been for so long :)
Anyway, glad to see you here once again.
I agree, it depends upon each character.
As I am also raised by my grandparents and they really spoiled me with material thing, but I was never been a brat.
Good day my friend and HAPPY HOLIDAY ![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Nov 11
I am not a spoiled brat
That is another reason I can afford to be a brat... You see, there should be at least one spoiled child in the family... just for the balance sake. Think - if there is no spoiled brat... who will keep the neighborhood aware that the family has kids
... and also, the parents and elders will find no one to shout or scream at
Now? Do I fit as your brother?
![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/rofl.gif)
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Just some of them will be so~(^^)
Since there is no more small kid here, and all the children are grown up the grandparents will likely to spoiled every grandchildren they have.That is what my sister said to me why my mother dislike to scold my sister's children if they did wrong as they are the only kids here while she might scold us if we did so when we are young. But it only happen in some family. I believe that there are some grandparents who being strict with their grandchildren~(^^)
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
Yah,only some my dear.
I also do not believed that all become brats after being spoiled.
Yes,I admit, when it comes to asking/wanting things, grandkids can have it easily when they asks from grandparents...but this doesn't make all grandkids become brats.
Have a great day always ![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
hi jai,
I am not sure if I am a spoiled one but I am brat
When I was young my cousin used to spoiled me a lot
My parents they give me almost everything but I need to work hard on it
miss yah
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/rofl.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
@francesca5 (1344)
•
30 Nov 11
i think it extremely unlikely that all children brought up by their grandparents turn out to be spoilt brats, i am sure it depends enormously on the grandparents, some are probably better at bringing up children than others, a bit like parents.
these beliefs develop because they are an easy way for people to understand a complicated world, an awful lot of them have no basis in reality, though some, obviously, are created because there is a tendency for what a belief says will always happens to happen quite often.
but i do not believe that all children brought up by grandparents are spoilt, and i am sure you aren't jaiho.
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hello francesca,
oh thank you dear (^_^)
I always oppose, yes,I am not a brat.
I admit I am a spoiled one, but not a brat.
My grandparents always reminds me of good ways, how to respect everyone.
My grandpa keeps telling me this
"to gain respect, you must/always show respect first,even with younger people than you are"
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 11
My dear sister jai, I think it all depends on the particular grandparents. In general grandparents can't be too strict with the children as they become so soft when they grow old and also they think they don't have 100% rights on the grand children... the saying may be true..
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
dear anna,
You will get to know it once you have your own grandkids dear ![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
1 Dec 11
Dear my sister,
There is some truth in the saying.
I am not raised by grandparents but I enjoyed their love too. Our family was a joint family till I reached the age of 7. I still remember how they saved us from scolds from mother. My granny had taken me with her when she visit her home even there were working days for school and my mother got disturbed on this. But I enjoyed the vacation (lol). Now I realized how my mother felt in that time. She didn’t have any voice infront of her MIL. ![](/Content/images/emotes/blink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/surrender.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/blink.gif)
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
dear sis,
I am sure we will get to know how it is once we become a granny ourselves ![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Nov 11
jaihhot I just d o not think so as all. Most grandparents exert
some guidance and also much love. if loving is spoiling then I
will eat my hat, which I do not even have. lol. no being loved'and well cared for does not equate into growing up a spoiled brat.'spoiled brats have parents who give them stuff rather
than real love thus spoiled brat.being lovingly cared for
is not spoiling spoili9ng is when kids are giving things and more things in place of caring and loving..![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
dear Hatley,
Oh,I love to be spoiled with too much love,care and attention
and promise- I will never become a brat
Yes, ma'm, most parents/grandparents want to give love/stuff and everything to their kids- which is a must and parenting/obligation.![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Oh my dear Jai sis, i never been raised by my grandparents, so never know how spoiled i will be by now. But, i do always heard even from my friends that grandparents usually likes to spoil their grandchildren due to too much love in their hearts. They not sure how to use their love to take good care of the children and ended up, spoiling them. I think nowadays not only grandparents but some parents also do spoiled their children as well. The most important is, the way how the parents or grandparents educate the children.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hello sis,
I am beginning to understand now the reason why grandparents love their grandkids.
It is their way of patching up the lapses with their kids.
It's like, they want to make up whatever they missed to give to their kids and fill it all to their grandkids- that results with spoiling those brats.![](/Content/images/emotes/glare.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/glare.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Actually here in my country, children who was raised by Grandparents are most likely to become spoiled because they are loved so much by them. My child is a good example for this. I left her to my parents because I needed to work in thee city. But when I decided to resign and be with her, I noticed that she is a spoiled brat. I wanted to blame my mother because of this because I saw how she give all stuffs that she asked from her. But I know I don't have any rights because I was the one ho asked her to take care of my child.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
hello junmae,
That's the trouble once grandparents raised their grandkids to become spoiled.
We- the parents cannot take control anymore.
We cannot blame our parents as well- but ourselves.![](/Content/images/emotes/doh.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/doh.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hello Iemon,
Yes, that all depends on how a guardian raised their kids.
Even if the parents or grandparents did their best, if a child turns into a brat...that was the sad part though.
thanks for your comment and have a good day ![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
![](/Content/images/loading.gif)