Are you divorced ?
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
Indonesia
November 30, 2011 2:28am CST
Have you ever been divorced? How do you react when your partner invites you to get a divorce. There are several factors a divorce. One of them is less intensity meeting or in other words seldom met with a partner. What are your reasons for divorce with your spouse?
10 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
Well, if not against christian values I don't react about it. Because it maybe normal to someone else who is not grasp the Christian values.
Since I am a Christian and against divorce I really react so much and ask my partner what is going on...?
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@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
Okay. We don't have to react with what they are but what they are doing. Our reaction are reasoned if they are same as we are. I am a Christian as well I have been very disappointed with divorce couple to know they are divorce and they are Christian too. I would be very angry. do you angry if Christian divorced?
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
No, you've give me a lot of explanation which said how important our marriage be held up until we'd die for it. Thank You.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
I am sorry if not answer one-by-one of your comments here, my friend. But As I read your points you have same opinion about divorce and don't want it to be exercise in any means...
But there are some point that I disagree with that divorce is created to depend the rights of women against violence that inflicted of their partner...That maybe the purpose of the law but still I don't agree with divorce because this is against the law of God...
Both husband and wife must be consider Gods commandment in terms of marriage before they promise to live together to avoid such things(divorce). If they both fear of God they never never do any violent things to each other
@humaira12 (149)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
I have never been married let alone divorced, but if you break up,I never leave my lover,after I thought he had never undergone serious relationship with me, so I leave him
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@humaira12 (149)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
your welcome,, how about you :-) are you divorced?
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@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
i an very much single and never had a husband.
i would be devastated to hear the news... it would mean that my family would be broken forever... it's not really like people would be happy hearing this type of things you know... no matter how you tried to make it sound nice still it would hurts specially if it's only one sided...
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@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
I knew we sounded right to judge the one side, but there is no choice. People will speak up about the things that happened e.g divorce. It's not us who made divorce as part of our life, it's them, their chooses, they wanted and feel for it. They might say that we did not know what were talking about, but I did really know what I was talking about.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
I ever asked for a divorce to my husband. The reason is, because of another woman, and because I felt uncomfortable, with my husband did to me. But, for the sake of my children, and our family, I try to survive. Although it was heavy, I still have to be patient, go through all this.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Dec 11
Nope I have never been divorced if asked I would be very surprised and heartbroken unless my husband did something that made me get divorce papers. I would be civil for the sake of our daughter and how much we both love her. We both don't like divorce so I don't think we would be getting any.
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@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
I am separated but not divorced. I happen to come from a country without a divorce law. All we have is the annulment of marriage which is very expensive. I am for divorce in order that both parties will have a another chance at marriage. I have a significant other and my being married hinders the relationship. There are many reasons why a marriage fails but the most common that I know of is infidelity. Many will advise to take all steps at saving the marriage but it isn't as easy as that. If you have lost the love and respect, then there is no reason why the couple should remain together.
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 12
From one point, you were about what you said that there was no love and respect, there was no reason to still remain together. But, I think it's really important to pay attention what sort of problem that drive pair crazy that don't want to be together after they knew they didn't love or respect each other, especially if you said that we are coming from Christian member. Divorce humiliates the rules of marriage and God as well. So, I think I don't have a place in my heart to forgive people
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
There are many instances where divorce is necessary for a couple. I want to be free again because there is no chance whatsoever of a marriage being repaired if the husband has already another family, a partner and two kids. There is no reason why I should still love or respect him after all he has done to hurt me. I need a divorce not because I want to get married again, but to be free.
@magickat (381)
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1 Dec 11
My first husband and I got married very young and after 6 years had totally grown apart so mutually agreed to a divorce. It was still an emotional and distressing experience, but we got through it and are still friends now. I think it helped that no children were involved.
I married for the second time earlier this year and am hoping that it will last!
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@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
5 Jul 12
no i never been divorced, but i imagine if my partner invite me to get divorce, i will try to ask about her reason, why she want to get divorce.
if the reason is something that real and it is something inevitable, i will try to understand and grant what she want.
maybe the biggest reason why couple get divorce is less understanding each other.
if everybody can understand about their partner condition, there will be no problem that can disturb their relationship.
thanks, that is my opinion.
@bnsp09 (258)
• United States
15 Jan 12
I was abused by my spouse, in all aspects. Then his drunk butt threw me & his two kids (under the age of 2) out at midnight, after I asked him to get up & help me clean up the house.
I don't normally agree with divorce but if there is abuse or cheating involved I think that you need to get out of that situation.
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 12
Yes, you have to be able to find the solution if we have problem in marriage instead of divorce. Divorce is not the solution.
