What are the things you do when you are sad?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
November 30, 2011 5:48am CST
Do you ask for your friends to be with you and you ask them to take you out to enjoy the night? do you stay at home more and just watch the television? Or do you just tend to talk about the things that made you sad with your friends, family, etc?
As for me, i find myself more on the sulking part at home. I am such a thinking person so i would tend to over analyze the things i have been through and i would also be wondering what has caused me to be sad, etc, and i would even have regrets.
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17 responses
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Whenever I feel sad I will cure my sadness by my own.(^^)
I don't like to talk about it with other people as I know I am the one who need to come with a solution to settle it or cure the sadness. I have tried other method like talking it to other people or go for outing but it will just give me sort of temporary relief as the gloomy and sad thing will get into my head again. Like you I will analyze it why it did happen and what I have learned from it. Only then I will do other things which can bring happiness and just for me not to keep thinking about it too much.(^^)
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 11
Yeah, since there are so many people we can't easily trusted telling other people about my problem is not a good solution. Looking back at some problems that I have told them before, they always gave me an advice like,'you need to think about it yourself, you the only one knows what's the best etc'. I don't think such suggestion will help me handling the problem. We tell others about our problem not because we want to hear that words but mostly we want then to help us to settle the problem by helping us giving some solutions or opinions but if they keep telling me I should think about it by myself or just lend me their ears and then at other time the used such 'secrets' to attack me back, I don't think I will share my problems with anyone anymore as I know at the end I am the one who make the decision.(^^)
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
30 Nov 11
I tend to do all of these things. I'm similar to you in that I do over analyzing things. I think i do this because I want to try and really figure out what exactly is going on and why. At this time in my life I'm very sad about things that are happening in my life. My family life seems to be going in a completely opposite direction than I want it to go in. And most of it is out of my control because I can't control what another person does with their actions. It saddens me to see these things happen. So I too sit back and reflect on things and see where I made mistakes in my life. I like to spend time with family and friends who are there for me. And going out with friends does make things so much better. I hope that things in your life are going ok.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Yes, that is exactly right. I mean we ought to be thinking and we ought to figure out what is happening, hence there is always that particular time where we would need to think - sometimes yes we end up over analyzing things though.. which is what i am also trying to avoid myself. =( thank you for your response dominique!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 Dec 11
As I have been thinking a lot lately about my life. I've come to realize that it is best to listen to older ones who try and help us by giving us advice. That have been through a lot and know more from experience how things may play out in our life. I know for the most part the decisions I have made have been good. It's just so crazy that I took a lot of time and thought when making decisions that then were good decisions in that everything was right. Now though as time has gone by people do change and that is where the problem begins for me. I knew what i wanted out of life when i was younger and that has changed as I have gotten older. Unfortunately the things that my spouse wants has drastically changed. When we were younger we wanted the same things out of life and we had similar goals, likes and dislike. Now he is changing and that is taking it's toil on our marriage. But I will continue to work hard at keeping my priorities straight through this hard time.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
We're the same! I tend to sulk at home, alone. I don't like discussing the things that made me sad. I'd rather watch a movie or a tv drama or something. I'd rather write about what made me sad, anonymously. 
If I'm with friends, I don't talk about my feelings. I'm not a very open person. Sometimes I want to open up but I think I don't know how to start. 
If I'm with friends, I don't talk about my feelings. I'm not a very open person. Sometimes I want to open up but I think I don't know how to start. 
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
30 Nov 11
The sadness, unfortunately is a bad thing.
Sometimes in certain moments I happen also to me to be sad.
I do not so different from the usual thing, luckily for me, it's a passing thing.
However, I think that sadness is always more or less linked to some negative event in life.
This means that a feeling of sadness more or less severe depending on what happened
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
30 Nov 11
When I'm sad, i tend to lock myself up in the room and listen to my favourite songs, mostly depressing that is lol I also have a great best friend who is my sis and she is always ears whenever i have something to rant on. It helps a lot seriously to have someone you can speak to.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
When I'm sad,I usually eat my fave foods or sometimes go out with friends to have bonding time and have some fun.
@periwinklez (138)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
i locked my self in my room, i'm a loner :). like you i sometimes over analyze the things that's happening or has happened. as a result i can't help but cry. so pathetic!haha! i don't regret it's part of being human, i'ts a therapy also for me to think things over and find a solution for what's making me sad. And when I have set my mood already i play some upbeat songs mostly are gospel songs.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 11
Hi chiyosan,
As for me when the going gets tough, I would go to the gym and knock myself out. I seek for weariness by exhausting myself physically and mentally with long workout hours. This helps me to sleep and when I wake up in the morning,I am somehow able to look at things from a different angle.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
For me yes it helps but more in it is to prayed by Jehovah God so that things would be okay in me.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
1 Dec 11
I'd like stay at home and think about some happy things or just chat with my friends about the unhappiness.My friends alwasy support me and make me feel warm,that's why i feel friendship is really important.Everything gonna end and we just need a good attitude.
@lupeng (82)
• China
1 Dec 11
to be frank, when i'm very sad ,i did'nt want to anything .i will just stay in my bed, and want to sleep still the night.took me for now, my head was so sad now, i really didn't want to do anything ,but i have to work to support myself i have no choice. i just can to face it.and now ,i want to cry ,but my tears was dried. i have no tears to drain now.i heart was so tired. but i'm only 21years now,why do i have to suffer?
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hi chiyosan, when im sad i tend to confine my sadness to myself only while i can. I become silent and think by myself on how to overcome sadness. I divert and displace my sadness to a productive one like i preoccupy myself to practice cooking. I must admit that sharing our sadness to our love one's or friends is one key tool to lessen the pain and help through the acceptance stage. As for me, i always look at the other side of the coin on what the sadness brings into my life and take it constructively, to let go of the pain and move on.
@joymanzanilla (20)
•
1 Dec 11
I usually pray and open my Bible, it's not a religious routine but just seeking comfort in God's words, besides, among anyone, it's only God who knows everything about us. We cannot hide anything from Him.
@NatashaBird (640)
•
30 Nov 11
It has taken many years and much heartache but I have in recent months discovered what is, to me, the perfect cure for sadness. The recipe is as follows;
Ingredients;
-1 Vitamin String Quartet c.d. (their Linkin Park covers are amazing!)
-Assorted packs of Pocky in various flavours (Mikado will suffice if Pocky is not available)
-1 one snuggly arm-chair (cosy blanket optional)
-1 indulgent fantasy/romance novel
Put the cd in the stereo and press Play.
Make yourself comfy in the armchair.
Open the first pack of pocky; proceed to eat the pocky.
Read the novel.
I have never failed to smile when confronted by this combination.
Birdie -
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
I like where I work and I am free to go out have fun with people around me.
I love to walk and smile I do not like being sad and pouty because it hurts me terribly much.
I try not to think things over because many of them hurt and upset can go I always laugh and not looking so sad not to analyze things a lot.
nice day!
