Have you tried to go with a friend who will choose an item to shop for too long?
By bessyjanmayi
@bessyjanmayi (278)
Philippines
November 30, 2011 9:37am CST
I'm the leader for our team. I have three members. My job is to watch them, to help them to shop the things they want and to be a time keeper. One of my member is also my friend. Two of the members of my team were already in the counter. She told me If I can go with her because she will buy a formal sandal so I go with her. Our head told us that we will meeting by 11am at Mang Inasal Restaurant. We kept on roaming around the whole Sandal area but she don't like the style of all sandals there. After 30 minutes on roaming around, she likes one sandal. It costs 560 pesos. She told me that size is smaller compared to her feet. So I told her that we will approach the sales lady to find a size that would fit for her. Fifteen minutes passed, the sandal didn't arrive it. I told her that we are late already for the set time, and then she told that she still need to go to the bag station to buy a bag. I started to be annoyed but I was controlling myself. So I said okay, we will go there. I told the saleslady that we will come back for the sandal but when we reached to the bag section, she told me that she will not buy the sandal anymore. So I said okay, we will go to the counter now but then she told me she need to buy a slipper still, O My World! I was so annoyed, but still I go with her. I helped her to find a slipper fit for her, then suddenly she told me that she will not buy a slipper anymore. I was angry with her but I never show it to her. That is why I'm writing this to let it out. She never say sorry!
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9 responses
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
I like to shop but i always see to it that i know what i want before diving in to shopping.i don't want to spend too much time in looking around.if i will have my friend to shop with me in those behavior believe me,ill leave her to do it on her own while i wait for her eating my pizza on the pizza parlor.. :-d
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@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
For me yes why not so that you have bonding again and have talked to each other to get inspired of the day that can make you laugh keep up the good work.
@rkamurugy (279)
• Brazil
30 Nov 11
Don't worry, you are not the first and will not gonna be the last person in the world to pass through this situation, like oyu said it is annoying and stressing. I got a friend exactly like the person who you described, but since she is my friend i feel free to say to her when she is starting to be boring.
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@microengineer (587)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
I often accompany friends to shop when I was in Philippines. Since I also like to do windows shopping, I never felt annoyed. But sometimes we split. So it will not be so boring. If we always went together during the shopping, it will be take so much time... we always spend so many time spend at greenhills.
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
30 Nov 11
I met a lady in the grocery store. She told me she had nothing to do for the thanksgiving holiday. I gave her my number and told her to call me and I would come let her eat with us.
She never called. So I called her monday and asked if she would like to have lunch. Well she said she had not gotten out of bed yet etc, and I said I am in no hurry take your time. Then she said she needed to eat, so I said ok you go ahead and eat and get ready and then I will eat a sandwich here at home and we can go to Target when you are ready.
I finally got her and went to Target. She seems a nice person, but has no work, lives off her family and on food stamps (did I mention she is 62?) She lives in a small RV on a lot her mother owns. She says her money does not last from the food stamps, told me how bad it was living in her trailer, and finally I smiled at her and said, well you can look at it that way or at least you are not down at the homeless shelter with hundreds of others.
I stopped off by my home on the way back, so I could give her a home cooked meal of Turkey,dressing and baked beans.
She was so greatful.
But I guess she has been in this position for so long, she was so negative. I tried everything I knew to bring her up out of this but I guess if you have lived like this for so long,maybe you become bitter. I usually do shopping by myself and sometimes I would like to have someone to talk to but seems every time I extend a hand people are not the genuine kindhearted respectful person they should be.
Its a shame the economy has changed us so much with our perspective on life that we can;t even be happy when someone offers to take you somewhere.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
what goes around comes around, ever heard of the word karma lol. if you were really annoyed with her then why didn't you leave her in the first place, may this thing is not intentional, its just girls do change their mind quickly and in this case in the mall, there are lots to see and many to choose from so its possible to change one's mind.
but that doesn't the point here, both of you need to buy the things you need quickly because you are rushing into this meeting, so there's no way she should act like that, maybe then being the leader of the team you should know how to manage your members, eventhough she's your friend, still she's under your custody, it should not happen if you just told her to hurry because you were late for your meeting.
i guess being too quite in a situation you were annoyed won't do any good, you can say things in a way someone will understand your situation, since she's also your friend, you could have talk to her, then maybe she'll understand right?
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
I don't experience it with a friend but with my cousin.She really shop so long and too picky on things.I usually try to roam or look around then wait for her text i she is done.