Why do women be floor mats for men"

I think people here are misunderstanding you. What you are trying to say is that women should stay away from abusive relationships but people here think that girls should stay away from men altogether. it is against the law of nature and cannot, will not happen. There are still good men. I am one . Hope you get the point. Cheers.

There can be many reasons why a woman would let herself be put in that situation and stay. I've known women who were in abusive relationships, where the men treated them like dirt beneath their shoes, and they stayed for a variety of reasons - "He's not always like this!" "I can change him!" "He loves me, really!" "No one else will take me!" or, simply, "If I leave, he'll hurt me," or "I have nowhere else to go." Those are the only reasons I can think of off the top of my head, and all things that I've heard before. I'm sure some women, if they could, would leave, but they feel no other options are open to them in those situations. Most just display the typical symptoms and thoughts of battered woman syndrome.

There are a lot of causes that make a woman tolerate an abusive partner. In my opinion, a very significant factor is the education she received in the family and the culture she was brought up into. If she was taught to be submissive, she won't stand up for herself when a man treats her badly. She thinks that being assertive is inappropriate for a woman. Poverty and the lack of education don't give women any alternative to an abusive relationship. If she comes from a large family, with a low financial status, she won't be able to pursue a carrer, but instead she will be forced to get married and depend on her husband totally. Men think that women are their property and that they have the right to treat them the way they want.

Ofcourse women don't want to be treated badly. I think alot of women settle for these types of men who abuse and treat them badly because of their self esteem. They don't think they do any better. And they don't pick very well. And these type of men brain wash these women into thinking they deserve nothing else.

It is sad. But these women always learn the hard way. I have a friend in an abusive relationship she says it is only when he drinks I don't belive that. I have always wanted to be in love but I acheved that and am lucky to find a good guy.

It is actually a clear indication, contrary to what you have stated that women can't leave without man in our life, it is actually the opposite most men can't leave without a woman in their life. They were treating woman like that for them to feel that they were powerful than women, they treating them like that to hide their weakness as a person.

bjc66bjc I think they do this because they have very low self esteem and some seem to think love is like that and accpet it as if they did not know any better. I think some have come from homes where perhaps the moms were treated that way too or else they have abusive parents.so they grow u p thinking women are su pposed to be mistreated in the name of love. this is so sad ahi nd they need someone to make them understand that they do not deserve to be mistreated. that love is not supposed to be painful and parents who abuse children are bad parents. You are so right that we do not need an abusive man in our life. we have to know we must love ourselves first so we are able to show love to all around us.We must know we deserve men who love us and treat us well as their mates not their slaves. I feel parents should start the process by making their girl children aware that love is not being mistreated by anyone anywhere at any time.Parents must make their daughters aware that a man who pushes them around, verbally abuses them and physically abuses them is a potential wife beater and she should run,not walk away from him at once.Love is not hitting, pushing, shoving, making fun of a woman, mistreating in any way.That is only a controller who wants to make her bow to his orders. He is not loving her at all.

Alot of women are attracted to terrible men thats a fact. Its nothing anyone can do about it when a woman goes trough enough drama eventually they will catch on and realize the type of guys they are dealing with. On the other hand some actually like being treated bad but for the most part eventually they will learn on their own.

I agree with you. Women should have self-esteem and should redeem themselves from voluntarily submission and degradation. Women should be guided that men pursue us and it is clear that it is them that can't live without us, so why let them rule over us? We are a partner and not a slave. We are a wife and not a lover. We are not a possession nor a trophy so let those chains break and have liberty and freedom.

Well i can surely tell you that i agree . But after that comes a lots of buts . I mean of you are person like me that will sacrafice everthing for he person you love you will let her/him take advantage over you . About the terible treatment and abuse , noone no man or woman deserve that . But the lonely people and the way too addictive ones dont have much of a choice . Lets put it simply like me . I'm not with the girl i love for over 5 years now and i saw her like 5 times for the last 5 years , but i love her and even if she takes advantage of me i will be kind of happy , ye she might break my heart even worst or it can even kill me , but the happiness that can bring me for 5 minutes is somehow worth it .

Because religion made us that way. Before christianity came women and men were equal. There was a goddess and god. Since there is 1 thing women can and men can't (giving birth/life)the woman is a danger to men. So church decided to call Maria Magdalena a hooker Took away their rights, women knowing more were burned as witches (unless the church king etc found them usefull) they kept the women stupid (no education) to make it easier to manipulate them. It still works now a day. Since men are only stronger by body strength beating up your wife/agression is a good way too to use them as a floor mat and keep the independent. Parents (mothers) raised like that will do the same to their daughters. So is your daughter used like that you still tell her to stay with that guy. Because if she leaves you look like a loser as a parent. It still works like that nowadays. People still think women can't count, are bad car drivers, etc etc. Proved is they are not at all. We still give girls dolls, dresses and beats to play with. The ball and sticks the boy get. It's weird since there are cultures enough where women are soldier, are hunting, are arranging everything (esp. dutch women are famous to be more bossy but this is a history too. Our men always been sailors, farmers, on the road so we dealed with everything ourselves. We were in charge not the men). If you are a floormat depends on yourself as well. Do you allow that kind of behavour still in nearl 2012? Or will you stop this? There are also cultures where women are treated like goddess by men. Why? Because these men know the women is the only one who can give life. And life is important. So is the care and love you get. Which you won't receive if you are not able to give. If you can't treat your wife like a goddess you better don't take a wife at all. And yes I agree with you, if you don't love yourself first nobody will. If you don't think you are worth a good treatment, if you don't think you are that goddess, nobody will see you like that either. So in the end it's up to yourself how others treat you. It's a choice to be a door mat or not. If you choose not to be one, you will see you won't attrac that type of men eiterh.. the type with no self esteem and who thinks if he treat you bad he will look sooo much better.

I'm a man, and I agree with your sentiment. I think it's the media and social norms that try to convince women that they need a man in their lives even when they don't. Here's hoping we can change that mindset over time.

a women should live for her self also not for other also,she has her own life to do with what ever she wants she should she should get.and ever women has her own respect no one should have the right to spoil her image.

It truly is sad to see abused women but one must know the person is like that if they have been with them long enough therefore that person is putting themselves in danger i do think that every woman and man need a companion because no one needs to be lonely but i think people should not throw themselves at a woman nor man because they want someone in there life

I agree.If a spouse or partner treats you like a rug,you should not stay in that relationship and be tortured forever.I think women can be productive and will be more successful career wise without a man in their life.If a relationship or marriage can make you a bitter instead of a better person ,why should we stay on it?Love is suppose to bring out the best in you.If you are in that kind of relationship,just get out of it;the sooner ,the better.It's better to be single than to be miserable.

i did't know other parts of the world how does it? women's social status lower than wen. but now ,as the world development, the women's get better in social status.without the man , women can money money by themselves.if you are married , you won't be depend on your husband.as female ,we should love ourselves.