Adults and being too private (secretive)

I have had my grown up children living in my house every now and then but I never mess up with their business! that is for them to know and for me to keep away from it...after all they are adults...even if they are in my house I do respect their privacy as they respect mine...we don't keep many secrets from each others but we respect our own privacy.

what type of business?lol when it comes to my monkey businesses i would tell it to my parents. but when it comes to businesses of the heart i tend to be secretive. it's because they are never used to that and i am not used to that too. maybe they would know that i have a boyfriend when i will decide to get married.

I lived with my parents for a few years around that time, after various disastrous things that made me poor enough to need a bit of support from them. My parents never, ever looked through my stuff. Absolutely not. They were pretty awesome, actually - there if I needed them, always interested but never nosy, helpful, loving, all that good parent stuff. Couldn't have asked for better people, to be honest. I found that, after University and before heading to France, I was a lot closer to my parents. I saw them more as friendly adults than law-giving parents, so could spend time with them laughing and joking like with anyone else. It was a good period.

Hi! My parents both are consider quite a open type of person, they will not look into my stuff if it is lock inside the drawer. Unless I show it to them. And I think when I am younger, I tell almost everything to my parents, including what happens to me and my friends. As I growth older, I think I keep more things from them just because I think I need to keep something just to myself.

When i was at that age, i was living in a dorm because my job is in the city at least 45 minutes from our home and getting home is difficult specially when i have to do an overtime. Hence, because of that, my parents don't know my activities in the city. Though, they would advise me not to do this and that whenever i go home on weekend. Overall, they just let me live my own, because anyway i am already an adult. In fact, they don't like my husband then for me, but still i married him.

I am 20 and I share everything with my mom. Well not everything actually, there are some matters I don't like to talk about with my parents but I do share about everything with my sis.

well.. you must not be from India.. in India people stay with their parents life time.. most of them share their feelings, sadness, happiness with parents and family members.. :-)

I am 21 and still live with my parents just while I finish my course at university. When I have finished the course, I am hoping that I will be able to get my own place and move out of their home within the first year. I tell them a lot of things, but do like to have some kind of privacy as well otherwise I think that I would go mad. My family do not come into my room without me inviting them to, and this is good because it means that there is always somewhere that I can go in my house without worrying about being disturbed or anything like that.

hello webgirl, I am over 27 now and I was living independently from my parents since I was 18 years old. But I can imagine what you are saying. For sure, if I was with my parents when I was twenty five years old, she would go over some of my stuffs, or I would just keep it so that she wouldn't find it. I know she would be curious with what I do and I am secretive. Even now, she would often ask me where I am or why I am there, and I would just ask her why. I really don't like being asked always. Have a great day ahead of you and have fun mylotting!

LOL! My mom does especially when it's bills XD Then she confronts me with it. I'm 27 and I still live with my parents. I used to have this "I wanna live on my own and be independent" dream but I've outgrown it. True, I still want to have my own pad but I still love being around my parents (though my mom and aunt argue a lot). As for personal business, I tend to tell them what happened that day. Interesting stuffs over dinner and such but when it comes to personal problems (financial and.or love) I tend to solve them on my own. The time when I broke up with my BF of 4 years, I haven't told my mom anything but eventually she allowed some time to pass and when she noticed that I'm ok, she then asked me about it. Being over-protective... Well... My mom allows me to hang out with my friends (I'm 27 for Heaven's sake!) but there are times when she say "Get home early!" or "Watch your bag and look both ways before crossing) Maybe it's because I'm their only child so it's a bit difficult for her to simply let me go :P

i am nineteen years old and i think i am adul€t, tough many people think i am still a kid. i am secretive person, many people do not know about what i have done, about my life. they just see me from the outside, they do not know abour me, they only know 20 percent about me. From my parent,i am little open. i am just telling something that really important and relate to my parents, and the another still being my secret. i think become secretive person have good side. we can get what we want and another person can't bother our business. we can free without thinking about the other. but the bad side, we will get so many wrong about statement that really bad for us.

Hai webgirl, I am an aged woman even though i think too much involving their young children's matter is not a good practice.I don't like to ask my children (they are 24 and 26) always what you are doing. My mother in-law always ask me why you are doing this and that so i am not interested to disturb my children asking questions, because I suffered a lot, so I realize the young generations difficulty.

everyone has a privat space in life. but being too privat is not good enough. we need to share our mind or problem to others especially to the one that can be trusted so that it's possible getting some solutions or new ideas from another one. I like telling my business to my parents coz I love share my experience and getting new experience.

i think there are somethings which cant be told to parents so i think every teenager has some secret things that cant be told to at least parents... n my parents give me my space n dont search my things n thats the way it should be...

I know someone who is facing such problem. My friend who is 26 yrs old- and still treated by her like 13 yrs old. I have teen kids,but I am not guarding them like Jaworski. As long as I know where they are going and they will tell me about their activities -it's fine with me. I want to build a trust between me and my kids.

For me yes I'm secret specially if my parents don't want to be what I'm doing like married to my husband they get mad in him.

My mom would not ask me. I am the one telling her most about my life. I just wanted to share those private things about me and my love life. She's not only a mom for me, but she's like a best friend for me. Maybe one reason is that I don't have a sister to talk about such things. And I don't always have the chance to talk to my best friend.

I seldom tell stuffs to my parents unless it is really serious. My parents doesn't browse thru my stuff as they know it is wrong to invade my privacy. They are really very understanding :D