Annoying co workers - he said why does he have to do everything?

@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
December 1, 2011 12:55am CST
One officemate went up to me just this morning whle i was heating my food at the pantry. I was early so i guess he saw me come in and went to talk to me. It was really quite early for a complain especially we had a vacation yesterday due to a public holiday in the philippines. He said why does he always have to do everything for the team! And he seemed so upset when i asked him how the preparation was going on. He said that The team relied to much on him and ever since 3 years ago when there are party presentation it is always him that does everything, and so on.. why does he have to think of costumes, or songs to be used, presentation line up, party practices and he said he is always the one doing everything! Oh I got annoyed because it was so early and i just asked how things were going and I do not agree that he is alone doing everything - no way, because there were a lot of suggestions which he opposed during our meetings! Why does he have to tell everyone that our team is not helping him? We are helping him, and even downloaded some videos but he said those are just too hard to make! Hay i am losing patience, i wonder how i am going to deal with him...
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7 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
The best thing to do is- don't let this guy help the team. That way he will stopped saying he's the only one working for "a whole team" (complaining or wants flattery) Sometimes people are too hard to understand. If we do not consider them- they will come up complaining that the team ignored. If we give them tasks more than one- still they complain-they're doing tasks alone. Yah,why not try once to kick him off from doing task for the team- he might realized the team won't suffer without him.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
heheh thank you jaiho for your response, i can see that you have had an experience with such a person. Well for the past meetings, we have set up a time to discuss and he would come and say he is too busy, and has a lot of things to do, etc and that he is just not into this year's idea of a presentation because we ought to be doing something else? wow. that is quite surprising. i guess that is why most of the team mates are not interested in talking to him. I am basically the last one to still have patience in dealing with him, to be honest. but i am slowly being dragged away from that too because of what he was doing... and saying for that matter.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
I also agree with Jaiho. If he is like that, then maybe you can have him replaced by another one whose ideas are far more nicer than his. It seems that he always turn down others' suggestion. What does he like , his idea only. Oh please, if he is that way, then better replace him with a more capable and willing person.
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I had a similar experience at the past. What happened really was the person was so focused on himself, not realizing that other people are also doing some contributing of their own. And so I told him just that. I pointed out to him the things that other people did. After that, he just shut up. Served him right for being such a self centered pr?ck. [Pardon the pun]
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Nice to have you here in the discussion. appreciate your efforts, God bless and hope to see you around mylot! Cheers! Godbless you.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Well indeed you have good reason to get annoyed with that guy. He is a complainer! He is a man but he is like a whining puppy. Why can't he be happy that he can help the team and he can do lots of things for to team. Doesn't that make him feel very valuable? Instead of being happy that he is a helpful part of the team he keeps complaining and counting his tasks. My goodness, maybe you should just avoid talking to him. He could be contagious!
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Cheers to you! Thanks for your response in the discussion... appreciate what you shared here with us. see you around mylot, have a blessed day! =)
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
well, the corporate world is a challenging and complicated place to be. all kinds of people are there, even the most impossible ones! i deal with them upfront. as i said, i am a straightforward person but lately, i have learned to deal with them carefully. they can be our pain in the a**es someday.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
Cheers to you! Thanks for your response in the discussion... appreciate what you shared here with us. see you around mylot, have a blessed day! =)
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
I guess he think that he is the only one who's doing that because he didn't entertain any suggestions and help.Maybe he should try to be open for help and to other people's opinion.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
well maybe that is right. he is closed minded on the discussion which left all the others with no words to say anymore because they were all discarded. =(
1 Dec 11
I am sorry to hear that . I do not know what your job is so I can no give you specific solutions . May be you can tell him your team do the same hard work for your jobs . you can give him some evidences too . I think he want you guys pay more attention on him and give hime more pay . LOL
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
hehe i think what you said is correct that he only wanted to be the center of the attention. he is quite a personality to reckon with. he thinks he is really good at the presentation, and idea stuffs...
@Gram13000 (443)
• United States
1 Dec 11
Maybe its best not to talk to min that much. Sounds like he has a persecution complex and that is now good. He may never be positive about anything so its probably best not to listen to him and dont let his misery affect you. I hope this helps good day.