How to cope when left for the first time by someone whom you are used to be with

Oh so sorry to hear about it, i heartily know how you felt right now about him leaving so soon. Why i said so? It is because i also experienced such kind when every time my husband is leaving going back to the US for his work and to take some other things there, it feels like my whole world is just about to end but then again i know that whether I accept it or not, i have no hold to whatever comes along the way. I just have to tell myself that I needed to be stronger until the day comes that we will be together again.

It's really awkward and painful, if after 12 years of sleeping and waking up seeing your husband by your side, would suddenly be halted because of a job assignment. But because it is for his job, all you can do is support him . Let him experience being away from the family. At least, through it he will realize if he can withstand the distance or better get another job near the family. Meanwhile, while he is away, make yourself busy. Attend to the needs of the kids and keep the household well.

I think that it is very hard to get your head around the fact that your partner is going away for such a long period of time when you might not have been apart from each other for more than a few hours before, however if your relationship is strong enough then you should find that you will be able to do it fairly easily and you will love each other more when he comes home and the two of you are back together again. With regards to the kids, it's important that your husband keeps in contact with them as much as possible, because you can miss a lot from a child's life in the space of three months.

Its good to be emotionally attached to your husband but it is important to moderate your emotions for the long term interest of your husband's undertaking as well as the family's overall well being. One can understand it's a real dilemma but it is only by managing such dilemma objectively, can people progress. These are passing phases and if you endure them with a bit of determination, they just pass fast and togetherness with lot more happiness will be yours again. I have been through such situations and I'm right now in the midst of one too. But my wife has also come of age and she can endure that. I will be moving to a place thousands of miles away on Company's posting to a different city and she can't join me until about six months more. But,we can't let emotions take control of pragmatism, at least in bigger issues like this. See him off with a promise to be together again soon. You will have happier days ahead!

I can understand. I went through a similar episode som four decades ago - only this time I was the one leaving the nest to join a boarding school. Any way I got over it. So will you. Time is the greatest healer!!!

I know how you feel. But in a different situation because I don't have a husband yet. However, when I was young my mom actually had to leave us for 1 month because of work. My mom and I are really close. We eat, sleep and play together. Almost anything under the sun. So I was crying really hard, begging her not to leave. But She had. I studied really hard and make sure to communicate with her every night so that I won't miss her and everything went out fine and time became fast. You can actually do that too. Make use of that time to be productive and give yourself a treat or like make yourself more beautiful and sexy so that your husband will be really happy. :-)

wow 3 months thats too long. Im sorry I dont agree with him doing that family is more important. I would try and persuade him not to go.

i know it isnt easy but just tell him to communicate with you every now and then. be happy for him and be sincere. thats a test of life that you have both have to take. stay blessed!

Hmm... I can understand your feeling. I wonder how far your husband is going? is he very far from you for that 3 months? If it's not very far, I believe you will have the chance to meet each other. Actually, this may be a chance for you to know how much you love him and strengthen you feelings for him. You know, some claims that having married would reduce the excitement that one experience before marriage. Prove them wrong ^^

try to look for positive side of situation as possible,but don't let your self going down.have time with your kids as possible and divert your mind in other subject like playing with your friend