Is Being Alone A Sign Of Poverty?
By srjac0902
@srjac0902 (1169)
Italy
December 2, 2011 1:18am CST
Some people are scared of being alone. They cannot be without company. Who can afford to seek company? At times associating with others has a consequence of give and take. Today most of the Parents have only one child and they lack company. Parents introduce them to their friends children. Today the social relationship is more with the friends rather than with those who are family relatives.
Many have been succeeding in building up wonderful relationship with the friends, with the elder members and with thier children. Today perhaps the couples remain aloof from their relatives but they build up a strong relationship with the friends.
There are couples who never associate with others. Some by nature avoid social life. Some avoid it because they cannot afford to exchange gifts. Some are afraid to leave their children mingling with other children for many reasons.
Mostly we see the poor people are left alone. They are excluded from the company. Some make their deliberate choice to remain alone due to poverty and they are afraid to compit with them
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@leon923940426 (480)
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2 Dec 11
I do not like this discussion . And do you think anyone will like this in this community ????
I do not know why maybe you do not know what to talk about .
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
2 Dec 11
That could be the case. Then again, judging by the person's name, they aren't from the same place that I am from, and they don't know that things here are not the same as where they are from. Different cultures.
@srjac0902 (1169)
• Italy
2 Dec 11
Let me clarify if you permit me otherwise excuse me for my discussion. For example let us talk about the people who are living alone for any reson. In some countries or in most of the countries for example the senior citizen are taken care of even by government subsidy or by oldage pension. Well and good. There are some countries where the senior citizens do not get any subsidy and without old age pension. They lived in poverty all their life. they are may be widows. They cannot afford to seek for assistence for want of money. In their helplessness they have no one to take care of them. Some people may choose it to live alone in spite of their wealth or all securities. But there are people forced to live alone.
@derek_a (10873)
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2 Dec 11
In my experience, being alone is not a sign of poverty. I enjoy my own company and tend to meditate a lot - I am a Zen practitioner. To me being alone is not loneliness, because I do not yearn for the company of others. Through my Zen practice over the years, I have found a richness that doesn't depend on being with others. I guess you could call it a "presence of self" that recognized that there is no loneliness. Loneliness is a thought or idea and all thoughts and ideas can be transcended so that they don't have to dictate our perceptions of the universe.
I am married and enjoy the relationship my wife, but don't feel that I have a dependency on that relationship. Ultimately, we are all alone, and yet not alone. It is our choice. _Derek
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@polaroidsredwine (509)
• United States
2 Dec 11
That is ... poetic. And I can't agree more. There's a beauty in being alone, and there's a fine different between being alone and being lonely.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
2 Dec 11
I know plenty of people who are alone, and they are not poor. Actually, if you are alone, you have no one to hold you back. You can accomplish as much as you want because there is no one telling you that you can't do it. I think that people who are alone have no one to hold them back and they have nothing to lose. They can accomplish anything or they can go as far as they want in life because no one is telling them that they can't do it.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
4 Dec 11
Apparently you have never heard of a retirement home, have you?
@srjac0902 (1169)
• Italy
2 Dec 11
Of course I agree with you. The family life or the social life has been undergoing a transformation. Eachone digests her life according to her dispositions. But when they are old and helpless not in all countries they are cared for
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@djbtol (5493)
• United States
2 Dec 11
As you suggested, there are many reasons why an individual or a couple will choose to spend more time alone. I don't think it is tied too closely to poverty, although there are certainly occasions where lack of funds makes a person quite uncomfortable with a social opportunity.
There are certainly a good share of upper middle class and wealthy people who have let friendships and relationships die off through the years. Even someone who at one time was a totally outgoing and confident socialite may later in life be on the opposite end of the spectrum. Sometimes wealthy people have attained that goal because they chose not to invest in other people. Now they are alone.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 11
I don't know how to comment on this discussion. Perhaps I don't understand. I am alone too and I receive money from my parents everyday. I have not much friends around 10 these are my neighbourhood friends. But I am doing my flexible job too. I am not earning quite much only few hundreds but its enough to suport myself.