Why do they have to laugh at a loner??? :-(
By mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
India
December 2, 2011 2:29am CST
My dear friends, I've my week off today. In the morning, after my breakfast I decided to treat myself with a movie. So I got ready and came here, at E Square, a famous multiplex, where I'm at and waiting for the show to start. Am gonna watch 'Puss in Boots'...
I went to the ticket counter and asked for a ticket. The lady seemed to feel something and asked,'only one?'... I said YES.. She seemed to pity, if not laugh... I went to the coffee counter and asked for a coffee. Again the same question,'only one?'.. I said yes, with irritation.. The man laughed.
Here I sit alone. There are hundred people around. Many of them observe me with interest, it seems... They might think I'm friendless, alone.. Maybe, I'm just a dumb guy or maybe I became an addict and blew up everything or something...
This might seem insane, but I find some people looking at me queerly... And they find something queer in me, I guess...
It hurts, when they laugh though... I mean, whats my crime?
Do you laugh at loners? Please don't! We are not insane people, nor insociable... Our circumstances made us the way we are... :-(
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13 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Dec 11
Wow! I always go to movies alone. I go in the morning. Once I saw a movie and I was the Only person in the theater. I say one please , they say ok. No laughs no nothing. And if I got treated the way you were , The moment I got home I would email the movie theater to complain. Then tell All my true friends what happened and start a ban until there was a apology. It is none of their G-ddamned business if you want to see a film alone!And to assume just because you go to the movies alone that you have no one is so wrong! I started going to films all alone when I was in my teens. The films I Wanted to see none of my family wanted to see . So I went alone.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
3 Dec 11
Hi Sarah... Thanks a lot.. I should say that those guys had no rights, and yet it hurt me badly... Maybe, my face looked sorry, which made things bad... I'm not sure...
I appreciate your confidence and energy Sarah, hope i had some of it... :-)
Thanks a lot!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Dec 11
Thanks. I get upset when I hear about any of my friends being demeaned. I wish I could fly over and discuss things with these A$$holes , just the three of us, Them , me and my baseball bat!
Hang in there. Remember you are not alone. You have friends.
Hang in there. Remember you are not alone. You have friends.1 person likes this
@allknowing (137552)
• India
10 Dec 11
Have you heard of the saying 'Water, water everywhere not a drop to drink'? That is the plight of humanity these days. There are people in one's life but invariably all are left alone to fend for themselves. There is one thing I need you to know and that is even if there is someone watching a movie with you what interests you in that movie may not interest the other and vice versa. Loners are not by choice but as you rightly said they are loners due to circumstances. Some loners will not move out because eating alone, watching a movie alone or walking alone they feel is not done. And what do they do instead? Close all doors and windows and mourn their loneliness.
Hats off to you mr_pearl you are a one great winner. Long live loners such as you
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
10 Dec 11
Hi... You really seem to know all.. Yes, I am a loner by circumstances.. I would have preferred to be a loner by choice, which would have reflected in my body language.. You see, if I choose to be alone, then I'll move like a King and order things... When it is the forced solitude, one's countenance changes to something like a corpse... I had the courage to go out through my previous experience of solitude... LOL... It is my second time and I am not really master of it yet... :(
Thanks a lot my friend... Have a good day!
@allknowing (137552)
• India
12 Dec 11
You have choices and sky is the limit to create situations to ward off loneliness. What are you waiting for?
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
aw cmon! then ignore them because what they are thinking are not true.
I do not laugh at loners because i am a loner myself. Really. I have bunch of friends but only close friends.. when i am in a crowd, i am not really one who easily blend in unless i put all my efforts into it. Most of the time, i shy away and turn away and look for a loner and talk to that loner lol. Well for me - even the loner has stories to tell!
But really i do not laugh at another person's expense because it is not nice nor funny. So ignore them. I used to go out alone myself. When i crave something like for a pizza, i go alone and eat it alone...or if i want to stroll by myself , i do it alone and ignore what other people would say. I love to be with myself and my usual companions are my books and my sketch.
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
3 Dec 11
There's nothing wrong with being alone! But there are people out there who simply stare at you and judge you. People judge a lot these days and I really hate it. But don't think that way, maybe they're shocked that you're going out on your own, there are several people after work eat alone at food courts or students at university who eat by themselves or study by themselves because their friends have other classes or projects going on. I'm use to be being part of a group. I'm still in high school and wherever my friends go, I follow. We always go together everywhere from running errands to going to the restroom. 
I guess girls don't like doing things on their own and prefer to be in a group. I don't being alone either, when I go out, I always go out with friends. I guess people always see a couple or a group going out, we don't tend to see people going out on their own unless they're just shopping for things. But people laugh? That's kinda rude to laugh at someone just because they on their own today. Just tell yourself that they don't know your circumstances. Be proud to be a loner! jokes.
I guess girls don't like doing things on their own and prefer to be in a group. I don't being alone either, when I go out, I always go out with friends. I guess people always see a couple or a group going out, we don't tend to see people going out on their own unless they're just shopping for things. But people laugh? That's kinda rude to laugh at someone just because they on their own today. Just tell yourself that they don't know your circumstances. Be proud to be a loner! jokes. @mr_pearl (5018)
• India
3 Dec 11
Hi... Thanks a lot.. I used to be a group fellow, a party animal... I used to hate being alone, maybe before 5 years... After my first break up, I became a loner.. And I've been going out alone. This never happened before. Maybe, I was looking gloomy yesterday... :-(...
Thanks a lot!!!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Dec 11
If I don't have my kids around me I am alone. So mostly I am alone.
Nobody cares about that over here. Many people go to the cinema alone because they want to see the movie. I never heard anyone ask: only one????
I wonder if those people laughing are really laughing at you in your face, do find you pathetic or that they don't know how to respond. Since they are the ones who would never dare to go outside alone.
It's amazing how many people stay inside if they have nobody to go outside with.
Next time you ask: why are you laughing? Confront people with their behaviour if it's annoys you or makes you feel sad.
Perhaps the smile was even ment to encourage you.
I think the problem is you feel hurt because you go out alone and while doing it you don't want anyone to make a remark about that (even if it's just to know if you like sometning more or a bigger table or so, so nothing personal). To you everything said feels like a personal attack. Aks yourself why and decide to be happy from now on. It doesn't matter how others feel or what they think or say, it matter is how you feel and think about it.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
4 Dec 11
Hello Kitty... Thanks a lot... I think I had worn a sad expression on my face, which is why they thought worse of me... I hate to be alone and I've spent most of my life alone... The courage, as you call it, to go out alone, probably comes through the habit. To be frank. i'm tired of being alone. I truly am...
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@polaroidsredwine (509)
• United States
2 Dec 11
To paraphrase a quote, "To be alone is to be different, to be different is to be alone."
Many people don't understand that someone who is alone is not necessarily a lonely person. There is good company in being with yourself and nobody else. I tend to go places alone frequently since I enjoy sitting back with my sketchbook and drawing any interesting people (which, maybe, is slightly weirder than just being alone).
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@polaroidsredwine (509)
• United States
3 Dec 11
It's great! Sometimes people will approach and ask what I'm drawing, so it makes for a great conversation starter. Sometimes people will stand over my shoulder and watch, which is a bit unnerving. It's an interesting way to meet new people.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Dec 11
I think maybe you are seeing something that isn't really there, I go to places on my own like many people do, people just have to ger away somethimes for quality lone time, your ok nothing wrong with going solo.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hi Miss... Thanks a lot for sharing... The possibility can not be denied.. Maybe, I'm irritated with life and loneliness... Maybe, there's something wrong..
But it wasn't like that. I can distinctly remember the change of tone and those curious looks at those counters... I'm sure it was something different... :-(
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
3 Dec 11
My dear friend...mr_pearl, I want to trek across the ocean and give you a gentle push into "reality!" Reading all of your discussions, dear soul, I think your paranoia of being alone is becoming your demeanor!
You reap what you sow...if you are wandering around with a "hang dog look" your response will be of the same genre! Remember the song..."Put on a Happy Face"...do it, and you will attract happy ..and soon be happy, enjoying! HUGZ!@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
4 Dec 11
NO...NO NO!!! Stop! NO more negative! Positive is the direction we are heading from this moment forward! Look positive! Talk positive!Act positive! Go to happy places! Go volounteer somewhere...to help...and you will feel good about yourself. Do you have "soup kitchens"? Spend a day helping and you will see how blessed and lucky you are!
@periwinklez (138)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Oh my! Those people deserve whipping for being rude. hahaha! Is it a culture in your country to never go out alone? :) What's wrong with that? I go out alone most of the time, though sometimes I feel awkward or pity myself especially when eating in food chain alone but immediately brush the thought of it off from my shoulder. Just imagine how much it hurts if it's your friend who said that being alone is abnormal. My friend did. Haha! Though it was something she never meant to say. So I actually confronted here, I got no response but I guess she realized how bad it was even if unintentional. Don't get much affected. Stop feeling pathetic because you live alone. All things are made up of energy (just paraphrasing, I'm not sure if i get it right), so if you project a happy face then you will attract positive people and things around you will look all good. Perceive and pursue happiness no matter how difficult it is, soon you'll notice that you already are doing it automatically.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
14 Dec 11
Hello... Thanks a lot for a heart warming reply.. I know the advantages of showing energy. A happy face attracts so much of attention. That day, I was gloomy that my countenance must have been too awful. And that might have made them think things about me...
Here it is quite rare to see people going alone for movies. Most of 'em, prefer to stay at home if they don't have company... I had no options, needed to keep myself occupied... I'll put on a brave face hereafter.... :-).
Thank you once again... Good day!
@periwinklez (138)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
Then break the taboo!! hahah! It's only the notion that lone is equivalent to lonely. I know you are brave, so put on that happy face and prove them they are wrong. We are in a new era now and things do change, so does culture. Be the first.Hahah!
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
2 Dec 11
Don't bother about them because they don't understand what privacy is all about. They are used to having friends around and if ever one day they lose all their friends, they won't have the guts like u to be out alone. Trust me on that. Be proud of yourself for that fact. When everybody is doing the same things, won't it be good to be different somehow? U ought to smile when they laugh, smile at their innocence while they think they are smart to judge.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
That is smart-thinking miss... Thanks a lot... I'll try to behave like that. Your theory is convincing and impressive.. And it is cheering too... :-)...
Its true that it takes a lot to go out alone, but I had to. I was so bored at home... I watched two flicks, back to back... :-)
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@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
what a weird experience, i never experience that, but i also never go to a theater alone. If none of my friends want to go to the theater when i ask them, then i rather watch movie at home. Maybe i should try it sometimes and see if people are laughing at me.
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@JER616 (545)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I pity your predicament, wherever you are. I am also a loner myself, dining out, movie watching, walking in the mall, shopping and doing other stuff with me, myself and none other, without such prying and curious eyes on me in our country.
Just enjoy your life and try to deepen your faith in God. You have a loyal and faithful friend watching over you-- Jesus Christ.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hello friend, thanks a lot.. It doesn't usually happen. I've been used to go out alone for quite long. It didn't happen usually. But maybe my countenance showed gloom today, I'm really not sure what is going wrong...
But thanks a lot... I feel good that I've so many friends here... :-).
Have a good day Miss...
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@leon923940426 (480)
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2 Dec 11
Calm down my friend . May be they just curious about why you are alone without a girl . You know , The movie always set for spouses . And maybe they never meet this before .
I think you are sensitive , and you should take it easy and enjoy what you want , the movie , the coffee . That's all .
Good luck friend ~~~
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 Dec 11
Hi Leon... Thanks a lot... I'm done with 'Puss in Boots'... Was a good one... And now, I'm waiting for 'Tin Tin' to start...
I'm sure I didn't take it wrong. I mean, it was there, I experienced it. Being alone is kind of a crime... Still I'm getting on with it...
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