Would you forgive your bestfriend if he/she lied to you because....

You know what so interesting is about lying? Most people lie day in and out. But we don't consider it as a lie as long as it fits us and makes us feel great. If someone wants to safe your feelings and lies you feel upset and betrayed because of the lie. But if that same person would have told you the truth you would be angry/upset too. So it depends on the kind of person, kind of friendship and what happend if you forgiv someone or not. Thing about love is that you should forgive. How come people are seldom able to do so? Ask yourself what you would have done, be honest to yourself. And who knows.. perhaps your girlfriend will give you something to think about.

I think everyone has given their fair comment on this. And I think it is just right to give her up, she has not been honest and probably just lure your bestfriend into going to that bar. How long have you been two in a relationship? And how long is your girlfriend and bestfriend been friends with each other?

I think sometime, you will need to let your best friend to explain first before you start to imagine anything bad. I think she must have her reason why she doesn't tell you the truth, she might have promised your girlfriend that she will not let you know, and she is in the difficult situation that either she going to tell you or not since you and you girlfriend both are her friend, so, I think you should let her explain first before you trying to forgive her. If she is really done something wrong, then you can consider angry at her, but still, best friend are hard to find. and girlfriend can be find anywhere. There are many girls out there that might be much better and prettier. Hope are still out there.

December 3, 2011: I have a few thoughts about this situation - I am no youngster and have had many similar situations in my life (I am 70). I had boyfriend(s) who slept with my best girlfriend(s) (two different guys and two different girls) - neither girl nor guy were worth the effort it took to be angry with - of course, at the time, I didn't know that. The first time was when I was in my mid 30s and I was helping my 'best' girlfriend out by letting her live with me as she was short on finances at the time. It turned out that while I was at work, she was two-timing with my boyfriend! All these years later, it doesn't make a great deal of difference to me - I dismissed both of them from my life and have not missed them at all. The second time was when I was past 50. My best friend was supposed to go to the bar with me so she could shoot pool while I danced. She broke our 'date' with the excuse that she had been doing yard work all day and was too tired to go, saying that she was just going to stay home. I decided to go without her, had to go by her house on the way and saw that her car was not there. I went on to the bar and did my dancing, but out of curiosity went by HIS house on the way home - HER car was parked under his carport - the only light on in the house was HIS bedroom! On the way back home, I went by her house and left a note stating, "With friends like you, I need no enemies." She never called me to apologize or try to explain. I did not hear from her for many years - over 15 years - then one day last summer I got an email from her saying she had searched for me for years and was so glad to finally find me - I responded, she promised to never again do anything to compromise our friendship. Then a couple of months later, I asked her not to call me so often as I am on a limited cell phone plan and I was pushing my limit. She demanded that I change my plan, I told her that I was on the plan I could afford. She replied in a most sarcastic voice, "I'm sure you are!" then hung up on me. I have not heard from her since - again proving that she is not worth the time it takes to be angry with her. Back to YOUR situation: First of all, your girlfriend should be your Best Friend, not some other girl. Maybe your 'best friend' was attempting to break up your relationship with your girlfriend; maybe she was trying not to hurt your feelings as well. Only time will tell. By the way, what did your girlfriend say or do when you broke up with her?

first we try to understand why the best friend is lying, i think she didn't like to worry you, realizing the truth it gave hurts to you. so be calm and inquire the truth what may be the reason don't find fault with your best friend. i think friend can't cheat you.

woah, you seem more upset with your best friend than with your girl friend. both of them betrayed you, but i guess your best friend should have known better than to lie about you. maybe you should hear your best friend out? talk about it. why would your best friend lie? may be your best friend doesn't want you to get hurt about your girl friend? i actually saw this same situation in a movie. all i can say is that, your best friend may have done it to protect you. she couldn't bring herself to be the bearer of bad news. think about how you would have done things in her shoes. best thing to do would be to talk about it. calmly. when you are still mad, avoid her first, because both of you might say things to each other and regret it later. wish you the best.

Hello davaome, I understand how bad and frustrating you might be feeling right now after being betrayed by your girl friend. It depends on for what my friend lied but that's for sure i would also not have forgiven my friend if this happened with me. You should ask her why she did it to you because once as if you won't know it this will bother you in future.But franky she is not good for you.

Is she tride to call u now