No cake today?

That's terrible...not that she found out but that it was about the cakes. Hmm...maybe she could start a cake business and make money of all those "friends." I have realized before who my friends really were. I don't have many to be honest. There are the "good time charlies" and then there are the "nosy nancys"..you know..the ones that just want something too talk about. I am very selective now. Experience has taught me to be cautious.

but was she being used? she wanted people to come round so she offered them cakes to encourage them to do so. but then obviously she then began to feel used. but maybe because she felt used, and stopped offering nice cakes, in the process, without her realising, she may also have become less welcoming. and so the vibes she was sending out when people came round changed, so they stopped coming as they felt less welcome. i have a male friend who for reasons related to childhood experience, is quite obsessed with concept of being used, but in every relationship there is an element of giving and taking, and once we start weighing up who has given most and who has taken most then the relationship will sour. obviously we have to be aware of when we are being used, but we should also recognise that we can also get pleasure from giving. and so the lady caller may have saved herself some money on cakes, and in her eyes worked out who her real friends are, but how many people really go round someone's house just for a piece of cake? so i think she lost more than she gained, when she started calculating whether or not she was being used.

One thing that will bring people together quicker than anything is food, especially if it is free. There is something about being fed by someone else that is so appealing. I am sure these people still consider themselves her friend, but they do not realize they were probably taking advantage of her generosity. I have a friend who believes in feeding people and so once a week she would hold a community free for all dinner. What she noticed was that the group of people kept growing and she was having to spend more and more on food. She then explained that she loved their company but could not keep providing all of this on her own. She suggested they do a pot luck where everyone who was able and willing would bring a dish or something to share. The response was tremendous and now she has this huge community dinner with lots of great food from different people and the burden is not on any one person. She can relax knowing everyone is fed and a few chip in for clean up and it makes her gathering so much more manageable. Maybe she could ask some of her guests to maybe bring a treat to share about once a month. If they care about her and her friendship they will understand and be willing to contribute.

This is a very sad but true fact isn't it? It would be nice to believe that her friends came for the visit! I am finding that if you give people time, they will tell you who they really are. Most of us are very surprised at who our real freinds are sometimes!

Finding out who your real friends are isn't always an easy thing. Some people have vested interests, and wouldn't really show you their real colors until they get what they want from you. It's interesting that this lady was able to find out with such a simple thing as cake. Although to be honest, if it were me, I would be tempetd to visit too if there was cake involved!

I was pleased too that she had found out her ture friends

Now that she knows who her real friends are she can go back to cake and tea. Now she knows who not to waste her time and money on. I wouldn't bother with fake friends either. You visit to socialize not to see what you can get!

They just popped in her house for her cakes and cookies??? Just for the sake of those foods?? I am glad now she know who her true friends. True friends does not care if you serve them with plain biscuits or super delicious cake or cookies. They don't even care those things and no matter what will always want to spend a good time with us. If I am in her shoes I will not make friendship with her friends who leave her just because she stopped serving them with great foods. I will just waste my money to bake and serve good foods for them but they are not sincere enough to be my friends..

I didn't know that such trivial thing like home made cake or lack of it can put off people. That is truly sad. Don't you think? But I think there is something about it because when my friends visit me they know that I always have something sweet and home made. But if I suddenly stop serving it I know that they will bring they own hehe.

at last she got to know who are her real life friend. good that she tried out this experiment. she has been saved now from unwanted visitors who came to visit her just for getting those tasty bites. she won;t be bothered by unwanted guests ny more. and those who are still coming to her, she can start giving them the cakes again as they are her real gems.

that is sad but at least she found out her true friends who loves her for what she is and not for her cakes. in life, it is necessary to test people sometimes and this is quite a good experiment.