I really hate long conversation in the same discussion......

this has happen to me first time http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2604677.aspx

no not that discussion, if I am not mistaken it's a discussion started by befriendwithme which is also about the notifications, where we comment to someone else response and I keep insisting that mylot doesn't send notif if there's another comment in the response that we comment on.

hi saj From the very first phrase of your response I don't believe it right away because I know you are one of those who like replying again and again in the same discussion, we actually are in one such conversation (about the notifications..remember?) but I believe it was deleted.

I think that's a sign of a real mylotter, people who likes discussing things more and learning things from different people. Have a nice day too

yeah that is what a real "discussion" is, when the topic is being talked about more and more and different opinions and ideas about the topic is being shared.

Yes. I like seeing that many people are joining in my discussion. I can get many ideas from them. It is really fun and am like it. Have a good day!

Yep, you are spot on! It's better if the conversation is jovial and funny when it comes to not-so-serious discussions. It makes more people to get involved and we can also find some funny friends for us:) And i know you will reply to this and we'll continue this conversation:P

how do you know that? of course I will because I like keeping in touch with lotters who also like long conversation. I have met some funny friends here in mylot because of participating in funny discussions and I really enjoy talking to them

Yeah I agree with you it is better when quality is maintained in the posts during long conversations but sometimes I also engaged my self in some funny conversations wherein the topic is just about trivial things and funny experiences, it's like a break from all the more serious discussions. I also make some friends from such conversations. But when the discussion is quite serious or about "important" things that really needs "quality" inputs it's annoying receiving response like "thanks" and "I don't know" and such phrases.

I have so many things to do here that I only comment when I´m interested in the subject, but not only out of politeness. Some people comment just to get another post and I can spot that most of the time. I´m not interested in wasting my time saying nothing. Sometimes even when the thread goes out of the inicial topic it is interesting, if it says something new.

In my discussions I've been tried to be interactive though it has not always been immediate. I figure if someone comes back they will eventually see that I've read what they put there. Long discussions I find rather intimidating to into unless you have been involved from the start but it seems reasonable in order to keep a discussion going new points have to be introduced. I find it overall a little complicated to figure out just what is going on with other people.

I can understand that, sometimes I also can not comment to all the responses but most of the time I try my best to at least comment to majority of the responses because I always appreciate the guys who respond in my discussion (unless the response is really way out of the topic) so commenting back is my little way of showing my appreciation.

Yes true..In my experience, and even i create one topic to get response and focus there but if i know no response i made other discussions and then go back and see if any response receive..

yeah sometimes when the conversation is getting longer it may seem like it's chatting that's why as much as possible the posts must still have substance so we can keep it as a "discussion". And I agree with you that there are some people who comment back to only one response and just leave the discussion like that, worse is some lotters who start their own discussion don't even reply to any response instead you will see him/her just keep creating discussion after discussions.

but at least you're checking back if your previous discussion received a new response then in that case it's just okay because for sure you will comment back if you see a new response that's why you are checking back right?

Same here whenever I start a discussion I can't wait to see and read the responses. I feel good when my discussion receives many good responses because it means the topic is interesting and those who respond can relate to it. As much as possible I try to reply to all of the responses right away but sometimes we can't avoid to receive responses that almost have the same message so it's hard to make a response without repeating the things that you've already said so sometimes I reply to those kinds of response after a few days so that I can think of another way to answer it and add something that I haven't said already.

Haha, i have the same experience! the responders are not likely to read the posts of those who have posted before them, so it's not surprising to find them giving the same information to you. when that happens in my discussions, i just answer them, rephrase my replies but it's still the same message. it's tiring sometimes, but i don't mind, because the more i write, the more i can earn LOL the difficult thing about those responds are that they give you different advice, and it can get confusing for us to decide whose advice we should follow. we need to adapt in a way that the good and reasonable advices will be followed and the not so good advice will be thought on as well.

yeah that's what I do to I am just rephrasing and add some little details but when you have so many responses like 25-30 responses and many of them have almost the same message or information that is really an effort to look for more ideas just to avoid repeating same replies. Different advice is actually helpful because you get to see different side of the topic and it makes you think more and balance the weight of each ideas/advice.

yes posting more and more is really interesting and i like to make others discussion long and interesting .yes phillyguy with this we become more familiar with more and more people and this is real way to make more and more friends .as long was discussion it is very interesting to read it.

Yeah that's just the same with me I also become more familiar with more fellow mylotters and even became friends with some after engaging in long conversations with them, and I am looking forward having a long conversation with you and others who responded and will respond to this discussion. I am open for any topics to talk about

just like what you are doing right now through that you've started a conversation but unfortunately I don't have much time left right now since my work time is almost finished so I need to logout of mylot now but I will definitely go back in this conversation the moment I can use a PC at home later or tomorrow when I am back in the office.

I think we should all use our own judgement as to which and how many we answer. I do agree that a majority of the responses should be responded to.

yup we are not required by mylot to answer ALL the responses, but we should at least TRY to respond to majority of the responses because we started a topic for the reason that we wanna know our fellow mylotters ideas/opinions/answers/experience about that certain topic (except for some people who seems like they just start discussions for the sake of "starting many discussions") so we should at least show those people who responded in our discussion that we read their opinion by responding to majority of the responses.

yeah I also agree with you, sometimes there is no need to answer all the responses especially when most of them almost have the same message.

yeah yeah the longer the conversation the more we feel like we become closer to our fellow mylotters and from that a good relationship is building up right joanna? it's more enjoyable mylotting when you have some people that you can consider friends

especially at times when you can't hang out with your real friends..

hi webgirl haven't "seen" you around lately, anyways I agree some people just respond for the sake of "posting" they never even think about something to add about the topic, and about long conversation with a friend in person that's a different story but I can relate about your story with your friend who just talk too much I have an officemate like that and it's quite uhmm annoying when he can't notice that I am not in the mood for long conversation and just keep talking even it's obvious that I am not listening anymore

hey phillyguy! yeah long time no see. I hope you are doing well :D. In regards to long conversations, if it was in person, not online or emails or forum discussions, I can see the difference for long conversations especially too chatty and repetitive, lol. I like how the conversations do go on in the forums or by emails or online kinda similar to if talking in person (face to face) but sometimes face to face, you can actually run out of topics to talk about and it will be like hi, um okay, and the other person says okay and random one-liners..lol Just keep in mind if you make discussions and people post one liners to your posts just try engage more on their feedback, that's how you get more conversations. I had some one liners and I still reply to theirs. And if there's nothing at all to say on the topic or question..maybe make a new discussion of that topic with a different question or scenario. I'm also guessing people respond to the sake of posting because either they don't know what to say or have experience on that topic or they try to engaging without researching or writing without thinking. It's just like random blah blah blah out of the topic... I see you have an officemate that talks alot. lol. are you guys close? lol how are those convos with that officemate? always repetitive with rants or same ranting every time..lol.. anyway hope you are doing well.

that's good I can see from all the responses that there are many lotters who likes participating in long conversations maybe some just don't have that much time to keep going back to one particular discussion. Regarding the title, you are right that is my style I always try to be creative when giving a title to my discussion. I always try to think of an interesting title most of the time it is confusing or not directly related to the topic. I am glad you appreciate it

Yes, those emoticons can give the expression that the starter is ending the certain box discussion. Let's just take a cue from there.

I agree that's the polite way of mylotters in saying the conversation is over because they can't think of something to add.

I understand what you mean I am also always looking for new discussions to participate in, but I still check the previous discussions that I responded or commented on to see if there is new post, sometimes even after a few days or even a week or two someone will suddenly reply to my comment/respond and if I can still have something to add or that person is asking something I still reply to that post.

its never late to reply back enelym001 i had one discussion i which i replied after 2 months still a HWG replied back to my respond i was feeling a bit weird but everything went smooth 30+ response when you were new great

Yeap I left some without answers because the answer would be the same for most. Last week I tried to check back my old discussion and think about giving a response to some of them that I feel needs to be answered. But when I saw that it's posted one month ago, I cancelled the thought of replying... coz I don't know what the person would feel.

you exactly explained the same way I am feeling when I was really new in mylot and my discussion gets a lot of responses. In my first few weeks here in mylot I have some discussions that received 30+ responses and for a newbie that is quite hard to reply to all of those responses even if I want too but I still try to reply to all. I even go back to that discussion after a week or more just to comment back to the remaining responses, but in some case I just really can't think of something that I can say without repeating my previous replies so I just leave it like that but I think that's understandable.

hi jazel so you just really like discussing things with people? that's good because that is what we are here for to exchange ideas and knowledge but some can't understand that concept and just keep starting discussions and doesn't read the responses ( I assume because they don't reply to any responses) anyways I think this is the first time I encounter you so nice to meet you

It's good if you can have more time to spend in mylot so you can be more active in responding and joining in long discussions, I hope to be in some good conversation with you

nice segue Actually sometimes I also engaged in that kind of long conversation where in the things you are talking is not anymore about the topic, usually it turns into a funny conversation, it's quite fun and enjoyable especially when you are talking to the people that also like that kind of conversation.

yeah I know you enjoy it jen I also enjoy long conversation especially if there are funny people participating in the same conversation , I think this time you won't have the last say

Actually not all debate leads to quarrel especially if those involve in a discussion are open minded people that welcomes other's ideas or at least listen to them without being rude and arrogant, and base on the responses here most most of them won't get annoyed by a long response some even encourage 4 sentences response or even longer because it shows that you are really interested and you really think about the discussion.

hi devi! I am glad you find this discussion interesting and valuable,appreciate it Yes we can join any discussion or any conversation in someone else response but I understand some people hesitate to join other's conversation when they are not familiar with the people involve but most mylotters won't mind that, actually in my experience most mylotters will like it when more people join their conversation. PS: just in case you want to increase you user rating commenting in some one else response earn us another 1 point aside from the 1 point we get from our response in the same discussion, so you can get two points in one discussion.