My friend chose to abort her baby

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's choice. It's sad when life brings us to this point. Me, personally? I could not do it. I'd find a way to make things work. I do not agree in pushing her or stopping her, though. It's her decision, shes the one who has to live with the decision she makes. Now I'm not saying I agree or condone abortion, please do not misunderstand me. I'm saying you can not dictate over a person's life, just because you do not agree with their decision's. It's her body, her choice. All you can do is be a good friend (just like you were to yours), comfort her, be available for her, and try to show her that abortion is not the only answer. This is a very hard subject to speak on. So many people feel so intense on it, and get upset when others express their opinions. I've known women who have had abortions. I did not agree with why they aborted, but I did understand their reasons. One, for example aborted because she would be risking her life and the child if she continued the pregnancy. If she carried the child successfully, there was risk of it having a very painful disorder. This disorder would cause the child to suffer. In her mind, her decision was out of love. Love for her family she already had (she did not wanna die and leave her husband/children she already had). She spent time praying and talking to her pastor, and then decided she could not bear bringing this child into the world to suffer.

I had thoughts of having an abortion 22 years ago. I was in a bad relationship and I had gottan pregnant. At first I wanted to get an abortion and get on with my life. It never happened and I am glad I never went through it! I had the baby,a boy, and gave him up for adoption. I know now I would of regretted having an abortion and would of never forgiven myself! I am proud of what I did! I wish more woman would do what I did!

enelym...this is absolutely one topic, that I refuse to discuss and take any form of stand on! To me, it is a very "personal" issue...! Love your picture, dear lady! Sorry, I am such a downer on this topic--but it is such a circumstantial topic!

Hello! Your friend abortion,she has her difficulty,things have happened,really feel sorry. I'm not in favor of abortion. I think that is the god give a our children,once pregnant,give the baby was born. Wish you of friend!

Here in my country the case of abortion is very common when there is a girl child. These guys do some scans and find out if it is a girl or boy and then abort the girl. They just want baby boys, I don't know why the heck.

Since I am a pro to life, I choose to keep the baby. I don't want to commit sin. I will take the responsibility as a mother. For me it is a blessing from God although I didn't expect it to happen. I know it would be a big sacrifice for myself because I will not be able to have the attention to myself anymore. My life belongs to the baby already.

I would plan a abortion the minute the doctor said the P in pregnant. I never wanted children so the only two reasons I got pregnant are the birth control failed or I was raped. Either way I rather abort the child than Ever go through childbirth. And if I couldn't abort the child , I would kill myself and "it". I would Never , Ever tell or suggest any woman have an abortion. It is her s=choice , period. Her life can be ruined if she does one thing when he Needed to do the other. I mean if she always wanted a baby but aborts it, she will be ruined and if she Never wanted a child but is forced to have one , she will be ruined. A true friend just listens to a pregenant friend, does not judge. It is her choice! And whatever She chooses a true friend is there to support her.

Perhaps what brought her to deciding that way was the fact that their relationship was complicated. You didn't really want to go into full details so perhaps that's really why it happened. I know that sometimes when we're confused we do stupid things. I just hope that her boyfriend was all worth it. Anyhow, if I were in that situation, I would probably react differently. I would have probably kept the baby because I want a baby. I am now in a situation wherein I could support the baby on my own - which makes deciding much easier compared to her situation, I guess. Have you asked her about her regrets?

Most situations are complicated in which one may consider abortion. It all depends on things at the time. I do not agree or disagree with the legality of it. What I do think is that there should be safe options out there should a Woman choose to do so.

There are mistakes we commit in our life existence. As teens or still young to take responsibilities, we tend to do the things not appropriate just to escape from the consequences of that mistakes. We can't judge them for doing such. If we'll put ourselves on their shoes where many people have higher expectations and you are still not bold enough to face what will they say, what will you do then? It's wrong, we know. But, perhaps, if they only have the courage to face the consequences of their love, then probably, it didn't happen. For me myself, I didn't know what to do, if I'm on the same situation...

I Am not one for abortion in this day an age is not necessary there are too many ways not to get pregnant[even in the old days there were ways]so in modern days why any one with a sense of morality and responsible would chose to get pregnant? I know things can happen by accident. Now about your friend if she is trapped in a complicated situation[relationship] she is better off without this relationship because in the long run it will ruin her...complicated situations/relationship never solve them selves unless there is a sense of responsability and love involved. Now to answer you question I would never push any one to do any thing after all is their choice and they have to live with it!

I might tell her I thought it was wrong, but I don't think I'd push her. Why bother? Is she going to listen to anyone else? Likely not. My wish would be that more girls grasp the idea that a boyfriend is not a husband. "boys" are not adults, and nor are they going to act like adults. Stop wishing your "BOY" friend would take responsibility when he never promised to. That's what marriage is, a promise to take responsibility. You hop in bed with a 'boy' and then are shocked that he doesn't want to deal with the consequences. Stop doing that. Stay out of the bed, until you are married. That's the reason Marriage was created. You break that system, and then are shocked it doesn't work out.

Hi Enelym! Woah!!! Is there any truth about Rhian Ramos' abortion??? If it is true, all i could say is awwwwwww... to consider that i liked Rhian a lot... btw, who is the father of the kid? If ever i get pregnant and have a problem with the father of the kid, i dont think i could have the heart to abort the baby. I have observed that the single moms have always been tough and strong and we have a lot to admire them for that. They too had been in that position wherein they would have to decide to keep the baby or not. I have heard that those who have had abortions suffered guilt all their life. Abortion should never be an option, i wished they had other choices.

This is a sad ,scary stories for your friends..Interesting happening,and even you ,scared whats going in there..And even i read your post,its kind a scary because the woman affected by taking the tablets to kill that baby inside of here womb..That is a living soul,killed by using that tablets..Guilty for doing that,and shame...The faults are both of them guilty for doing it...They will face that situation hardly since they are decided to do what they want and even it ruines their life..That is a great lesson for young people today,that they should think wise before making a boyfriend,relationship because they are too young to doing it and not in the right time..i that situation, i will say to stop abort,keep the baby alive no matters what circumstances comes..

Personally it is a woman's choice to choose, and it should really be her choice, as she is the one who has to live with it for the rest of her life. I could have never done it. It is bad enough having miscarriages and always thinking what if. But personally sometimes I wish there were better alternatives out there for women to think about instead of abortion. If more people could just learn to hold on and wait it out there would be a lot less controversy later on for sure.

Hi... I'd rather let the baby live.. If I've means to raise it properly then I'd take it on my own or else give it to the people who crave for a baby, who have a lot of money and just want a child in their family... Abortion isn't an answer... I feel sorry for your friend...

I think that your friend took the abortion pill that works up to 9 weeks pregnant. I believe that she was feeling extra emotional due to the pregnancy hormones. As she was crying day and night she needed loving support because she was depressed. If I was in a complicated relationship and I got pregnant I would keep my baby. I would split up with a boyfriend if he was trying to put pressure on me to have an abortion. If I got pregnant in an attack from a stranger I think I would let my baby be born but choose adoption. I would give my baby a chance to live.

this is just an ordinary case in country where abortion is legal. in catholic dominant country like philippines this belongs to heinous crime. they did not value life. so sad...

If the girl is as pretty as you are, I would rather kill myself than to ask you to take the medicine. I want to have babies who will be as pretty as you are. Bwahaha! Peace y'all!

It is really sad to know that there are people who do stuffs and do not stand the consequences of their actions. If it was me, I would not do the same since I did that thing, I will live with it. But even though this is my stand, I will not blame the people doing these things. They have their own minds. Whatever decision they make, I know they can stand for it.