Knowing the signs
By nameeangel
@nameeangel (46)
December 5, 2011 8:34am CST
I'm married. My husband works offshore. We see each other every other day. Well, I don't have problem with our relationship. I'm just kind of curious, on how to know that your partner is playing some game. I wanted to know because I'm a kind of person that most of the time doesn't see clues. I don't want to be so stupid when it happens. Hehehe
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@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
Can i tell you something?Well i tell you anyway..
My husband told me to not worry if he is away.He told me if i will be thinking that he will play a game , i will just hurt myself..If we will be thinking that he have other girl outside the marriage,he may want to have one.Because with or without, we think the same..
Honestly,i cant tell if my husband have other girl,all i know is i trust him enough for him to stay away from others.. :-D
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@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
5 Dec 11
I think most women can sense when someone is playing them.Just that sometimes they prefer to close their eyes for the truth.
But also women often get obsessed with stalking and analyzing and thinking all men are the same,and there is something wrong always and blabla
Women are just weird.I don't know why we do it to ourselves haha
Happy holidays! :)
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@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
This post of yours is already one of the signs to know having a cheating partner[em]lol[/em, you showing curiosity is better than making nothing at all.
In my opinion, the best sign is you must rely on your own nature instincts and must be concluded in his actions based on your own investigations .. Some uses, reverse psychology to know the truth.. While, others beneficial sign is that You can feel something that is different or strange between you and your partner or even your partner alone. YOu must be an observant in a way he would not know you are aware and investigating. Though, some cheating partners are very safe in their actions and do not show signs or changes in a marital relationship? it is not still the proof you are not being cheated . This will be known when if your inner nature senses are aware and being justified with the environment where he is.. Of course, this time you will not be stupid because you are already revealing your curiosities that will be your guide tool in case you will be needing it in your marital relationship.. And which, you are being smart already to think of open possibilities, it is not because you do not trust or love him, it is because you are aware and preparing yourself if ever you are in that situation. In a marital relationship, you must go for SMART THINKING because any actions you make must be favorable to your relationship not with the other cheating parties. That is best on how you will protect your marital affairs...
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@post2sawa (88)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
In a relationship you will start to get confused & doubtful when you were not happy anymore. But if your relationship is fill with love, good communication & trust then there is no room for doubt at all. If there is something bothering you talk to your husband that is the great key of every relationship, try to tell him what you feel or what you were thinking. confusion never stops until you hear it from him and if you believe what he says is true.
you don't have to based on what u feel or think it is much important to know to you have the same understanding on everything that is happening on both sides.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
Most of the girl has this intuition.
They can tell/feel the changes.
But, do not stress yourself observing and feeling the changes...
@nerein (283)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Knowing when some one is playing a game with you can sometimes be hard.
Because sometimes it seems like everything is okay. Now one thing that
I would suggest is that you use your gut instinct. If it feels like he
is playing some kind of game then he might be. You never know it just
might be happening. Now if he is working offshore then is probably does
not have time to go see other people when he is working. If he comes
straight home to you then there is no problem. Although it seems like
your significant other is a pretty nice person and would not do things
like that.
@AshwinSajith (602)
• India
5 Dec 11
Hi I have been in a long distance relationship too for over 2 years now. We are not yet married, which sort of eases it up, as even if one of us cheats we always can split up. The same is not the case with marriage where families and kids are involved.
The first thing that comes to my mind is that you should not rake up unnecessary thoughts in your mind. Your statement " I dont want to be so stupid when it happens " sort of implies you don fully trust your hubby. I fully understand your situation as long distance can play tricks on the mind. So best way to avoid it is to trust your husband and be sure that nothing bad will happen.
Ok but coming more to your question, if you still want to find out, I will say these are certain signs-
1. If he is busy all the time all of a sudden and does not devote the same time to you as before.
2. He is always out with his colleagues for lunches or dinners and tries to avoid your calls especially during that time.
3. He talks about some other female constantly, but in a very casual manner, which shows he has no interest.
4. You find lot of photos in his Facebook or any other profile where he seems to be exceeding boundaries according to you.
5. He suddenly changes his personal mail id/ password so that you cannot access and does not inform you.
6. Any other situation where you feel he is lying or hiding something.
Even if all of the above does not mean something is up and you should suspect him. I would still say stop worrying and have a happy married life. Cheers