Pressured to suceed?

Can you take online classes at the university? That way you are home But still going to the school. if not keep having more good days.

Bummer. Keep Following your Bliss!

Nope. The course I want requires presence and hands-on training. I'm looking for other short course that might interest me or give way to find my passion. :) That's the best thing I can do, to enjoy.

despite all that I did pretty well, not as well as I would have liked because I didnt leave my comfort zone but I did well coming from that upbringing.

So ironic. My mom said I could be Anything I wanted and I thought Why do I have to Be anything? It wasn't my mom but my " good" school that made me think Exactly how you were told you would be, useless.

They failed , Not you. They thought all this pressure was going to make you be what they wanted and it didn't. I know it will be hard or expensive but you Still study Psychology! That way you can be a psychiatrist, That is a doctor!

I totally agree. It wasn;t until I was in my 20's that I found out my mom didn't graduate highschool. That is why she told me I Had to graduate highschool. And I did! Thankfully all the rest was up to me.

I think I would be a better person if I hadn't gone to public school. I'm nice but not Too nice!My mom was a very good person , my dad too.

So you were suppose to be an genius all alone? Wow!

Apparently.. At least after a certain age.

People outside the family saw me as a teacher.My mom Never told me what she wanted me to be. But that backfired. Since she didn't tell me, I thought being nothing was my future. Did I need pressure? No. But I guess if we could have talked about the future a little I could have seen a future. Who knows.

Yes..I think discussing the future is important. I let the girls do most of the discussing..with a little guidance. I don't really remember talking to my grandparents about a serious plan when I was little. The thing is that sometimes the most well planned futures are not what life has in store for us anyway..lol.

I'm so sorry. I hope you can get some peace sooner more than later.

Wow. I wasn't pressured either so when I Knew I couldn't do Anything , I didn't even try it. If I ever got frustrated I usually stopped and Never tried whatever again.

I bet the reason is because they couldn't be put in a box or catagory . Or they asked why way too many times .

Hopefully they will get to do what they Want to do.

Well, isn't that the way it always is anyway? You're right, none of them could be put into a category at all. They all thought outside the box. That is what I try to instill in my children, think outside the box. That was one of the problems when I was growing up, I was always told, you can't do this, you can't do that, or that's impossible. The old timers had limited thinking. So, I was groomed to be a worker. But I want my kids to think outside of what society says is normal. Look, I am also realistic, and I do want my kids to get an education, because if their dreams cannot be achieved, then they do need to fall back on something. But, restriction is a very bad thing.

The child I saw was on his way. The parents are in for it and they don't even know it!

Maybe The parents will reap the bitter harvest.

That's my whole point. As a teen I didn't let people in. I assumed they wouldn't want to talk to me or even care. So College would have been a place to die. Large lecture halls where I could just fade into the background would be perfect. At highschool I was invisible unless I was in the orchestra So I was right. If I had gone and Had to be in an all girl dorm and Have to go to classes I didn't care about And get good grades Or else, I would have killed myself that first week. If I didn't care about a class I wouldn't go. To this day all women/ girl things make me nervous , so I wouldn't fit in so Before getting through out , I would have taken myself out. Question. How can a person be a Athesit And a Jew. One can not be Jewish Without G-d. I love the saying , you can be a Jew for G-d or a Jew against G-d but you can't be a jew Without G-d!

Not brilliant. I took classes I was interested in for the most part, and took the first year and half at JC and worked 20 hours a week at the public library. The biggest mistake I made was not taking my required science courses at JC because I wanted easy classes while I was working so many hours. That meant I had to take my required science courses at UCLA. Big mistake. I did scout out which were the easiest but I still had to take symbolic logic and almost flunked it. Got my only D at college and the only reason I passed was because I went to an office hour and the prof had mercy on me. With the exception of my science classes, most of the rest were enjoyable. I had one very bad professor for Shakespeare, and another one for British history. (Would you believe he read his lectures and didn't even know when he skipped a page?) I ditched British history most of the time because I could learn more on my own reading. Couldn't ditch Shakespeare. It was at 8 AM and the prof used to creep in like a snail and speak in a slow drawl. It was really hard to stay awake. The funniest part of the experience was that I had heard Bacteriology from a certain prof was really easy. So I signed up. My (now) husband also decided to take the class. I ditched it a lot and read the book. My husband studied hard and actually learned the subject. I crammed. When we took the first test, I did better. My husband couldn't understand how I could beat him when he studied harder. (He was a physics major.) Then I shared my secret with him. I was an English major. The tests were all true/false. I had figured out that if I was in doubt about an answer, I would guess "true" if the statement was qualified with conditions, "false" if the statement was simple. It worked. If a science professor is making a true statement, he almost has to qualify it with conditions -- it's true only if this and that is also true. After learning that, my husband did better on the other tests. I forgot the other science class I didn't like -- Paleontology 101 -- the study of fossils. I didn't even know what it was when I signed up, but it wasn't a lab course, so I signed up. The only good thing about it was that I met my favorite roommate in that class and we roomed together the next year and were fast friends for life. It's a terrible shame she has developed dementia now and would not recognize me if I went to see her. She was the one with the brilliant mind. In fact, all my roommates but me were Phi Beta Kappas -- straight "A"s. My problem was partly that I majored in people. I was away from home for the first time in my life and loved meeting all the new people from so many different backgrounds and countries. We would have philosophical and religious discussions into the small hours of the morning ( like we often do here.) This didn't leave much time for studying. Most of my classes are a blank now, except for Western Civilization, geology, and one English class. It's the people I remember most. My roommates all got PhD's and all I got was a B.A. But I didn't care. The only reason I went to college was because my parents and my classmates expected me to. I would have felt left out had I not gone. I'm not sorry I went. But my most important learning didn't come from the classes, but from the dorm experience.

That's one question Dorothy never really answered to my satisfaction. She said she was a Jew in culture and race, but not a religious Jew. Throughout Jewish history there have been non-religious Jews in the sense that they did not obey God and worshiped idols instead. The Old Testament is full of this. Some may have believed in God as a concept, but not as the God they could trust and believe who would come to their aid. These people couldn't live with an invisible god, which is why they forced Aaron to make the golden calf when Moses was up on the mountain too long to suit them. They just didn't get who God really was. Christians believe God finally showed them who he was in Jesus. (Just stating -- not trying to convert you.) But even Jesus said God is a Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth. Man has always seemed to want gods he can make with his hands and then order around. The prophet Isaiah pointed this out in Isaiah 46 and in many other places. The cycle of worshiping God, leaving Him for idols, being crushed by enemies, finally crying out to God to save them and repenting, having God rescue them, returning to the worship of God, and starting the cycle again probably continues to this day. Not all the Jews in Israel today believe in God. Many Jews will tell you they aren't religious Jews. I suppose the ones to ask are the self-proclaimed atheist Jews themselves. They are not hard to find.

I will never truly know if my mom was proud of me or not. But I am happy.

Thanks.

I'm sure she was.