happy that he remembered
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
December 5, 2011 9:14pm CST
It is always my habit, weeks before an occasion, such as birthday and anniversary , to remind my husband about it. That way, he remembers them lest i will get hurt that he won't, specially now that we are getting older.
I see to it that we will go out to dine or buy foods to enjoy at the house when the occasion comes . This also allows him to allocate his budget in addition to my budget for it.
My birthday will be coming in a few days, and suddenly last week my husband told me that their monthly meeting will be held on my birthday. Since it's in a far place and for sure there will be some social drinking, because they are all boys and their boss is present, for sure he cannot come home at night so we could have a dining out. And he said that the on the next day, will be their Christmas party and it will be again in that far place.
But i was happy, because he remembered my birthday. Anyway, we can celebrate it on a later date when he is free from those activities. 
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@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
You want to enjoy your day with him but the circumstances is not flowing on what you aim.
My hubby is like yours too,.. won't turned down his work or engagement for me (whether it's my important day or we planned it ahead) not unless that engagement is really really important for him to attend to.
As being open-minded, we tend to deal with it positively. Though it's irritating, we tend to adjust. We're cheesed-off but not inflamed, right friend?!
The goodness is, this will not bring to a fight.
You're one of a kind!...like me *LOL
Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday, happy birthday... happy birthday to you! (that's a song for you).
My wish for you is... "A happy countless time being with your husband!"
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
Thank you my friend for your song. I like your voice, it sounds like Sarah's 
I think we really have to understand our husbands specially when it comes to their jobs. They value their jobs because it's our bread and butter. So, they will really won't choose the occasion over their job. But i guess, i would do the same too , when my job is compromised.
Anyway, we can always celebrate it later. "Better late than never", as the saying goes. 
I think we really have to understand our husbands specially when it comes to their jobs. They value their jobs because it's our bread and butter. So, they will really won't choose the occasion over their job. But i guess, i would do the same too , when my job is compromised.
Anyway, we can always celebrate it later. "Better late than never", as the saying goes. 
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
6 Dec 11
You are an understanding wife, flexible and not overly demanding. I hope your husband sees that an makes your birthday celebration this year extra special - even if not on the actual day.
I think, and I could be wrong, many women would say any kind of reminder should not be needed if he really cared.
A couple can choose to foster love and peace in their relationship and not get hung up on common expectations. You win!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
Based on my 21 years being married to my husband, for the relationship to be always alive, really depends on how the wife carries it. But, the husband should always be receptive to the ideas of how to keep it alive.
And one of those, is celebrating our birthdays and anniversaries, even at the simplest way.
And one of those, is celebrating our birthdays and anniversaries, even at the simplest way. 
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
I'm sorry to hear that he won't be there to celebrate your birthday but like what you've said, you will be able to in the next few days after he's done with all that he has to do. The most important thing is that he did remember and that's what matters most.
I really feel special when somebody remembers my birthday though i really don't like celebrating them. So i was teary eyed two years ago when one student made an effort to surprise me on my birthday.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
That's true Toni, the most important thing is that he did remember, without me reminding him of it, like i always do. In retrospect, why hadn't i reminded him yet that time, when usually i would have.
I think, i feel like not celebrating it anymore, because i am getting older again.
Yes, when someone remembers your birthday you cannot help but be touched by the gesture.
Yes, when someone remembers your birthday you cannot help but be touched by the gesture. 
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
6 Dec 11
It feels so nice if the spouses demonstrate that they value important things about each other. And that's what your hubby has exactly done making you rejoice. Whether or not he is around on that very specific day, you still feel he has expressed his commitment to you. Occasions are only times for expressions and if not on THE day but at a later day, it's still an occasion made significant by the sentiments. You will also feel good that you understand his social commitments.
That's a very positive attitude. Have a great birthday!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
Yes my friend, it's actually the thought that really counts. Just remembering us on our birthday , is already a very touching gesture.
whom had no idea that it was my birthday and only notice it on FB that it was my birthday...@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
Thanks airkulet.
Actually, husbands really have this habit of forgetting our birthdays. So, i always make it my habit to remind my husband , a week before my birthday or even his birthday and our daughter. But this time, it seems that i don't have the enthusiasm to remind him.
I think, it's for us wives to dutifully remind them.
Good thing that he remembered. It is what matters most to me.
Actually, husbands really have this habit of forgetting our birthdays. So, i always make it my habit to remind my husband , a week before my birthday or even his birthday and our daughter. But this time, it seems that i don't have the enthusiasm to remind him.
I think, it's for us wives to dutifully remind them.
Good thing that he remembered. It is what matters most to me.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
Yeah indeed my friend, i was so happy that i didn't remind him this time. It touched me big time, that i hugged him and said it's okay, we'll celebrate it when you are back. 
Thanks for the greeting!
Thanks for the greeting! @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
4 Feb 12
That's great that he remembered without you reminding him. It shows that he cares that he remembered. It kinda stinks that he wasn't able to be there but I bet you guys had a great time out when you did celebrate. Remember..you are not getting older..you are becoming more seasoned. There is always reason to celebrate the day you came to the world.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
He knows that i do like to celebrate our birthdays always, that's why he is anxious that he won't be present on my birthday to celebrate it.
Just his thought of remembering it and being anxious that he won't be present makes me so touched.
Husbands can really make or break our days indeed. And vice versa of us also.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Thanks my friend!
Yes, i did have a very happy birthday. Before the day of my birthday, my husband and i already celebrated it. Then on the day itself, i celebrated it with my boss and office mates and so with my husband even if it's already late in the evening.
I have mine as reminders of birthdays, in my cell phone. That way, the moment it alarmed , i would immediately send my birthday greeting thru text to whoever will be celebrating it that day.
As to my daughter, she sends her birthday greeting after midnight, because she said she wants to be the first to greet us on our birthdays.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Hi Simplyd!
hmm.. i smell something fishy..
he won't be there for your birthday and he remembers it.
probably he's preparing something for your birthday!
lol i'm such a spoiler.
anyway that's so sad to hear that he won't be there for your birthday but if my premonitions are right then whoa!! that would be something memorable for your birthday!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SIMPLYD!
i wish you happiness and good health!
anyway that's so sad to hear that he won't be there for your birthday but if my premonitions are right then whoa!! that would be something memorable for your birthday!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SIMPLYD!
i wish you happiness and good health!@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
Thanks Shane. Actually , it was last Friday. But since he has to attend that monthly meeting, we celebrated it on the 8th .
Well, on the 9th, when my boss learned that my husband isn't around, and her partner is on a business trip too, she decided that her birthday gift to me is a blowout.
Thus we , together with the other 2 staff and her driver, we ate at a fine dining restaurant with an acoustic singer. We ordered a lot and she had me take out Spaghetti with meatballs. We had a nice time.
When i arrive home at 11:00 pm., in a little while , my husband arrived from the far city meeting. We ate the spaghetti and enjoyed bonding after.
It was indeed a Happy Birthday after all.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
My husband is really a natural joker. So , on my birthday he would always seem to forget it, by not mentioning it at all as to plans.
But i would really mention it weeks before, to make sure that we will go out or eat out on my birthday.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
wow!
it sounds that you really have a great time on your birthday!
i'm soo happy for you Simplyd!
and indeed it was a great birthday since your husband put an effort be on your birthday. that was really cool of him since you say that he has been forgetful of special days.
