Possesive girlfriends/parnters

When my husband and i are just sweethearts, we both are possessive. We would usually go together in all outings. Since we both know that we are possessive, we lessened our outings with friends already. That way, there will be no jealousy.

Why girls can control their boy friend in these days?Funny,maybe the girl friend not allow to go beach because many girls therewearing sexy!I have not experience like that, i a m not boy, usually boys are over to the gf.

I'm not the possessive,.. jealous type when we were boyfriends. That's me until now that we are married! Lucky me too, we have the same kind of my husband. We don't quarrel because of jealousy or possessiveness. Well, you make me wonder too...we're almost 11 years now being married and glad to say that... yes, we don't argue with jealousy or possessiveness! It's okay with me, if he goes out with his friends... do social things without me. I have my set of friends too that he let me go with without him too. And, it's fine to both of us if it will take the night! We have world outside us! I trusted him, he do the same trust with me! And I think the most reason (maybe) that we do such with each other is, we don't see things that we're capable to hurt each other. The love I think binds us well. What we do argue about is.. hmmmm... he want it happen this way and I prefer the other!... just that pety! ... we compromise things maturely! So far, no big fight happened to us.

I don't think I am a possessive girl friend there are times I tell my boyfriend not to go out, I wouldn't call that possessive though I mean sometimes you just wanna hang with your man. There are some guys I don't like my boyfriend hanging out with because they would rather chase skirts than anything else. Maybe the girl friends just don't like you. Like I said I'm not possessive my man has freedom but think about this if you had a girl friend who's friend was a huge flirt and encouraged your girl to cheat would you want her hanging out with her friend

I consider myself a little possessive. Although I think being possessive will not gonna be good in most relationships. We have to let our boy/girlfriends be free and have sometime with their friends too. But the good part was my boyfriend wants me to be a little tough or strict on him, he feels that I truly love him if I'd tell not to do such thing like drinking or smoking; or not to go out with friends sometimes. 'Though I still want him to enjoy his life since he was away, so I still tell him sometimes that he has go to his friends house and go to the beach with them.

Hi. I have been in a relationship for 5 years now and to be frank I think both of us are very possesive, with my girlfriend edging ahead a little. Both of us hang out with our own set of friends but she does forbid me sometimes. Most of the times it is because she feels we can hang out alone instead in that time. Sometimes she does not like the people I hang out with and she does not forbid me openly but gets a little upset. On the whole I trust her judgement as 90 % of the time she does not have a problem. So when she does, there might be a reason and I try to understand it and then decide . But I do make sure I take the final decision and also dont go if I feel her reasons are valid. Cheers.

Sometimes, you shouldn't trust your friends' words. There are times when they themselves don't really want to 'hang out' and they'll just use their girlfriends as a diversion hehehe.. Anyhow, I believe nobody could truly "own" somebody completely. Each one of us will always have that freedom to decide for ourselves. I think these girlfriends are merely suggesting or playing devil's advocate and your guy friends chose them instead of you. hehehe.. I don't think I am possessive. Well, I think I am. But I know I cannot control the decision of my partner. He will always ask my permission, but I know that it's just to 'inform' because even if I say 'No' he will always insist on doing what he planned to do. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

For me yes it is so hard to deal with it so if you want to be married be good to choose if you want that you would be good in them or not.

I hate possessive partner, I don't want my partner to stop me from anything I am doing. I want a partner who does everything with me what I want to do. Being possessive might be good for some but not for me.

I hear about this on the radio all the time with callers calling up about their possessive partners. I haven't gotten myself a partner yet but I reckon guys hate the possessive types. Girls tend to be clingy and and I know that because I have a whole group of female friends. Even in terms of friendship, some of my friends cling to one particular friend. One friend becomes a little to obsessed with another friend and start hanging off them like leeches One friend goes to the library, the other friend will follow. That's how my group o friends work, I'm not like that, I tend to treat everyone the same and not favor one friend over the other. I guess girls feel pretty insecure when they let their men off. Jealousy is another factor too. When guys go off, girls feel that they'll cheat on them or do something behind their backs so some girls tend to keep their men with them where it's safe But like you said, it's not like you're married and how come girls can hang out with friends and guys can't?

We consider others to be possessive until we find ourselves a girlfriend/boyfriend.Then we will become the same as our friends .

Jealousy is a poison that kills relationships. When in a relationship we live for each other and that's how it should be but if one or other needs pleasure elsewhere then they are not ready for monogamy. That is not to say that they should not be allowed out on their own, each should trust the other, as trust is the foundation of a relationship.

Argh, i hate those kind of girl friends and boyfriends. I had a boyfriend who was like that, i missed out on a lot of my friend's outings because of him. Back then, i was so meek, i did not argue, because i thought i loved him and i don't want to upset him. it's not like my friends and i were doing anything illegal, he had to be so possessive about. while he goes out late at night with his friends and i never objected. how i hated myself for not dumping him sooner. i swore from the day be broke up that i will never ever let a boyfriend decide for me. hmm... I'm a bit jealous but never the possessive type. I allow my boyfriend to go anywhere as long as he is not doing anything wrong and as long as i'm sure he will be safe wherever he is and whoever he is with. even though i don't like the idea of him being with another girl, i rationalized that it would be stupid to prevent what is inevitable. besides, he has his own life and i respect him for his decisions, and i make sure he respects mine(thankfully, he does) so we have no problems about being possessive of each other. i believe possessiveness is something that many people mistake as love. this is, pardon me for saying, bulls*** if my partner is the least bit possessive i would dump him instantly. i have gone that road before, i don't want to go through them possessive boyfriend experiences again. i feel bad when i had a possessive partner. i don't want to be with anyone who is possessive. they should realize that possessiveness of something that isn't really yours is stupid. we can never own anyone. and we don't have the right to decide their lives for them, we can only suggest and advice for that person's good, not for our own selfish needs and wants. -bows- hehe, got carried away. this is a topic i feel strongly about. i find it necessary to let everyone know that relationships like those will be difficult to handle, possessiveness of a partner could become a long term problem that might get worse through time, which is why it should be resolved as soon as possible through understanding one's partner in a relationship. anyway, i'll end this rant... i mean, response, here.

i used to be possesive and it's not healthy in a relationship. i lost my first girlfriend because of that. Why not have thier partners join too. Double the fun!

hi davaome If I had had to ask my husband everytime I wanted to do something with a friend, I wold soon be unmarried. Getting marrij lost my response so am doing it over. copy paste. If I had had to ask my husband every time I wanted to go somewhere with friends I would have left him for sure. Just because you g get married does not mean you don't have friends. both of you have a right to have friend and to see them occasionally. You need to stand firm on times to go out with friends. try to include your partner occasionally with your friends until they and you are all friends.I cannot understand having to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend for permission from them to go someplace.[e

several years, iam possive man maybe..i just measure from the girl which had closely with me and said that her time is not only for me (actually not her said, but her friend)..but now i understand it`s not good if we push our lover only focus her time for us..

I am a little possessive I guess I would have to say with my husband. Only though if we have plans. Then I don't like them to be broken. He's the same way, but we also like our space. I guess you can't be too clingy too. Cause that will scare the other person off.

I'm not possessive with my partner. But all i want is that he must be transparent in whatever he does. Like if he is visiting a beach or friends (planned meet) atleast i expect him to inform me about this. I always give him the space in our relationship. If he wants to go to someplace with his friends I don't stop him. In that way we both respect our independence.