First Love
By fsuma86
@fsuma86 (364)
Philippines
December 6, 2011 10:42am CST
Love is like a tree that gives fruit to the hungry. Well, indeed it really provides to the hungry heart. I experienced real love from a person that really loves someone when I was in College. It was around 2003. We ended up at 2006 and was able to move on just this year. It was very hard for me to move on and I don't know why. The relationship was not perfect since he's also dating when were together. With just one song, Stitches and Burns by Fra Lippo Lippi I was able to move on the last time that I saw him in person this May.
How do you handle love problems? How do you cope up to it when it is your first love?
3 responses
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
When I first felt the heartbreaks t'was really a down-down for me. He want me to broke with him because my friends don't like him. How pety! Then I broke with him! But everyday he always do what he frequently do to me when we're still on. We're in the same company but in different department. He always calls me. Emailed. And still requesting to eat together in our canteen. I find it hard to moving on so I decided to request a transfer in location from Makati to Cavite. I find it not healthy to treat each other still close the fact that there's emotions along the way. He's also a band drummer as his sideline and I find him a happy lucky guy that don't meet my standard with regards to making a relationship. He has no priority in life. I don't see future in him.
Glad that I opted a branch transfer where I met my husband that I've been now for almost 11 years!
@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
That is one of the nicest love story I'd ever read. Your husband is really your destiny! There's no question about it. I once had a fling when I was working in Ortigas before but it didn't make it big or we really didn't develop a good relationship since I see no future. Love sometimes may be wrong but your fate will always be right and you should always trust your instincts. If this is Facebook, I'll hit the like button for you... :)
@EavesJ (95)
• United States
6 Dec 11
There is no doubt that it is hard to let go of your first love. It does take time for some people, for other it doesn't take long. I am still with my first love and have been for over 9 years,married. You said you found your key, that is great. But another good way for a person to let go of their first love is to forgive their first love for their wrong doings. Even if you don't want to. This relieves you of that pain that you were going to feel later. Meaning you just transfered that guilt over to him/her. Now they are the ones that are going to have to live with that pain. Say to yourself "I've did my part and now it over." Just like that you will find it easier to get through it and start looking for a new love. Thanks
@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
6 Dec 11
That is actually true. I have finally moved on. The pain before was really something to the point that I don't want to see our common friends and most of all I don't want to talk about him. It was a sad experience though but life is really like that. I believe that you really have to undergo the pain so that you'll be better the next. Good thing I never had psych problem when it comes to loving a new one. I'm happy I have a new BF right now. He is 5 years older than me and were trying to avoid any problems. If there is then, we talk about it.
Thank you so much for your reply!
@selinachang (55)
•
7 Dec 11
when in my college ,i fell in love with one guy of my classmates,It's my first love.it lasted only one year.one year later ,we broken up .how sad i was,however ,we had to see each other everyday ,because we were in the same class .every day we had to attend the same class.i knew he was not the gug i really liked.no matter the case ,i must accept the pain.another year later,i have gotten rid of the sadness.
if you broken up with each other because of misunderstandings,you can make efforts to communicate with her or him to reunit.if you really think he or she is not your style,just give up ,time was the best medicine to cure your pain.
@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Time heals all would and I say. There goes the lyrics of a famous song "Almost Over You". Thank you so much for sharing your first love experience to me. It's true that he/she is your first love the fire is still there and we can just reminisce the moment that we had with them. Now, it's very important that you have an open communication to your lover so that you will know each other very much. If it's not worth your time and worth time it's better better to break up with him/her as early as you can so that it will just give you less pain.
