Jealousy

yeah, i have the same issue. my sis always makes my parents proud(in school), but i always make them disappointed. my sister and i have seven years gap of age.but its only in school.

Your not alone. I can't think of any one person who claim that they are not somewhat jealous of their brother or sister. As you get older more then likely you will become closer & the jealousy between you will become less. Of course that's not always the case. My younger sister is very jealous of my husband & I because we save up all year to be able to go on vacation. She & her husband on the other hand spend money almost as soon as they make it so they can never afford to go on vacation. Still she is jealous that we can & her jealousy of us has caused us to have more then more argument over this. Now we no longer speak because I just can't handle her jealousy anymore. So if you don't want this to happen to you & your sister then I suggest you deal with the jealousy between you now before it gets to the point where you no longer speak to each other

I can not say that I do :) But I will say that everyone is special in some way. You are special and don't even know it. It takes a smart girl to ask a smart question as such. Don't feel that you are less special, because there are things about your sister that arn't perfect either, believe it or not. You keep being you and keep your smile up and you should be fine. Just tell your parents you love them everyone once in awhile. Show them you have much respect for them. If you use these actions I'm saying to you, then things might start to go in your favor a little more. Thanks

I think you need to assess yourself what are her qualities that make her the apple of her eyes of your parents if you so claim, and what are your qualities that your parents don't want in you. If you can adopt the qualities she has, in a manner that you won't get uneasy with having these qualities, then go for it. Change. Nonetheless, if you can't adopt the qualities, accept yourself as is, assess what you can improve on yourself and love them as your parents as you know how to express yourself with someone. Personally, I believe that jealousy is a result of one's insecurity with someone wrought by comparing yourself with that someone. If you are able to be content, be confident with what you have and be appreciative of the good of others, you won't outlive such emotion. Foremost, you must learn to love others as you would want others to love you.

Maybe when I was young I had this issue in mind but never gave it to much thought because I was the youngest and my parents would always defend me against my older brothers and sister. You don't really need to compare yourself to your sister because you both are different and I'm sure your both amazing in your own way. Welcome to mylot and have a nice day

I'm not really jealous about anyone. I can see that they are better than me in something, but that doesn't create jealousy in me. It makes me push harder to achieve my goals and to try harder to be better than them. So that which makes jealousy at some people gives me a desire to be better than those people I should be jealous at. I don't hate some people just because they are better, or burst out of anger when I see somebody is better than me. It just makes me improve myself and makes me a better person.