should i pay for girl???

I'm girl and so far I want to pay cost of dating as long as I feel comfort and love the guy I date with, but if not I would not pay for any cost.I think you should be honest to your girl if you don't have enough cost to pay dating so you would have another way out, may be she want to be 50-50 cost or afford for simple dating

If the girl is your girlfriend, or you are trying to impress her and win her heart, then I think you really need to pay everything. It's expected. Although me as a girl don't really feel comfortable with it. But sometimes guys who's trying to impress a girl always sees to it that he'd pay. If the girl is just a friend, but you invited her, it's expected that you have to cover the cost of everything but if she insists on paying then that will be your lucky day LOL

It depends how serious is your relationship, but in general yes, you have to pay. For example it also depends on the girl, but I think you should pay on the first date. It is different, if you are together from a long time.

As a girl, i can tell you that sometimes we like being paid for. However, this is not true for all of us. For instance, I always pay my part when i go out with a guy. I don't think I'm somebody's responsibility, and if I accepted to go out, it means I can pay for it.

well, guys paying for girls is widely practiced beliefs. So you should always pay for the girls if they so desired. However, if you know that you are short of money yourself, you can just don't hang out with them. or only on occasional basis.

Well, as a 40-year-old mom of a 17 year old, I can understand your dilemma. this is what I tell my son: The general "rule" is that the boy pays for the girl on dates, particulary if YOU asked HER on the date. Then you will have the opportunity to pick a destination that you can afford. With all of that said, you should be honest with her about your budget. If she wants you to take her places that you can't afford, you should let her know. If you can pool your money together to enjoy the date, then that's how it should happen. Hope this helps. Honesty is the way to go! Or, choose something that costs no money at all!

Hello Tom... If its your first date, then it is recommended to pay for the girl; it'd be awkward if you run out of cash. So select the place which is affordable to you. And make sure that you have a little extra cash with you.. If you've been in a relationship with that girl for long then she can understand and even share the bill... But never expect it on first date... Good Luck!

Though it seems that men pay more times than women when they go out together. But in my opinion, it doesn't mean that boys should always pay. I think first, you should know well the aim of going out with that girl. Are you pursuing her? If so, it is better to pay for her. Are you going out with only one girl, or there are several people present? If there are several people go out together, i think it is better to pay for oneself. And if there are only two person: that is you and a girl. Then why you go out? and why you need to pay? pay what? dinner or clothes or other things? I think if not two people are very close, they won't go out together without others company. Well, if you are very close and need to develop further, then i think you are meaning you are paying for your girlfriend, or future girlfriend. Well, i think to all men, pay for their girlfriends is a pleasure, of course, there are sometimes they don't got too much money to pay. That will be ok, especially in such modern society and women also earn. You can tell her directly about the situation, and don't say that and only pay by yourself can really make your financial situation worse.

Hello! This kind of situation I also met. Of course, general is a man to pay for it. If have enough money, the girl to pay for can also. Now that is a friend, I think, unnecessary as clear share. Bless you!

That's tough, especially if the culture in your country is like that. Here in the Philippines. I for example don't like being paid for when hanging out with a guy, especially when we're dating. I don't mind friends paying for me, but I do make sure that I return the favor when I can. If the guy and I are dating, I insist on splitting the bill or shouldering the next bill (either on the next destination or next bill). You can try saying at the start of the date that you're short on dough, thatw ay the girl won't expect too much

If you have invited her out, then i think it is just proper that you pay for it. If you don't have enough money then maybe it would also be wise to tell her especially if she is the one who asked for it. In my case, since I'm also earning, when somebody asked me out for a dinner , I always offer to share in the bill because I know the price of it. Most often i am not allowed. It happens when it is a group dinner.;-) I think for girls, it is also good to offer.:-D

I think its called "default". Males cover the cost mostly. My boyfriend pays for the dates too. Don't invite if you can't afford to pay. or tell them that you can share the financial stuff. That would do.

It seems that we have the same trouble,I also want to know how to dispose it.

Normally,a man always pay for everything when she is with a girl. It is common and it is a way of taking care the girl you love. How would the girl love you back when it seems you don't want to spend even a single dollar for her.Godbless you.

hi tomlawbossking For one thing when you guys go out try to find the least expensive things to do if you are short of money. they guy pays for his girl but if he is not Mr. Moneybags he needn't take his girl out to places he really cannot afford. If his girl really loves him she will not want to see him embarrassed by going to a place where he will run o ut of money. When my husband was courting me we often went dutch because he was just starting a new job and was not really making much yet

It doesn't have to cost something when you hang out with a girl. Just tell the truth when you don't have money. The girl won't be upset. If she offers her money, let her be. You will see that she wants to hang out with you if she offers to cover the cost. But don't abuse it. It is the boy's obligation to do it.