A Voice of An Upset Individual

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Hello Rberon, that is the hardest part of "expecting" because most people don't care if you expect something. i don't know to whom are you upset yourself with but I understand you're upset here. the only enemy here is our "emotions" because we can always ignore things when we don't get what we xpect, but when the emotion of disappointment started to kick in, that's when it becomes sad. my advice for now is that the brigther side is you still have your job

hi rberon, I know you've been going through with something right now but in our life there are trials and we need to be strong remember everyday is not the same Today is not good but tomorrow will be a bright day for you It's nice to see you here again. happy mylotting

I guess for me I feel upset when I think I should have thought more about my past decisions. Then it seems as if I made the right decision, but when times get hard it makes me think maybe I didn't and I feel upset about it. I hope that things will improve for you and your work situation. Continue to do your best and you will be happy with your expectations if you continue to work hard to see the outcome you want.

I haven't had such experience with my boss but definitely I have been disappointed in life one way or another. Just cool down, sober up and try to relax. Most of the time bosses do have what we call displacement. He might be having the same problem right now and you are the easy target.

Hi rberon, i know and feel what you are going through, and i felt sad as well. i experienced a lot of frustration because of expectation. But you got a lot of friends and your MyLot family is here to help you and ease the frustration you are feeling today. i think being an optimistic is one solution to your dissapointment, it works for me. i mean we all know that getting something you want or something you expect will happen, even fairy tales has it's negative side, even heroes cries, right? there no such thing as perfect in this world, if your's would've been perfect it will be a boring one, right?

If this is something that has happened at office to upset you so much, then please take solace in knowing that the same happens to me ten times throughout the day at office. You do something in all sincerity and then somebody else gets the credit or you are completely ignored or things don’t fall in place as you would have liked them. Just let the moment pass by…I know its so hard to control…you really feel like doing something just now! I’ve even cried to myself in the toilet…what else could I do? Some people can take care of themselves…they shout and accuse and make a scene out of the entire situation…I am not so articulate so I just suffer in silence, wait for the moment to pass by.

Hi friend.. I am sorry for what happened to you... I am sure it'll be fixed soon... Please don't get discouraged.. remember, you are not the only one... :) Now smile, cheer up and get back to work... Good Luck!

I know I am 8 months behind on responding to this, but thought I would give my 2 cents worth...One thing my brother suggested when I was depressed last week before going into the hospital again and after I found out that I had heart failure...He sent the youtube link to the song "Always Remember the Bright Side of Life" from Monty Python. It includes a video of a lot a men on crosses (which I didn't particularly like) but the message was loud and clear. I don't know if it would help in your case or not, but it can't hurt. And another favorite poster of mine when I was in school and things went bad was a frog holding the throat of a stork with the words "Don't EVER give up!" Remember those and try to feel better.

For me, I feel like I'm at a sort of crossroads in my life. Most people here know that my husband has been dealing with cancer treatments this year and I've tried to take it all in stride, but it is really wearing on me badly. Well, I took my wedding vows seven years ago and I take them seriously. However, I feel like his cancer treatments and the fact that they've got him on pain medications is driving a wedge into our relationship. If we end up separated, then I will feel like a failure but even as things are right now I feel like a failure because of the fact that I'm so unhappy.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhh. I like being here to vent at times too!! I have not been here in a while and have missed being able to vent! Well, I entered a silly photo contest on Facebook - for a mall. Rules are rules - and I followed them. I got the most votes - and I knew for sure I would win. Then the winner was announced - and it WASN'T me. It was awarded to someone who did not follow the rules - and I was shocked. I called up the mall . . . and then I posted on the FB wall of that mall (tactfully). I congratulated the winner, but stated I was puzzled . . . even another contestant had the same thoughts. So, I posted how the mall did not abide by their own rules, etc etc . . . and I just KNEW I would get tomatoes thrown at me from every side. I was called a sore loser, that I should be a forensic scientist for getting nit-picking at the "rules", and blah blah blah. I was being as tactful as possible - and didn't throw any cheap shots like these other people did. The mall called me back (after I posted I never got a return call) and tried to turn it around as if I were the bad guy. Whatever. It was a PETTY thing to be upset about - it was only a stupid photo contest - but I had to argue my argument because it was the principle of it all that mattered. Glad I got it off my back finally. Yay myLot and rberon1985 for starting this discussion!

Hi rberon! i understand your feelings, i have been through such disappointments in the office. Sometimes you want to make things right but the upper management seem to tolerate wrongdoings. Whats so demoralizing is, they would tell those erring staff that they understand what they did and the management has decided to give them another chance right in front of you. You know, i felt i was slapped in the face but i just kept my temper but of course i felt insulted and embarrassed. If only i could resign right there and then but i have no job to go to for now. Now, i told myself not to burden myself with working too hard as it is not appreciated anyway.I will just do what is only expected from me and not more than that.

umm i dont remember the last time this happened to me but im sorry and i hope yor day getts better

I don't think it's a good idea to post negative things about your employer from work. It sounds like you are very dissatisfied, but using company time to publicly vent can be dangerous. I hope things get better for you at work.

Are y ou aware that many employers have the ability to monitor their employees computer usage? That said, I'll answer y our question. To handle disappointment, I go for a long walk, pray for contentment, and go do something at which I know I'm good.

This happens a lot, especially when your expectations are high. Being human we are subject to failure and it does make us feel bad. If you truly know you have done your best, then you have to go easy on yourself. Whatever did not go right, will it matter a week from mow? a month? a year? If not, then by all means let it go. You will have many more failures, it is all part of the human process. Plus sometimes we learn our best lessons in the midst of failure. I can remember some of the most disastrous moments I have had working a a couple jobs and now not only do I no longer work for any of them, I cannot even recall those things that I was so upset and nervous about! And when I say nervous, I had to go to the doctor to get medicine for it. Whatever you are feeling bad about right now, remind yourself you did your best (pat, pat on the back), take a few deep breaths and remind yourself you deserve to be good to yourself.

Well, I still think that failure is up there and it happen due to our mistake or mismanagement of life. You right, my friend. Sometimes we are disappointed due to some expectation is not materialize... But we need to be acceptance in all that disappointment so that we are not carried a big responsibility in the future...those are things for us to learn and good that mylot is here for us to express our feelings and know what other people may say and advice

Hello, I am happy to know it that you like this site too much. yes it is place where you can say anything which is in your mind. If your employer is not allowing you suffering in the office, it is part of disipline of office. So you must obey it. More expectations is the cause of unrest. So do your work honestly and leave the rest for god.

Today I was really upset also. I am upset to my mother. Yesterday, we went to the shopping mall. Since I was late to arrive, she had already bought what she wanted to buy. As for me, I wanted to buy also. She told me that I will do it buy today. But what happened is that she didn't give me any money. I was upset because of that. I ended up nothing.

This happens to me from time to time. Sometimes my friend would console by saying "That's why I do not make expectations." Well, that goes for her. For me, whenever I do something, it is natural that I'd expect something too especially if I worked hard for it.