"Survivor" not the only one with blindsides.......

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For those of you who watch the TV show Survivor, you know that one of the most suspenseful aspects of the show are the blindsides that usually come out at tribal council. Sometimes they can be devastating but it is all part of the game and makes for great entertainment. It is bad enough when it happens on a reality TV show but it is even more challenginh when it happens in someones real personal life. I think about how this just happened to a friend of mine. This is a young couple with the guy being about 10 years older that the girl, but with a slight mental problem. My husband and daughter befriended them a couple of years ago whe we were all living in the same apartment complex. They had been together about 1 year. Both families have been through a lot and the one thing I saw and admired in the guy was his determination to beat the odds and turn bad situations into good ones. They have had to move a few times and the apartments they would get would be horrific, but he was not deterred by that. He used his talents and skills to make each place beautiful and cozy. I was always amazed by what he could do. He also had troubles with jobs, but again he was not deterred and if he lost one he was right back out there looking for another. Currently he is a supervisor at a local mall. The main thing I admired about him was his love for his girlfriend and now new son. They were such a beautiful little family and I love them all. On her birthday a few months ago he proposed to her and she looked like she had never been happier. This last time they had to move, for some reason she wanted to get her own place. I thought that was strange but she said it was for financial reasons which did not make sense to me. So, they moved into the same complex but he was on the first floor and she was on the third floor. He moved everything for himself and her and had to go to the hospital because he hurt himself in the process. Finally they were settled, but when we would visit we all would be at his place. Again, it did not make sense. Then one day me and my daughter went up to her apartment to see it (she had been complaining that we never come to her place. We were watching a movie when suddenly the doorbell rang. She said "oh, my friend must be here". She goes down to let him in and then introduces us to him. Me and my daughter are looking shocked, like "who is this?". She noticed our expressions and asked that we not say anything to her fiance. She said she would tell him. I was blown way. She took him down to meet her fiance and he was totally dumbfounded. He had no idea anything like this was going on. This was a guy she met at school (she just went back to school this year) and had been seeing him for 7 months. There was absolutely no clue. This new guy has lots of gall. He told the fiance that he needs to take his son whenever they want their alone time, and since neither she nor the new guy has a car they expect the fiance to take them around where ever they have to go. The fiance had planned Thanksgiving dinner early in the year and decided to keep his plans so guess who was at dinner? Yes, the new boyfriend. It's the craziest thing I have ever seen and I feel so badly for D (I won't say his name). Now she's all over facebook declaring her undying love for J, after so many soppy sweet posts and pictures over the months of her, D and the baby. I tell all this because I just got word from a another friend of mine who is aware of the situation that they found the body of a 30+ year old man in the park that D always go to when he is angry or upset. They say no foul play seems to be involved. No one has heard from D since Thanksgiving and nothing has been said about the identity of the body found. Needless to say I am very concerned. It saddens me to even think about it, if it is him I will be heartbroken but even if it is not, some family is hurting over the loss of their family member for whatever the reason was. People need to stop playing games with the lives and emotions of others. If you feel you need to leave a relationship at least try to do it with dignity and compassion unless it is unsafe for you to do so. Maybe this will touch someone and of course your comments are all welcome.