Can love and affection for kids be measured by wealth?
By DoctorDidi
@DoctorDidi (7018)
India
December 8, 2011 11:48am CST
Just yesterday I had a difference of opinion with one of my close friends. I am describing the topic of dispute in a nut shell and I am sure that all of you would support my view without any hesitation. In course of gossip, she claimed that as a mother she loves her kid much more than any other parent in the world. She claimed that she has got her kid admitted into a reputed school of the city and always sends the kid to school by her personal car and never by the school bus. She also added that whenever the kid falls ill, she consults with the best and highest paid paediatrician of the city. Such claim was funny and the reasons behind such a claim were quite funnier. It irked me too much and I strongly protested against such a childish statement from an educated lady like her. I told her that each and every parent in the world loves his or her kids equally; love and affection of parents for their kids can never depend on wealth and social status of the parents. It is true that a well to do parent can afford high standard of education and health care facilities for their kids which is never possible and also beyond imagination of a poor parent who finds it difficult to manage both ends meet. But it does not mean that there is any difference in the degree of love and affection between the two parents for their kids. Degree or depth and magnitude of love and affection for kids can’t be measured in terms of wealth and social status of the parents. It is a heavenly relation governed only by heart; there is no force in the world that can break through this ever lasting bondage by which a kid is attached to its parents till their last day, it can only be felt but can never be measured; even a heartless man has also a heart full of love and affection for his kids. Moreover, does it mean that the richest man in the world has highest level of love for his kids? If it is so, then she definitely can not claim so as those who are richer than her can spend much more for their kids than she can. Thus money can never be a determining factor when love and affection for kids is concerned. The kid in future life may betray with the parents but the love and affection a parent has for kids remains the same throughout life, it is the same on the last of life of the parent as it was on the first day of birth of the kid. I hope she realized my logic behind. What’s your view about it? Do you agree with my observation?
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20 responses
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
8 Dec 11
I totally agree with your observation! I love my daughters just as much this friend of yours. I may not have had the money to send them to the best of schools or doctors but my heart and soul loves them just the same. This lady friend of yours is a bit disillusional to think she loves her kids more then anyone else. If everyone had the money they would all send their kids to the best schools and doctors. Another thing that doesn't make sense is "she is by no means the richest person in the world" to say such a thing. There are many famous rich people who send their kids to the best schools and see the best doctors. She thinks quite highly of herself doesn't she. These types of people with such big egos I tend to stay far away from. Can't deal with people like this.
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@mitdeba610 (18)
• India
8 Dec 11
Love and affection can not be measured by wealth. But still if there is no wealth children cant be brought up properly in todays world. Although one can bring up a child by means of a proper discipline and knowledge and it can be done without huge money.
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@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
8 Dec 11
Yes, I also have the same observation that money plays a great role but it can never be the last word in proper bringing up of a child. I also believe that each and every parent is equally worried and anxious about the welfare of his or her kid, irrespective of wealth and social status of the parent concerned.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
8 Dec 11
I don't think that any amount of love and affection can be meaured in any way by wealth. Having a lot of money does not bring any more love or affection into your life than having no money at all. it is the feeling in the heart that brings these emotions to light.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
8 Dec 11
Ofcourse it can , but the gold,money and everything of value other then them in the universe , combined dont get near to 1% of their cost :) Well i think you cant normally but thats pretty universally large amount witch for a human being might be equal :P If you are not another God is blq blq and God is blq blq so you are the everything and god is your childeren and well that started sounding insane and annoying :)
But i think putting any prize will be too less , kids and you love to them is priceless and special , thats what make us living :)
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
8 Dec 11
I must say DoctorDidi, that when i saw your topic post and was interested
on responded but when I pulled it up I was turned off immediately.
I don't mean any harm nor am I trying to be mean in any way.....
Why?? because it was such a long post with no breaks..But I was
able to read and follow ...Just a little suggession.'when you post
a long lengthy post just break it up into paragraphs..it makes much
easier reading...
Now I totally agree with your observation...Wealth is definately
not the neccessary for raising a great healthy child in society.
How dare should your friend think that because she has a little
or a lot of wealth that she is better in raising her child.
Children is not into wealth they are interested and learn from
a parent who show them love and teach them morals..
All parents love their children(well most of them anyway)..and had
to wait for wealth in their life where would they or the children
be.. She can't be serious
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
9 Dec 11
I couldn't agree with you more! Money and things do not always equal love. In fact they may often ruin the effort to show true love. It is what is in the heart that counts and not what is in the wallet$
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Dec 11
If love for children can be measured in terms of wealth, it is those that don't have money that show the love for their children more. The reason that I say this is that a parent that doesn't have money will go hungry so that their child has the opportunity to eat. They will make a lot of financial sacrifices for their children.
I've noticed that people that have a lot of money don't typically spend as much time with their children as those of us that don't have much money.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
10 Dec 11
I do have to agree with you here my friend. Love for your children has nothing to do with the amount of money you have. We as parents, do the best we can for our children, rich or poor. As a matter of fact, I think it really is the other way around. I think the people with little or no money have more love for their children and family then do the people with loads of money. I also believe that, eve though money is always a good thing to have and can help with life and medical and all, it is also something that corrupts people, especially the rich. It seems to me that children of the rich are pawned off to a baby sitter or have nannies and such. Where as the poorer person is a hands on parent and spends more quality time with their children.
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
8 Dec 11
I have no children of my own but speaking as someone's daughter I can say that the reasoning behind your friends thinking is ridiculous. We did not have a lot of money growing up. We didn't go to the best schools, or the best doctors, sometimes we didn't even have a whole lot to eat, but none of that mattered. My Mom did what she could for us. She even took on extra shifts at work just so she could buy us new school clothes. My mom loved us with all her heart. She taught us right from wrong & to respect anyone that's older then us. These are lessons that we still remember down to this day. Being a parent is more about sacrificing everything for your children & to TRY & give them the best of everything. But if you can't afford to buy them the best things in life then being there for them when they need you the most is more important then anything that money can buy.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Dec 11
I absolutely agree with you. Loving your children has nothing to do with how much money you have. We do not have a lot of money, we barely get by but our children know without a doubt that we love them more than anything in this world! We do the best we can for them. They get the love and affection and they appreciate new things more when they get them because they don't get them all the time. So, that is a silly thing for her to say...
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@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
Wealth is not enough for you to show your love and affection to your kids. As a parent, you know that kids needs personal attention from their parents. Parents should support their children not just financially by providing them material things but also emotionally.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
8 Dec 11
No not in the end. In the end the kid wil only remember if you were there when needed.
If you had time, real attention and a listening ear. If you felt save and were able to give it a stable home.
I had rich parents, no affection or love at all. I never thought it was great to have a nanny, housekeeper, special clothes etc.. that only made me more different in the eyes of others. The only thing I wanted was a mother that cared and loved me.
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
8 Dec 11
I agree that love can not and should not be measured by the wealth of a parent. Now, I no of parents who have much more money than others, and they send their children off to boarding schools, as they don't want to be bothered or are to busy with their "careers." There are many parents that lack the financial means to really take care of their families the way they want (food, and shelter are necessary) but just because they are unable to provide this stability, does not mean they love their children any less then someone else that can buy their children the very best of everything. I feel that teaching your children honesty, integrity and the value of a dollar that has been earned is much more important than handing your child a free pass in life.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Dec 11
hi doctor didid no no n o I loved my children deepley and we were never welloff, just working people but we loved and cared so
much for our two children. when we lost Lisa Rose we were both
devastated by the loss, you never ever expect to have to bury a
child.yes affection and love of our children is never measured by
our wealth. of course had we a lot of money our living style might have been better but our love and affection are just as deep when we do not have everything as they would be if we were more well to do.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
9 Dec 11
There are many parents who belong to the rich and super rich bracket. The father is busy day and night with his business and has no time for his kids.the mother is apage 3 socialite and has no time for thechildren because she has to attend kitty parties and,fashion do`s and other social events where she can be photographed with other socialites. Ask these people how much they love their kids and you will get the same answer as your friend did.Their kids have the best of everything with the sole exception of time to spend with the children and love and affection. If you have seen Dev Anand`s Hare Rama Hare Krishna you get the same picture. The parents are too busy with their own thing and the children are left to fend for themselves.Result divorce and seperation.Money cannot be a factor for judging love for the children.It does not depend on how much money or gifts you give the kids. Love of a mother for her children is universal,even wild animals take care of their cubs,feeding them and looking after them until they stand on their own feet.Yes, i agree with you as status in society in no way can determine how much love you give to your children.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
9 Dec 11
I don't know that I agree, each person is different and each child changes from childhood to adulthood. For instance I love my children but now that they are fully grown adults I don't feel the same love as I did when they were small children. As adults they each have their own personalities and lives, this can make them harder to love with the same intense feeling I had when they were small I protected them with my life if necessary.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
9 Dec 11
I absolutely agree with you on this topic. No one can express their love toward their kids simply telling people how much money he/she has invested or put on their kids, that is a wrong expression, and that is not right. Even though I don't have that much money for my kids to attend the best school in the state, I still love him/her, nonetheless, he/she is my child.
@kalyani1234 (637)
• India
9 Dec 11
Namaste Didi, I know what you mean, I personally know many such ladies who think that way, one of them is my best friend. They think that buying the best stuff for their children means their love is the greatest, more than other parents who cannot buy more expensive stuff. But I think its totally wrong, because children emulate their parents and they too start thinking that money buys everything, and give more importance to money than friendships, relations etc.
@icyrose123 (133)
• India
9 Dec 11
Yes you are absolutely right. Though money is important it is not the only way of showing the love and affection towards a kid.
I agree that sending your children to a high-fy school and buying him always the best is really good BUT at the same time it does'nt mean that someone who cannot afford to do all this does not have love /affection towards his/her children. But from your post i feel that (correct me if i'm wrong) your friend completely feels proud of the fact that she spends too much on her children and so she loves her children the most. This is wrong. According to me love and affection towards your children cannot be measured ...one can just feel it...
