I Want To Be a GOOD SISTER...... :-(

Well first of all, your brother has to accept you as you are and not expect you to change. You can change a little, but he should love you as a sister for who you are as long as you love him. Maybe you need to start counting to 10 before starting an argument with your brother. Maybe you'll find it is not worth it to argue. What type of things do you argue about? Many things that are argued about are not really all that important - so sometimes if you just let things go you'll have a better relationship overall.

to become good ..is a ...not a bad idea. what you mean by good sister. i dont know about that.. lovable sister..is pretty good. i think you are little possessive for your brother..thats why you confess..all blame on you. you are realy afraid of losing your brother.. first of all change this attitude.. hanging behind..is an irritating thing.. i dont know how to advice..but do good to him..thats only you can do as a lovable sister. give love..without thinking that i get back..all that by take care..wish you the very best

Hi! I think it very common thing between sibling that they keep querraling on one issue or the other. The reason could be they want so show their supremacy to each other. If your brother is elder to you, you need to listen to his advice, as he is your best well wisher. Listen to him with intent and disapprove his ideas only when those are totally off the mark or un acceptable to you. And do not feel jealous of him. All the best.

Hi dassodils,i don't know if this will help but i want to tell you anyway. Eversince, i always wanted to be a good girl. A good daughter to my parents A good sister to my brother A good friend to my friends A good cousin A good student A good employee A good wife to my husband A good mother to my daughter. All of the good personality that i can be even if that means i need to change myself to be able to meet their expectation. But i was so wrong.It's not me anymore.Its what they want of me to be,what they want,what they need. I didn't realized at first that i am not me anymore.So i changed.We can't pleased everybody.As long as they see that i can be who whatever they want me to be,they keep on asking for more,and more and more. So now, all i want to be is be myself,Take it or leave it.

i want to be agood brother. i often have dispute with my only sister. we rarely meet because i live in diferent ciity. my sister is 5 yeras old younger than me. we argue even for something unimportant. the probmel appear because we have bad comunication since we were kids. i hope i were kid again

I think this is common even i and my brother match at all the time. I love him much and more. I will give my heart for him. I know that I have many faults in my character and i am correcting those ones. I always used to give up in most of the things with undestanding this stronger our relation. So give up doesn't you are failed it is a another way to achieve sucess .

It seems that we are undergoing the same feelings, dassodils. Neither do i feel confident that I am and will measure up to being a good sister or mother or daughter at all. However, it is the opposite with me. I do not give instantaneous reactions nor do I give instantaneous replies to whatever anyone says. It takes me so much time to think about what is it that will be the best reply to give unto anyone who talks to me. In fact, at most times, there are some questions which I would fail to give a reply to unless the person who has shoot me the question, makes a follow up query on it. I just noticed though that whenever there are touchy situations coming up, they always consult me on such occasions. Maybe, I am not that bad after all. So my advice to you, try to mellow down slowly. Before blurting out what is it that is on your mind, think first if it is a good thing to say. Things which do not have so much thought in them and will hurt people maybe, are best left unsaid. Just remember, if you have nothing good to say, it is best to keep your mouth shut. Have a good day, dassodils. Take good care of yourself. Among all the siblings in your family, your brother loves you the most. Here is one secret that I have known for life. The sibling who fights with you the most, he is the one who loves you the most. Minus of course, hurting you physically and insulting you.

Try to respect your brother. Always make it a point that you are the one who's going to say sorry after the quarrel. That will help a lot, your brother will surely feel that you love and respect him. There is no way on how to become a good sister or brother, that depends on how we understand each other...

As is the truth with any kind of relationship that we have in our lives, an important part of being a good sibling is to know that there has to be some compromises that we have to make in our relationships with our brothers or sisters. One of the first steps that you should probably take with your brother is to just take the time to talk to him.

In my opinion, you're not good enough as a sister for your brother. You said that he didn't like your characters. Having talk about character, there is almost nothing you could do change to your character or behavior. Behavior is inclined with our body. Character is part of our body, mind and thought. It is difficult to get it changed. No matter how hard you tried. All you could do is to try to improve the quality of your character to be a better character and be a better person. Then the way you show that you love him. You must show to him that you would be doing better than before. You can make him proud of you that you're a good in every aspect of your, not just inside but outside as well. Good Luck

your word, what you write, it first step you can change your habbit. don't have a bad experience to change, like me. it hurt, even with it i can change.

For a healthy relationship, one has to accept each other as they are. Just be what you are and your brother has to accept you and understand you. Same way on your part you have to understand him. Both of you has to adjust to each other's character.

Your brother is a terrible person. He doesn't love you at all. The only thing he is doing is blaming you for everything. Like my dad said: If you want to hit a dog you will always find a stick to do so. Well you are that dog! And your brother will always find that stick to hit you with. I like to know why to his opinion there is something wrong with your attitude or character or behaviour. And why is he such a perfect person. Because his gender is male? We nearly live in 2012 and women have already since years exactly the same rights as men. The right to be who you are, the right to speak, to have your own opinion. Your brother better be aware of that. Your brother is a sick person. He is abusing and manipulating your love for him. There is no need to prove your brother you love him. If he is not able to see that he will never see it. You buy your brother a mirror and tell him to look into it for a long time. And you.. go on with your life. You will never be able to be that good sister since this sick idea is only existing in his sick mind. No matter what you will do or how you behave, your brother will always keep complaining. He will try to break you in every way, he is selfish and just want to be the king in the middle of all attention. You can send him over to me and I will teach him how to be a good brother! One who will love you and encourage you instead of abusing you.

hi friend ,by your words ,I found you are more lucky than me.when I was 14 years order,I had a brother,in that time,I always quarrel with him.in fact, my brother was a very lovely and cute boy.I think all things was my fault.my brother was lost in the accident.I regret not to have taken care about him during his lifetime.I hope you can take care about your brother.I hope you all have great day,enjoy it.

I think brother and sisters need to be good companions. I think sometimes you may see something in his behavior that you don't like but you may be so intense and animated that he feels he needs to defend himself. If you use some tact in the way you address your brother I think you will find that he receives it much better. Think about it!