Its so hard to fall

Hi bunso! Good to be back here in mylot,haha! OUCH! It really hurts bunso to see your loved one with someone else,hehe. Just put in mind that you don't have a relationship with him for you to feel so bad about it,that's the lighter side of it. On the other hand,you should have been ready for it since you fell in love secretly. That's the consequence one has to face. You shouldn't expect him to give back the love you feel for him since he doesn't know about it. Maybe,if he knows about it,he could have courted you then. Cheer up bunso,you should be happy on the other hand,at least you know how it feels to love and be hurt by that love..you are one normal human being!

I'm sorry to hear that esss17, not being able to get what you want. the hard part is you can't just fight for it because he is in a relationship with another friend of yours. But may I ask, How did it come to the point that you fell inlove with him? Did you spend alot of time together? do you exchange text messages? because it seems to me this guy has gotten your affection by not just being himself without having atleast some quality time with you. but then again he is already in the arms of another, if it will make you feel better, I would just like to say that, don't worry their not married yet :) Have a nice day

Controlling your emotions is the single most difficult thing all human everywhere should do. I am impressed that you are more mature than most, that you know to try. Most people do not.

It is hard not to fall in love with someone that we have spent time with and that we enjoy their company. When we spend time with a person it draws us closer to them whether we want it to or not. The key would have been to keep your distance. So this is a good thing to remember if in the future you don't want to fall in love with someone :). We all desire to be with someone who cares about us. Now though it's a sticky situation for you because he's dating your friend. But perhaps if things don't work out between the two of them you should tell him how you feel.

You mean: never fall in love with someone you can not catch! That is a big difference. He can catch you and have you extra but you can't catch him because he has a relationship. Perhaps he is a simple crush and you only fall for him because he is saying those sweet things to your friend...

You do not have to regret in anway. We sometimes make mistake of falling for wrong person. It just simply means that the guy was not meant for you and the right one for you is waiting somewhere outside there. Just be patient and you will find the right guy who will also be interested in you.

Been there, done that. You're still lucky your feelings did not develop much into something deeper. If it did, it would have hurt more. It really sucks when that happens but that's life. You can't always get what you want, you can't always be the one happy. Your time will come when someone will catch you surely.

There is an old saying that I feel is very true that says, "love hurts" and as I think back to my youth, I must say it wasn't a very good experience even when the other person reciprocated my feelings. It meant then that I would be constantly thinking about the other person whilst I needed to be focusing on what I needed to be doing in work. And then just wanting to be with the other person when I was supposed to be concentrating on my work. I was a musician in those days and often was away from home to fulfil my gigs. It was good when I wasn't in a relationship, yet I seemed to want to get back into one again! So I would say that love is like a fever that can make some of us quite crazy! I think the only cure is to get old! _Derek

There's a time for love, a time to hate and time to laugh. Be patient and the right guy will be coming into your heart...

my lady, It's hard to say when and to whom are we gonna fall in love Just take good of your heart dear- you are still young, don't hurry up and enjoy life

i am sorry you are going through this. I know it sucks so bad :// I am in a situation similar to yours but here i don't know what he wants. he says he loves me but wants time. i don't know what that's supposed to mean but it's sucking up the life out of me. falling for the wrong guys is one of the things i do best

Sorry to hear about that. That really hurt my dear. It's okay to get a crush then get hurt. That's normal and I think everybody should experience that in preparation for a serious matter in the future. Just don't take it too seriously edss. Just think that it's just a crush and it will just pass anytime, soon you will forget. ;-) Chill, spread your wings and have fun. Good luck!

Hi edsss. I cannot tell you if you have fallen in love with the right person or not because I have been told that it is not your decision to make that who you fall in love with. If it hurts you so much that he isn't responding, take a stand and ask him yourself. If you don't, you'll lose the person you want to be with. It is as simple as that.

it's hard to fall in love for the wrong person,sometimes we have to accept the fact that the person will never be yours.if you want to find your true love,you just have to wait.=)

hi edsss, I want to share with you my story on falling in love, 5 years ago I had this big crush on my friend..all of my friends knew about it, expect that person..I kept it for about a year..until one day I couldn't hide those feeling anymore.. I made an initiative to tell my friend about my feeling, never thinking if my friend loves me or even has interest on me but I took the risk.. Funny, I have been hiding my feeling for a year because I know my friend is committed already, with out even knowing that my friend also loves me.. and now for the past 4 years I have been happy because my friend and I were together.. one thing that I've learned is :"THE ONLY PERSON WHO RISK IS FREE"

Hello edsss, that is really sad to know. I know the feeling how it hurts, especially if you see the person whom you loved is now in a relationship with somebody else. Maybe you deserve someone else, a person that will truly love you in GOD's perfect time. Don't blame yourself of secretly loving him because everybody is also going through with the same situation you are experiencing right now. Right now, you just have to focus on the things which are far more important like focusing on your studies, career, and family. That would be a great plan. Love can wait and it will come unexpectedly in GOD's will and perfect time. By the way edsss, you're so cute on your profile picture. Take care and GOD bless.

edsss oh dear that is miserable and are you really sure he has no feelings for you? oh I see hes already in a relationship with a friend so its out as far as I can see.Yes its awful when we fall for someone who is not going to return the favor. so you must go looking for someone who will return your love and you will find him as I do 'believe there is one certain perfect person for each of us and we will know when we find them.So you will live to love again and with someone who will love you back.mr right is out there some place. hugs form hatley

Hello edsss17, That hurts!!! But i don't understand how to avoid falling in love as love happens itself not that we do it. I understand how you might be feeling but i think there is someone else in your fate much better than this guy so keep on searching him.

Now you have learned those lesson, it should be just easier for you now of letting go your feelings and start telling yourself that there's still someone out there that deserves your attention and feelings. Just wait for true love to find you, it will just come in time.