How do you feel when your friend only called you when they need something?

What I can say is, such friend is not a true friend. I'm not sure why you call him or her friend, but trust me, she is not your friend. A true friend will not only seek you when she is in time of need. She will be there for you when you have problems that needed someone to listen to you, to advise you and to hug you.

It feels like I am just being used,a robot,a martyr.I don't like being treated that way.I want to also be needed by others during their triumph.I don't want to look like a nanny.:) People who calls me only when they are down aren't real friends.:)

Hello Imcath! Welcome to Mylot! Woah! Should i consider him as a friend in the first place? If you are to call me friend, you should be able to tag me along in some of your good times as well right? Otherwise, i would feel... used...

I think most people will experience that at some point. I have tried it too, and found it annoying as well. Usually things work out automatically, you can try to talk to your friend and explain how you feel maybe the friend will understand or maybe he/she won't. In that case you might want to find better friends. Anyway, good luck!

I not feel good but I will try to understand why friend need me. But still this is not happened with me and my friends call any time not only for purpose but they call me because they remember me.

It's truly a common experience to most of us, not only from a friend but even from our own family. There are times that either a friend of ours or our family will only try to keep in touch just like you said, because they need something from us. I also find it very funny to think about, like seriously you just remember me now because you want something??? What kind of friend is that?

i know a few people that are like that with me or my husband. it is annoying and i have pretty much got over it now as i have better things to worry about "when they dont want to be in contact with me". i dont think its worth stressing over, as long as they are using you for borrowing money and treating you like a bank.

I wouldn't consider people like as a friend at all... The way I see it, friendship shouldn't be based on what we can do for each other... Of course I would help out a friend if he's in need of a help but not because he can do something for me in return... I would help because he's a friend...

I have one friend who is like that. She only contacts me when she has problems and when she needs someone who can listen to her and give her advice. I find it annoying that she ignores me when she is happy and when she doesn't need help or advice. She hasn't always been this way. 6 years ago I was going through a very hard period of my life and she was always there for me. She helped me more than any other friend and she was just amazing, but the last couple of years our relationship has been different. I never hear from her unless she has a problem that she wants to discuss with me.

First of all, I would really wonder if they are my friend at all if that's all I do. Chances are, they might not be. They might only see me as a lifeline or a free therapist or whatever. That's not what a friendship should be. Not at all. It does rather frustrate me beyond all belief when a friend just calls to expect you to bail out. And then we you are unable to, suddenly you are the bad friend. Those people aren't really your friends. Might think they are, but there are times where it does take a while for their true colors be shining through. It is rather frustrating when people don't value friendship as much as we do. There is a certain disconnect for sure between two sides.

hi imcath, I experienced this many times it hurts because they only remember me when they need me and they have the other friends during the time of happiness.And I felt hurt really But I used to it I just value those people who can be my friends in times of happiness and sadness. Happy mylotting

if that's the case, i don't think you should consider her as a friend. no real friend behave like that. you deserve someone better.

That wouldn't feel right, I would feel that I am not treated as a friend, and somehow i feel that I am not treated well as I should be.

I really hate it too. But somehow, I still don't want to express those feelings. Because I think we are different among any of his friends. Have you asked yourself why he called you when he has problems? I guess it is because they like to share it to you. I mean, among his friend you're different. Maybe they're comfortable with you. This is what I think but I'm not so sure. Because sometimes, I am like that too. And the reason is because they're different type of people. You could've helped that person a lot. They just want to share it to you maybe because he know that you can help him. I hope I am right with this. Have a nice day imcath.