My boyfriend is not convinced that I'm truly in love with him!

Hi! I think it is very difficult to furnish some material proof that you love you boy friend. He should trust you and your words. If he just can not trust you, he does not deserve you because in a relationship, trust is the main factor. Without trust any relationship will crumble. PS - I have observed that you have not posted any comments to the responses received. You are new and you might not be aware that if you do not post your comments, your discussions may not bring the desired results so post your comments on the responses received.

You have to open up. Let him in.Let him Know how much you love him in word and by deed. You have to trust him enough to open up or it will be lost.

It sounds as if you boyfriend is very insecure and it is only time that will help him to trust close relationships. Honesty is always the best policy - to share each others feelings without trying to change each other's feelings. When sharing is honest and two people are not afraid to discuss their feelings openly, the relationship will grow stronger. It is not easy, because sometimes it can feel scary, but without risk of some sort we do not grow in relationships or as individuals. Good luck and I wish you both all the very best in your new relationship. _Derek

Ask him why he is not feeling it. The fact he is not feeling it doesn't have to mean you don't show it. Big change he is not able to feel or recognize love at all. Plenty of people are not able to do so. let him open his eyes and observe you, the things you do etc then he should know (even if he has to notice and make conclusions like a scientist.)

Be straight to him, ask him why he thinks he did not feel you love him. and from that, you will know what to do. In a relationship, open communication is needed, so that you will understand each other. If you love him, do not be afraid to show him how much you love him, you know your limitations because you learned from your past relationship, and this is the time to apply those lessons you learned from the past.

Question my dear, in what way would he like to feel it? Expressions of love is in many ways and you can choose how to make it possible depends on his character and personality. Maybe you really need to let go of the past.

Hi Ladeveyra, I don't know your boyfriend or why you fear losing him. Is he complaining about not feeling that you love him or just saying that he isn't sure of it just yet? If he is complaining then for me that would be a red flag. If he just isn't sure yet then I think that is pretty normal. I have to say that I take my time in a relationship and it would take me more than 20 days or even 3 months to begin to feel as it might be love.

so tell him.. maybe he ever get a bad experience with a woman before he make relationship with you.. so what is your effort for convincing him??

Then explain that too him. If he loves you he will understand. I was like that with my husband but for different reasons. I even went so far as to break off our engagement at one point, but my husband understood why I was so fearful, so he was very patient with me & hung in there. I'm so glad he did, but this passed Oct. we just celebrated our 5th anniversary. So again trying talking to your boyfriend, tell him exactly how you feel. If he really does love you in return then he will be patient with you & give you the time you need.

Just make it more intimate.I know you know what I mean.Cook his favorite food.Go out with him to watch movie.Have a walk with him.Do some fun things.Just make him feel that you love her.Don't just say it.Do it.Action speaks louder than words.(cliche)

maybe you do love him, however, you should let him know that because as a boy, he cares about it very much.

I think you can show your love or affection by giving some surprises to him. I think this will surely feel the love and makes him to feel that how important he is. The surprises means giving the best you have, which include gifts on his B'day,preparing his dishes etc. These are some of the methods you can show the love. Just try it out. let's see how it works.

I've been into a situation very similar to this. When he says he doesn't feel it, he probably means that since you guys have only been official for 20 days all the feelings come with a real relationship havent really sunk in with him yet. Even though you've proabaly been feeling as though you love him for a while now. Just give it some time and dont stop expressing your love to him. However, to much of a good thing can be bad, never smother anyone with affection. Find that perfect balance. Good luck!

its not about how short the time you have been together, but how long you have known each other and the love you have to him. Show him how you love him, it's because you don't want to regret if you lose him and not showing how you love him truly. Love not only your boyfriend, but you must also love who he is, what he loves doing and mostly, love everyone he loves.

I do think you love him, and why would he not feel that love? its only been 20 days and he is already feeling that.. or maybe he is too demanding of your time, and attention that he always needs to feel reassured about your feelings for him? I'd say sit down with himand talk to him why he is saying you are not loving him enough. I think he is mistaken about this because he could be wanting something from you and you are notable to give it because you do not know what his basis for saying you do not love him.

I think you need to devote more attention and give more time to him.May be he is feeling the lack of both these things.I understand that you have been hurt in a previous relationship but do not be disappointed.All men are not the same.I am sure you will be able to convince him of your love.Do pay attention when he talks and discuss your future with him.That will give him trust in you.

Oh men- okay, guys want more and want the whole of you. Fine- but do not fall into his trap. You love him but it doesn't mean that you need to give proof...and what proof? Think smart and observe if he really loves you, or wants only one thing from you.

hi there ladeveyra, when i have read your main topic, one thing come up to my mind. that is when i was in the same situation. wherein, i have a boyfriend before, have known him about 2 years and it was after six months he courted me to be her girlfriend. and during those times that we were in that relationship, there was a time, that he told and asked me if i loved him. i was surprised with his question. i told him, yes i loved him very much but he's not believing. he wants some proof that i really loved him. so i did introduce him to my family as a proof that he is my one and only loved. i thought, that would be enough. but, after sometime, we broke up. hence, it is him who does not loved me that much because a third party rose up that lead to our break-up. i really feel hurt and cried a lot. as i do loved him very very much. asking why he did that to me. he just told me, i did not deserved him. that i deserved somebody else. then that's it. our ways have gone separately. but that situation did not come so easy for me. and until now, i still loved him. what to do, he has his own family now with 2 sons. with reference to your situation, i am not saying that you should show some proofs to your boyfriend that you loved him. hence being with him is one proof already that you do loved him. perhaps, try to asked him, why did he asked that question to you. try to explain that your previous relationship was not fine so you have a simple trauma with that. and if your boyfriend really loves you, he will help you to recover and will not asked the same question again.

For me, Action is louder than voice. I prefer to show my true feelings in my actions. Sometimes words are not enough to tell how much you loved him even you mean it. I would suggest when you tell how much you loved him it will be good to put some actions. Like.. make him special and put some efforts,doing anything he likes..just to prove him. Then I'm sure he will love you more and he will believe the words "inlove" everytime you tell him that words.

Well here is a situation where I feel neither of you are at fault. Neither is he wrong in expecting youto shower him with love and neither are you trying to tread carefully after past failed relationships. But all that I can say by fearing the past we should not forego the present. People might have hurt you, but then for the fear of being hurt again you should not lose a person whom you love now. Actions speak louder than words so I still feel if you truly love and care for him show it to him and be more expressive. Automatically he will feel it too .. cheers: )