How if your best friend loves someone you loved?

Oh it's pretty tough when this happens, a situation no best buddies ever want to be in. I have never fallen into this situation before but I would hate it if I did. Something very similar to your situation happened to my friend at work. At work, she liked this guy and would casually talk to him and at first they were friends. She also had a female friend and they were pretty good friends until she found out that her female friend had feelings for the guy she had a crush on. Her friend would approach her each time and ask for advice on how she should express her feelings to the guy. My friend, being kinda nice helped her out but deep inside, she was pretty bitter about it but she still needed to know who the guy likes. So she tried to force it out of him on a causal msn conversation and he slipped he liked her. They then kinda hoked up at work and they became I guess casual girlfriend and boyfriend, buying each other gifts and stuff. Of course her female friend had no idea and kept taking her chances on the guy. I convinced her to tell her friend because lying to her isn't the way. My friend then told her and well, lets just say her friend started to do everything to break them up and win the guy. So yeah. If I was in your situation, I would tell him, especially if it irritates you and hurts you the more he talks about her. I'm pretty sure your friendship won't be affected, especially when the girl isn't involved with any of your two like how my friends were involved.

obviously,this is a difficult matter to get the girl but it's simple between you and your friend first,suppose that the girl is single,your had better tell to your friend you love the same girl too .and earlier ,don't to make he misunderstand you admires the girl for he says ,furthermore bath of you could love and chase same girl .the key is whom is girl's come for ? second,notwithstanding the girl is love in another boy present,there even is a possible situation that she would be an aim between you and your friend only,to tell it to your friend earlier ,don't cause a misunderstand stress than you love the same girl.

Well, this is a tough one to respond to because I have never been through this. The worst thing that I have ever been through is that most of my friends fell in love with my brother at one point or another. He broke hearts, he broke many of them. Honestly, you have to let her choose. If she doesn't love you, then you have to start moving forward because that's just how it is. Many people encounter this problem, and you just have to let them choose.

It looks like the girl have no idea that she got two secret admirers. Since she is already in love with someone else, there is no possibility that she is going to accept you or your best friend as her steady. I don't think you are betraying your friend in any way by not sharing your feelings with him. Obviously, you are considerate of your best friends feelings and do not want to hurt him in any way and ruin such a good friendship. A girl may walk into your life at anytime, but a good friend doesn't. Let him learn the truth on his own even though I know it's difficult for you to hear another guy talks and admires the queen of your heart. Give yourself a lot of time - being the key element here, will help you to see things from a better point of view.

As you said that the girl love another person other than both of you, it would be better to tell your friend the facts. It is sure that he would see a better friend in you and both of you can take a joined decision to leave that girl on her way, without spoiling your valuable time after her.

From what the details that you have revealed, it seems that the girl that both of you are interested in doesn't even know about how the two of you feel about her. You and your friend are just secret admirers. Further more, you said that the girl is in love with someone else! So in actual fact, both of you are in the same situation. You can not fight for something that is not yours. There is no such thing as a monopoly in secret admiration. If the love is only within the heart, we can indeed fall in love for just about anybody like Angelina Jolie or Tom Cruise. Love is precious and noble. Although sometimes the target of our love is not able to accept ours, it is still a pleasure that we can feel love for someone we treasure. As for you and your roommate, I think you don't have to feel bad about having the same emotional attachment to the same girl. In a way, both of you are comrades. You don't have to tell him that but you know in your heart that the girl is really someone who is lovable as proven by not you alone having that feeling. Just smile when he mentions the girl again. As both of you are good friends, it is not surprising that both of you are having the same taste and appreciation. It is not easy to have a good friend. I feel you should treasure him.

its a very difficult situation, it has happened twice in my life my best friend at the time liking my boyfriend too much, it usually breaks up a friendship plus sometime the love relationship as well.

hello, Best friends should always open to the each other because you called each other as a good friend. You should also tell him what you feel about the girl he is dreaming off that the girl likes somebody else not you nor your friend. I know he will understand about that because your best friends. You know what? me and my best friends always open to each other that we knew everything and every secret of each other. I love my best friend and I cant even keep a secret to her because I treat her like a sister and I trust her. And you know what we just told to each other that we will never fight for a guy.