Is this dumb of me to say?

Oh! Then she is more like me. I wouldn't tell anyone until the end of my first trimester . Why? If I Really wanted a baby I would fear I would lose it in the first trimester. I think it is not fair she has to keep her pregnancy a secret. She doesn't need this stress!

It has more with the do that she is scared of what might happen to her own baby in the first trimester and the stress of hiding her own from certain people that she can't tell because she issnt allowed to. Married or not has nothing to do when I tell people or when she tells people. Some people are suppression and I'm not. I like saying it right of the bat then waiting I have nothing to fear or be scared of.

It's like the show on tlc secretly pregnant. That what she has at the mount she wants to tell certainpeople and she cant. She could tell all of her friends and they support her. I told her ousode of that house you can tell whomever you want. They don't want hear but other people will listen. That one of the main reasons hubby left that house was it wasn't fair in adult things and when it doesn't fit the norm thy hid or ignore it.

Of course we have different personalities we are two different people. No two people hink a like. She is 19 and scared it's her first baby so I can understand not wanting to tell people till she is in the second trimester. Me I tell right away and it has nothing to do with me being a proud mommy I has to do with the fact that I want to share with people things going on in my life. Although now I won't be able to share that life with people since I lost the baby almost 2 weeks ago.

You just repeated what I said. I said she was scared it's a normal thing for first time parets. I'm not scared of that even when it d id happen to me. We aren't that different in age she is 19 and I'm 23 that isn't a big age differences at all. I wasn't scare of having a second child I was extremely happy about another a baby and a challenge of taking care of a baby and a toddler. Being scared won't make a women have a miscarriage it's a natural thing that happens in early pregnancy do the fact that something was wrong with the egg or the chromosomes needed. She was scared of what people would say because the dad wants nothing to do with th baby and she knows how some peole would feel about an unwed mother in the family. I don't care of she is or isn't married she's an adult and can make choices for herself. Me being married had nothing to do with me telling people or not. I wants to share the good news about my second child and a week later having to tell them all over the phon that there is no baby I had loser the baby over he weekend before Christmas. All women have he same fears of being a mom weather they are married or not. You can assume how someone feels when you don't know them and no two women will feel the same about pregnant and not hr same things will happen to then and we don't deal he same way as each other when good or bad things happen.

Maybe then she is scared and you are not to tell that you are pregnant and she is pregnant. But since you have different age and different approach she is not scared to take care of her own baby. I think you are scared because the probability of losing a child is you know and you experience. Moms on the 2nd child is somehow scared because i experience to be scared for my 2nd child. While a person having a 1st child is stronger and not easily moved though in her case she is not married, she has different fears than married women. My apology for your lost of a baby..

She found out months ago that she was pregnant. She is 17 weeks. I found in 3 weeks so the doctor says to me. Most women find out 4 to 8 weeks. It all depends on the women's body and the hormones. My where high enough for a test at 2 weeks. They say as soon as you conceive your pregnant but most home test won't pik it up that soon.

Yeah she isn't tki g care of herself and most of it's stress from not being able to tell people because her mom and step dad doubt want people to k ow it. But she is an adult. I understand where she is coming from but me telling people now I know I cam handle it after having two blood test and knowing there is an increase is good news to my ears. I don't think telling people now is dumb.

She actually sounds very immature. I understand respecting what the parents think but bottom line...this is her child. The child should be more important than mom and dad saving face. It's a done deal...she's pregnant and a beautiful baby will be born no matter what the situation.

It doenst help that the stressed is her own family. Her mom and step dad won't let her tell her two younger brothers and she hasn't told her dad or step mom and her dads side of the family yet. She is waiting till Christmas day to tell people so that way herded doesn't kill her in a room full of people. There is nohing wrong will me tellin people now. I rather now then in a few months when I'm big and I run into them for family things.

No it's not cause of that she is more scared of a miscarriage that is why she didn't tell people till the second trimester. I tell right of the bat I've been pregnant before so it's not new to me how to tell people and I'm not scared of what might happen I'm in the now not the then or the what ifs.

oops meant to say sister-in-law not just sister..sorry

Thank you. I understand from her point because it's her first time being pregnant that she is scared of what people will think or say. Me I'm not that's just me. I was scared to tell people when I was pregnant with my daughter but I felt better and I could talk about her freely. She was ready to tell when she was in the second trimester that's fine with me.

To me every women will tell I there own time when they are pregnant I say it right of the bat because there isn't anythin to hide. I'm not scared of the risks since I've been through it before. Someone wem are superstitions.