What kind of a friend are you?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
December 12, 2011 11:02pm CST
I consider myself as a friendly person but I only have few close friends. These close friends knows me well and they ask me first before they believe what other people tells them about me. We've been together for more than 7 years and despite distance, we still get the same old feeling when we get together.
There are people I thought were my real friends but in the end, they don't actually knows me. I am fond of giving free trainings for the growth of others. However, one friend whom I thought is a good friend attempted to pay me. I considered it as an insult initially then I realized that she may not know me well and thus, I consider her as a mere acquaintance. Also, another friend hurt me deeply without knowing it when she gave a side comment that she felt closer to another friend than me whom she always confide with her worries. I then realized that she may consider me more of a stranger because we have a cliche that it is easier to talk to strangers.
With these learning, I began to look deeper with the kind of relationships that I have. How about you, what kind of a friend are you?
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7 responses
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
13 Dec 11
I don't have any friend. I don't think that to have many friend is necessarily need in my life. I like to to have two or three who could be my real friend. I want a friend who does not care about me but she or he must care what I was doing. There are many friends ended sadly, because there too are many friend who understood only their condition, but they do not really understand the work or what they were doing. I like more quality in friendship than quantity.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Some studies say that those with few friends tend to have a deeper relationship with their few friends, compared to those who have so many acquaintances. But making friends usually happens when you find someone whom you can share their interest with. Thus, I fully understand what you mean. 
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 11
Thank you.
Yeah you are right. I kept asking myself if my writing is understood by others or not ? I would write better anytime. Thank for responding then.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
14 Dec 11
Hi snowhybiscuis, to annswer your question...I consider myself
a really good friend.. I am a passionate person about people I
call my friend,,,They can call on me any time day or night..I
believes thats what friends are for...I only have about 3 real
friends that I can tell anything and have and don't have to
worry about hearing it again.
I truly believe in the golden rule...'DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD
HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU".. I am a good friend...
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
That is right. I agree also with that golden rule. Being a good friend would pay off and we are lucky to have friends who would listen to our plea and whom we can share good things as well. We have to celebrate them and enjoy them. A friend for me is like having treasures that you don't need to replenish. They are there when you need them. And so we must also be like that towards them.
Have a nice day!!!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
13 Dec 11
I'm loyal, protective and I'll be there through everything. There was this friend that I gave the best of me: I offered her if it was that bad to she to leave her husband and that she could live with me with her two kids and I'd try to afford her as much as I could, I couldn't stand seeing her suffering.
She actually proved to be the worst friend I ever had but I don't regret, I'll always be like that but life brought friends that actually deserve it. I continue to be the friend that would do everything to help.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Hi katie0.
It was her loss for not being a good friend with you. I advice that you still continue to being a loyal friends to others and one day you'll meet somebody who can match your loyalty. What you experienced is a lessons learned about people. You may now have an insight why that friend you talked about suffered. She may have her own issues too. But do not let that experience stop you for doing good towards others.
I wish you all the luck. Have a great day!
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
13 Dec 11
Hello snowhybiscuis,
I am also a friendly person my friends say it
.I like to help my friends and advice them when they do something wrong or get confused in making decisions.Yes they listen to my advices and most of the time apply it to the situations also.
I would feel bad if someone pays me for my advices as i am not a professiaonal advisor i am a friend who thinks of helping my friends.
My close friends are really close friends they have never made me feel upset by their deeds ever.
.I like to help my friends and advice them when they do something wrong or get confused in making decisions.Yes they listen to my advices and most of the time apply it to the situations also.
I would feel bad if someone pays me for my advices as i am not a professiaonal advisor i am a friend who thinks of helping my friends.
My close friends are really close friends they have never made me feel upset by their deeds ever.@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
You are lucky to have friends who never made you feel upset. Maybe it is because of your positive disposition. If we always see positive things from other people, we will not find fault from others. That is a very good attitude towards others.
Keep it up.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
13 Dec 11
For me, I'm more of a friend who is always there when you have issues that you just need to get off your shoulder. When my friends have fights, they tend to come to me and just vent. I give them some advice or just some comfort. I'm pretty much the introverted and quiet friend, most of my friends are pretty loud and crazy. I try to be the best fried I can be and I treat my friends all equally, I don't treat a friend better than the other or cling to one friend who I really like. My friends are kind like that, they tend to have one best friend and then just hang with them. Where ever one goes, the other must follow. I guess I'm pretty good at keeping secrets, tell me something and I'll never tell anyone. My friends are hardly angry at me because I try to avoid picking fights with them and no one wants to hold a grudge against a friend. my group of friends tend to hold grudges and it gets pretty annoying when a friend is avoiding the other but that's how an all girl's group in high school works.
I try to be the best fried I can be and I treat my friends all equally, I don't treat a friend better than the other or cling to one friend who I really like. My friends are kind like that, they tend to have one best friend and then just hang with them. Where ever one goes, the other must follow. I guess I'm pretty good at keeping secrets, tell me something and I'll never tell anyone. My friends are hardly angry at me because I try to avoid picking fights with them and no one wants to hold a grudge against a friend. my group of friends tend to hold grudges and it gets pretty annoying when a friend is avoiding the other but that's how an all girl's group in high school works. @snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Hi Triple0.
Your friends are very lucky to have you. I can see that you are sensible and a true friend. Keep it up. I hope we can be friends even online. I like having friends whom I can relate well with. But there might be an age gap between us. I may be much older than you. So if you need some advice from older females, you are free to send me your questions. I may be able to help you or just give you empathy.
Thanks for commenting. Keep it up.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
13 Dec 11
I always have a lot of friends. But actually I never allow them to be closest. I think since there are a bit distance keeping in friendship most of my friendship exist without any conflicts.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
But do you have few real close friends? It is fulfilling if you have a friend whom you treat like they are you brothers and sisters. I just hope to see my very close friends as well.
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
I am a good friend to all of my friends,but I become bad when my friends do something bad to me.But I can easily forgive when the apology is sincere.:)
I don't like very loud friends.I prefer those who are quiet but honest.I noticed that many loud friends of mine turned to be insincere go the end.:)
I am a good friend.You can ask my friends if you reall wanna know.:)
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
I believe you. Me too, I don't like loud friends. They tend to talk a lot and when you tell them your secrets, they would just blurt it out. Also, I'm not so talkative. I just like expressing my thoughts through blogging, writing and through forums. But I don't usually share my thoughts otherwise I'm asked.