once your girlfriend now someone's wife

in facr there is a few of people meet this qestion, if i was a man, if i love her, i will love her forever in my heart, she wanted marry another boy, i can respect her and love her in my heart forever.

I wouldn't listen to anyone if it comes to marriage. I would always choose who I want to marry. If I met this situation there is nothing that I can do but forget the person. I know that he had loved me, but if one is not ready to fight for our relationship I would consider to just move on and accept that we are really not destined for each other.

I think you would be able to move past this - because you know that she did not fight for you and your love for each other. It is her family that promised to the guy's family not Her and she had a promise to you which she broke. Eventually, after you cried and suffered this loss of a love.. you will find someone else, you would be able to move on and be happy and marry someone you love after her... I guess that is what is going to happen to you =) To her, who left you and knows that she hurt you, I think she will have a rather difficult time getting over the situation. She would have to think of the times if she had chosen a different path, a path with you...

In this kind of a situation, I'm starting to feel like the girl that is being talked about. You see, I deeply love my ex, but I've been married to my husband for seven years now. The main reason that my husband and I got married was because of the fact that I gave birth to our daughter and I didn't want to raise a child by myself and I do love my husband because he is the father of my children. What I've also come to see, however, that if you could have possibly been married to the wrong person, you are never really happy.

I have not met this experience or situation. I have known this only in dramas or movies. You must be sad after hearing that. You got nothing to do but to cry. Just move on with your life and find someone else. I know it would be hard but you have to.

Arranged marriages seem to be something of the past, though like Snow White, I would rather find love on my own rather than to have my parents arrange a marriage for me. Snow White was lucky that she found her Prince Charming, and he happened to be the same man she was promised to. I doubt that everyone could be so lucky. In matters of the heart, parents should let the off spring make that decision.

Tough for you but if that is the society you live in then you have to be very brave and determined to be different and become an outcast. My only consolation for you is that there a re many girls out there who would make you a wonderful wife so tell your parents to select one for you.

Hope this thing doesn't happen to me, besides i dont believe in just part time love to begin with to just have leisure in it, this sort of this should first be asked what if this sort of situation comes if that love you that much am sure she wont leave and side with parent, its a tough situation though as this happend to my friend and the shock which he had, i have seen it, the time he started his first drinks and smoke and life his miserable all because of that girl. well we have strengthen our mind of these at first abd be say nothing is permanent.

Well, it just mean that we can not have everything what we want in our life. There's a reason for everything, and as you have said your girlfriend's parents have agreed to a pre-arranged marriage for their daughter.Maybe it's still a tradition in your country that is why your girlfriend can not say no to their parents. You have said that your girlfriend loves you too, but I guess not enough to disobey their parents requests. You have to move on my friend. Just keep looking, I know there is someone just for you who would love you more than anything else.

That really hurts. No parents should force their children to love other as they command. If their parent did that to them then they know how it felt. There's no point of letting your children feel the same way that they did. But for some country that is their tradition to fix their children's marriage. Because their parents think that, that is the right choice for him or her and their children does not have any say on the issue. I suggest you fight for your love. If you love each other then fight for it. That is why we are here in this world, to love. Best of luck...

Just let go... it means she does not love you enough to sacrifice. Love is about sacrifice, commitment and communication.

I think if you really love eachother you should go for it. No matter what parents/family say. If you are not willing to do so it's not true love. There are plenty of people who choose from one moment to an other for someone else. Who say it's the one their parents choose for them, or that person is financial more interesting (so richer) as you are. I think if you make that choice it's not true love. But might be I am an idealist if it comes to the definition of true love. I would take the risk and chance and go for that person and that is what I did. BTW there are also plenty of men who dump their girlfriends, great loves, even if they are pregnant because they are suddenly going to marry someone else. Arranged by parents, or they say the parents arranged that, or because they bumped into a more interesting partner who can offer them a safer future. I was left just before marriage and pregnant as I was 17 years old. It took me 14 years to get over it. He did it because of his mother but I can't blame her for everything. He was just a loser and coward. After me he did the same to many other women (with children). He still is a loser, I am a survivor and he was surely not worth greeving about such a long time.

I don't know, but for me, no one can tell you who to marry but yourself. I know our parents just want the best for us, but they are not the one who will live in the same roof anyway. If my parents will do that, I will think a thousand times before marrying the man they chose for me, for marrying is not a joke. You will build your family and make a whole new life with a person you will marry, and if that person is a total stranger it is very hard. But if your girl will be happy in her decision let it be, let her go, let her be happy, besides you love her and I know, if you will see her happy in her life, you will feel happier.

Hi conquer2012.. First and foremost I relaly loved reading your post ( there is a poetic beauty in it). Well I have been very fortunate as i am going to marry my college sweethear next year. But I have seen very closely what you have described. My best friends, who were a couple for 2 years, split up because they are form different castes and hence their parents said no to their marriage ( In India, parents still play huge role in marriage). They tried their best but were forced to marry other people. Both of them reacted in a very mature manner. They have told their spouses about their relationships and still remain very good friends and also hang out. As for me, I find this very weird as exes hanging out just does not seem right.. If I ever was in that situation, I can never imagine my girl with another guy and probably would have done something rash.