Will you date other guy just to take revenge with your boyfriend?
By rhodzptc
@rhodzptc (1317)
Philippines
December 13, 2011 3:03pm CST
This questions keeps coming on my mind when I read about this article where in the girl date another guy just to take a revenge to his boyfriend. The girl and his boyfriend had a fight that day though the fault was on the guy but it was not about third party or cheating it is some kind of personal problems. The morning that the day the guy went out to avoid their conversation get into worst. The girl is so mad at her boyfriend so she went of too and go to a bar to have some drink. She waited for her boyfriend to call her or text her but he did not. The girl thinks that his guy is drinking too at might be on other woman's lap. So she look for a handsome guy and hangout with him and then the guy took her to his place and the two of them make love together they did it more than three times that night. The girl told to the guy that he make her relieved. After that she checked her phone there are messages on the phone that is almost 3 hours had pass since the last message on her phone. She did not read it instead she call the his boyfriend but he did not answer ( he was already asleep) the morning she came back home. His bf already left to the office but there is already breakfast in the table. She check the message on the phone and it says "Hey, baby I'm sorry... could you go home now so that we could talk... I prepare a nice dinner... I'll wait for you... I love you baby". The girl felt guilty about it don't know what to do. When her BF returns she told what happened and what she did she thought he would forgive her. The guy (her BF)left and never came back. The guy was my best friend.
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14 responses
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
13 Dec 11
Wow, way too dramatic in real life. But, that is her fault, and she should be reprehensible for her action. If I were that guy, I should leave her too. She is not worth to forgive. Anyway, she should move on, and find another boyfriend for her own. Or she may fall into that guy she slept with the other night. That is life, when you committed a mistake, you should take responsibility for it.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Dec 11
I date a guy if I like him. I don't like to date someone and abuse that person (make him believe I like him etc for wrong reasons) just to take revenge. I think that is wrong.
If I am mad at my partner, if he is wrong and can't find a very good excuse I will kick him out.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
4 Jan 12
I could never date another guy just to get revenge on my boyfriend. If he make me upset I wouldnt take it out by dating someone else. To me that is wrong. If he was drinking to much or with another girl too much I would just simply tell him that and go home. I wouldn't go home with another man.
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
hhmmm.. seems interesting, i read it 4 days ago after posting but i can't keep myself from writing a comment in it.. i just too experience like that but not to the point that i gave myself to other man, the girl was negative thinker. if she only give his boyfriend a small space to think, maybe that will not happen. from that experienced, it teaches me a great lesson. sometimes we need to study the characteristics of our partner so that incase things will happen, then we should know how to react on it. boys don't easily admit their mistakes but as time passes after they realized it, they will apologise.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I can never do that. It's really hard to even hang out with someone you don't like. If I date with a guy it will be because I like him too, or I wanted to give the guy a chance. But using someone just to take revenge on my boyfriend is something I wouldn't wanna do. I think I'll just waste my time if I do that. And waste the time of the guy I'll date. I'll never use anyone for that purpose.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I'm a guy and if that would happen to me, or to any other guy for that matter, we would have done the same. Your in a relationship and their are certain responsibilities you must maintain. Trust, If it was me, i won't trust her ever again, she did it already, and I their is a very "BIG" possibility that she can do it again. Even if she would say she wouldn't do it again, their will always be a voice at the back of my head saying, you can't trust this girl. from trust, you will start doubting, doubt if she really does love me. Because she was suppose to be mine, and she didn't even give me a chance to work things out, instead she made love to a total stranger, what does that make me then? the best in that kind of situation would be to break up.
Your friend deserves someone better:)
happy mylotting
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
That was very nice comment of you and also is the reality my friend would face each day he says she loved her but inside his head she doubted her girl that if she give her a chance then there will be no more chance only jealousy and doubt each time they were away together. Though it took a lot of time for him to move on I think he must.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Dating other men when your sole purpose is to get back at someone and make them feel you moved on already or that you are not affected by him leaving you.. i think that meant only that you are bitter... and they know that you are only using this person you are dating to have a revenge, or as a fall back. I would not do this. because i did not want to become the person i hated most, not caring and not being sensitive about how others would feel. If i do this for other reasons than love, i am only subjecting myself to be hurt more...
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
17 Dec 11
I dont call this revenge i call it breakup , i dont know how you will live with yourself after doing such thing . This is just not revenge . Well the girl gets what she deserve , but i'm just sad for the guy , because he is on of those victims people , at least he sounded like he will do anything and try anything and the end gets some shity insane answer like - well for revenge i'll go and sleep with someone else while we are in relationshiip , you stay home and think how to fix it . Its bad that he was your best friend , but well some people are fragile and once broken there is almost no coming back .
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
hello,
That is really a big mistake in the girl side because she never thought that her boyfriend is a real sincere. She just put his angry first without thinking to his boyfriend. She will really regret to it. And the bad thing is she thinks that his boyfriends is with somebody else too.? On the side of the guy it is really hurt and the girl should understand it because it was her fault that is why his boyfriend disappear. We cant blame the guy here because he will be the victim.
But in the end of course they should understand each other and talk carefully if they really want to end the relationship because they both have a fault here? 
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Such a sad love story, i think the girl deserved to be abandoned. She was not considerate about her boyfriend, she let her jealousy overwhelm her making her do irrational things. She was very stupid. I can only approve of her honestly when she told her boyfriend about what she did.
Your best friend deserved a better girl friend anyway, she's definitely not a good one.
I would never date other guys just to get revenge. I believe in the law of karma. the world will serve what's right to those people who do me wrong, and i don't have to take it into my own hands by means of some silly, childish revenge.
Though I am angry with my boyfriend sometimes, I know it's never a good thing to let anger control us.
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Oh Its a sad story. I will never do that . Revenge make us regrets for the rest of our life. I hope the girl never make any decisions when she's angry. Now look what happened. This is A sad part of relationship. Some girl need to be matured in their actions and words. Being immature make the relationship worst. I'm sure your bestfriend are suffering from a broken heart and anger...I hope he can move on,in no time.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
14 Dec 11
I wouldn't take revenge on someone I am with for such a small reason. However, if I did decide to go out with someone else, I would do it so that my boyfriend did not find out. And I would deffinitely feel very very guilty afterwards. On the other hand, if I found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me, I would leave him and I would go out with the first guy I met, making sure my ex found out.
@krazylegz2 (10)
•
14 Dec 11
I feel so bad for your friend. That has to be a total stab to the heart. Finding out your girlfriend would do such a thing to you when your still with each other. As you can see I'm not for it. I would never do such a thing! I think if you want to fool around with more then one person then single is the way to go. Why lead someone on if you don't want to be in a commited relationship?.. But if she did want to be in serious relationship and obviously did it out of spite then its no difference. She cheated on him with another guy and that's not what being in a commited relationship is about. Even if they do get mad at each other, why would cheating on your boyfriend even come into your thoughts? I see in no way shape or form does that help or better the situation. It obviously shattered everything they had and could of had. I don't see how someone can do that to another person. That has got to be just horrible, and I would know because I have also been cheated on. I didn't think he would of let it slide so for him to leave was obvious. Something like that is so hard to cope with because you let people into your life and in your heart and to be treated in return with something like this is utterly devestating. I hope he is doing okay and gets back up on his feet. :)
