Whats wrong with my friend?;;
By marketing07
@marketing07 (6266)
South Korea
December 14, 2011 3:21am CST
i had a friend, we are very close from the start...we are very happy whenever we met each other..we shared happy moments..eating lunch together until i became a member of a dance group...she is not happy whenever someone praise me for my performance...i know she is talking behind my back...but i im trying to understand her...but it hurts me ..whats wrong with her? pls.share your opinion.
9 responses
@kalyani1234 (637)
• India
14 Dec 11
That's so terrible, someone you care for talking behind your back! I can understand how you feel, but I think the issue here is that she is probably jealous of you spending time in the dance class and she may be feeling that you might meet someone else and get close to that person and she will lose a fine friend in you. Either that or she is just jealous of the fact that you can dance well and your performance is getting noticed and praised. Whatever the fact, you should speak to her openly and tell her how you are feeling about her behavior and ask her what really is bothering her. It could be that you may have said something to earlier and she misunderstood it and therefore she is behaving like this. Whatever be the case, just come out into open and speak to her immediately.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
14 Dec 11
i tried to explain why i need to dance, your right she is jealous because she doesnt know how to dance.thanks
@kalyani1234 (637)
• India
15 Dec 11
Yes probably that is what is bothering her, the fact that she cannot dance! Maybe you could offer to teach her a few moves! That might change her attitude towards you!
@sminut13 (1783)
• Singapore
14 Dec 11
like many have said, it definitely seems as if she is jealous. it could be that she is also trying to get your attention. she might feel left out, inferior, we never know. therefore, it's better to talk it out with her before you break off your friendship with her. you don't really want that and maybe it might be the same for her. it could be just that she doesn't know how to behave around you i guess, what with you being popular now.
but even if after talking, if she still doesn't seem to understand and continues being negative about it, she can't support you, then that's not a good friend. best of luck.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
15 Dec 11
thanks smi..i tried to talk to hear but she is always changing topics..i think shes not a real friend..
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 11
She might be having a bad day. I suggested to come close with her and find out the answer from her directly than you keep asking yourself. It is good for you to recall what had happened with your friendship if you've made false step or wrong action in front of her.
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Hello, marketing07! I think my attitude is very different from others. Based on what you have written, I am sure that your friend feels insecure everytime you receive commendations. She's not a real friend. If I were you, I'll not treat her as a friend anymore. I know whatever you do, she'll not change. That's her real attitude, she's envious. You cn never change her. She's not the only person in this world. Why are you going to try to understand her? She doesn't deserve it.
@amitcool25 (6)
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15 Dec 11
i think you should give her time so that she understand about you okk....
@shibham (16977)
• India
14 Dec 11
Either she is envy or she has inferior complexity and both are harmful for a relation. If you need a solution then show her the reasons why you are praised and try to involve all those activities of your which make you praiseworthy. As a good friend you show the path on how to gain praise.
All the best.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
14 Dec 11
yes, i think shes envy...because i gain popularity in our city thanks..
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
14 Dec 11
thank you..some of my friends really think she dont deserve to be my friend..
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
hi marketing,
I think you should not considered her as a friend because if she is really a friend then she must be happy and proud of you.
Maybe she is insecurity, envy or jealous about the attention you are getting.
happy mylotting