Can a man be just friends with a woman?
@nezavisima (7408)
Bulgaria
December 14, 2011 8:17am CST
how can you think friends a man can only holder with only one woman.
if he does not have any other thoughts or just a true friend how you think.
I always think that there can be no friendship between man and wife because hormones are always calling and what would you say?
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14 responses
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Hi nezavisima,
I've seen a video in youtube where one guy is randomly interviewing guys and gals about the same question. Women all says yes they can be friends with a guy. But guys, all of them, says they can't. So the question is, why do we have male friends who are there with us for long years. The answer is that, they liked the girl. Most of the guy fall in love with the girl. But the girl can stay friends, men cannot. This is true, I never have a guy friend who's been my friend for years. I have two guy friends and both of them confessed one day that they liked me. Although I rejected both, they are still my friends.. and I hope they're not hoping for more
'Though I have some guy friends too that are already married, and those are the guys I can say will not feel different towards me. It's just mere friendship.
'Though I have some guy friends too that are already married, and those are the guys I can say will not feel different towards me. It's just mere friendship.1 person likes this
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Dec 11
Ok so maybe it's true that there are "feelings" there and especially with the guys but there is also self-control, respect, regard for the person they are with etc. Maybe if the opportunity were there for there to be more than just simple friendship the guys would be more than willing to pounce on it but if you are clear that it isn't going to happen then I think most guys will settle for and respect the friendship itself. I don't think that guys are incapable of being good friends to us women.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
Yes, and so I think the boys were friends until the time when perhaps fail to do so we think of them friends and then just want to put us to bed and sleep with us.
I say this because it happened to me recently and Friends wants to sleep with me.
why did this discussion, I am surprised that there are people who have such friends and istiski be happy because they know how to control and to respect the man himself.
thank you again.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
can have a friendship between a man and a woman just as you say sometimes there is some attraction between boy and girl.
is just such a friendship, we must be careful and know what we want from this man Adly friendship or something else.
just any friend but only that it is between people who already know what is true friendship.
Thank you very much for your reply.
nice day!
@ClassyLady1 (109)
• United States
20 Dec 11
There is no 'hormonal' reason a man and woman cannot be friends. Yes, we were made by God to have 'thoughts', but any decent man or woman can control those thoughts and the 'surging' hormones! Friendship is founded on mutual respect for one another.
On the second note - no friendship between man and wife - if your husband/wife is not your best friend, you are headed for rough times. Be friends first, man and wife next, then lovers and best friends!
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
22 Dec 11
It is not every man who respects a woman or man beside him to control his hormones.
Yet it is very important if we want to have a good friendship.
It is not the most important thing is to first be friends and then everything else.
thank you very much for this response.
nice day!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Dec 11
Oh, it happens, Nezavisima. I have guy friends. It's all about setting boundaries from the start. I have one guy friend who has been my friend for years. At one point when we were both single we talked about taking it to the next level but chose not to and just remain as friends. He has a girlfriend now and has for years and he is very faithful to her. He will stop by for coffee or maybe a game of cribbage and he would never ever try anything. He's a great friend and I trust him with my life. I have other guy friends that are just as respectful. Its all about the boundaries and being clear on them.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
This is very nice I read a very beautiful and nice.
Good for you.
So you're a true friend and you have found such a friend in the face of this man is simply amazing.
I can tell you that it really makes me happy and I am extremely pleased with this discussion.
because I realized that there exist true friendship between a man and a woman and I hope to find this selfless friendship.
Thanks for the reply.
nice day!
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
18 Dec 11
This is very nice.
because these friendships are real and are very valuable to me.
I am glad that you have such friendships.
many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@RaiscaraAvalon (250)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Yes a man and a woman can have a purely platonic relationship. I have a male friend like that, there is no interest in 'other' activities at all. On either end. He is my best friend. ;) Of course not all male/female relationships are like that. And yes, a man and his wife can be best friends, but that's obviously not all they are. :)
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
22 Dec 11
It is not.
you are very right.
sometimes we think we're friends with some man or woman but it turns out that they think otherwise.
everything is very different and very hard never to you 100 percent sure some person.
I still think that any friends yet nothing is ever impossible.
Thank you very much for your reply.
nice day!
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
well, most of the time friendship between a man and a woman always end up as being lovers..some lovers started out as friends..we cannot really avoid it that when a a man and woman become really close friends, there is a tendency or possibility that when the relationship gets deeper they will fall in love with each other...other times it just depends on a person, there are some men that are best friends with a woman but after a long time they only remain as friends and nothing else.....so sometimes it just depends on the person how they end up and truly treat and feel about each other..but for most people they always think malice if a man and a woman are close friends...that ends up as something more than friends..
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
much to correct many such friendships that end in the love relationship.
but sometimes it is there from the beginning part, then the two remain friends but it seems there is always a thrill and then creates friendship.
Not that I estranno elosho but why will not that selfless friendship gone but it is two other 5% and 95% are just like all of us.
Many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@smacksman (6053)
•
15 Dec 11
I am friends with many women - and yes, my hormones are in perfect working order!
Of course a man will always think sexually on occasions, especially when the girl is looking particularly gorgeous, but (and a BIG BUT!) one controls one's desires. If one steps over that line then a friendship can be destroyed.
Some men are better at controlling their emotions than others so pick your man friend carefully.
@ChoukseyMK (1045)
• India
15 Dec 11
your question could be ' can a woman be just friends with a man?' why only a responsible to manage friendship. and why not. a man who have many female friends is more happy than a person who has less or does not have female friend.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
to his right and so can be formulated this discussion.
is clearly a man who has many friends whether they are men or women are more mnoo happy because they can be fun to say what you think and be themselves and what is good than to be genuine and to have friends.
many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
to your right when there is such a friendship is very interesting because it really is an attraction.
I think there are friendships, and remains the last time.
This is very nice because it shows true friendship.
Many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 11
I am not sure. There are evidence on the movies I saw on tv that man and woman can be friends for sure through thick and thin.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
can sometimes be at other times not.
obviously everything depends on us.
on whether we want to make themselves friends of what the other person thinks about us.
This is a difficult situation.
and May which everything is how you do it.
Thank you very much for your reply.
nice day!
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
to and I was talking about.
sometimes just a friendship often develops even in love.
these things need to be controlled but very few people can do that.
most were attributed to the current attraction.
Many thanks for your understanding and answers.
nice day!
@mercedes2053 (136)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Dec 11
Yes, of course, a man can be a true friend to a woman friend. In fact they can be best friends. I'm sure you're familiar with "platonic friendship" between a man and a woman. I'm sure of this because I've had a man who was and is still my best friend even until now that we're both married. It's just a matter of respect and caring as merited for a friend.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
Exactly.
exactly what I like.
just to have a platonic friendship which only realize very few people.
I am glad that you have just such a friendship is admirable.
Good for you.
many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@microengineer (587)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 11
Man can stay a friend with woman. But we must be careful because I ever had my female friend angry with me when I got married. I was surprised. If she was my special friend, I think it is normal. But I consider her as normal friends.
But I still has many normal female friends. Although my wife sometime jealous about it :)
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
definitely not.
it is very difficult to have married a man friendly to him because of course his wife always finds a way to jealous.
I have a friend that man can say that istniski but his wife did not dare to maintain any relationship because she is very jealous.
just such a situation we should be extremely careful.
many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Yes, I can be a true friend to girl, without any malice, without any intention except just to have a good company. But I am like this to those who are very close to me like my grade school and high school friends whom I treat like my own sisters.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 11
This is very nice.
Congratulations to you.
Good for you.
This is just something not many people.
most benefit from such a friendship between a man and woman.
it's nice that you own them as sisters.
Many thanks for your reply.
nice day!
