Newbie to myLot...how careful do I need to be expressing my opinion?

I think you should express yourself, for example there are people here very offensive to other people's beliefs, habits and they continue anyway, that it's not cool but if you express with respect, it doesn't matter how outthere your opinions are all will or most will erspect you. Hugs!

You have to take note that there are a lot of people from different cultures responding to your discussions. You have to take note of a lot of things. Plus, you have to read the guidelines to avoid getting your posts deleted.

Sometimes I also not understand. Some of my answer or responses have been deleted due to the above question or started discussion has been deleted. This mean that we are exposed to the impact of the question do not fit the rules.

I would tell you to be respectful. I have had a few mean things said to me but I try to ignore it for the most part. Basically, if you wouldn't mind someone saying the same thing to you if roles were reverse you should be okay. That is what I try to follow on here and in every day life. I want to be respected so I am respectful. Just remember there are all sorts of people on here from different walks of life and different countries... =)

Welcome! You should be particular with what you are posting here in order for you not to hurt others. Remember that not all people are alike. Everyone is different.

Personally I don’t think things need to get heated up in mylot but I do understand we are all human beings. We all make mistakes and can have a bad hair day. Dwetherell you have had some good comments in the discussion you created. Why not comment back? I think all mylot members need to respect each other. This a large community and requires rules and guidelines. We should pay attention to those for in the end it is admin that decides what they are. Sure there are hot topics and one should avoid them if we are not comfortable with the topic or if we are emotionally affected in a negative way. [i]Bluedoll you should pay particular attention to these words of advice. No more crying for you! She came from a place (not mylot) where people were ruff with her. [/i] I’ve actually taken part in a “careful posting” discussion and like all discussions there are a varity of opinions. I love discussions here in mylot. They are great!

Be very careful about what you do on here, and try your hardest to think before posting on here because you can and will get kicked off of mylot if you are not careful. Try to be respectful of others, try not to make any offensive statements, and if someone offends you, then please say something about it. People on here can and will do things to try and bring you down, but don't let them. Also, if you make any statements, be ready to have references and facts to back up those statements. People will eat you alive in here if you do not have your statements backed up. Trust me on this because it has happened to me before. I know some posters on here who got on my case about making statements and not having the references to back them up. I thank these people for teaching me a lesson because it has helped me out greatly. There are two posters on here that I call "the great debaters" because they are very good at debating.

My first rule of thumb is to never say anything that I would not want to be in my permanent record, because if it is online, it is permanent. I do not like to be called names, or spoken to in a mean way, so I try to make sure what I say is not mean. I also tend to hold back some, to see what the gist of the discussion is. I believe most people on here know my beliefs, but if I can't say something nice, I do not say anything at all. If you feel compelled to speak them be ready for any backlash you might get.If anything is said to you that is inappropriate, please report it to admin. We should be able to all disagree in a polite way.

Hi Dwetherell and Welcome to Mylot. I would say don't worry about those proverbial eggshells. Just speak your mind and keep respectful and you should be fine. Of course there will always be someone who wants to argue no matter what but it happens. The heated conversations are usually in religion and politics and other controversial topics. It is rare to find problems in the "safer" topics but it does happen. Just be yourself and I think you'll do just fine. Hope to see you around in other discussions!

We all crumple those egg shells sometimes despite being careful. You just be yourself but if you believe in calling a spade a spade then you need to be a bit cautious because sometimes they can look like clubs to others! Happy myLotting!

We can't know in advance that people may not understand,or disagree since we are different ways of opinions,understanding,moods it changes always.. So for me ,when i was new, i was new to the people who comments disagreement,but later i learn them from attitudes,sometimes i just not give back comments if mean to me,or i will response in right way......

base on my experience majority of our fellow mylotters are really friendly and most of the time they are just trying to help, but it is inevitable for some members to get annoyed on some members that keep on violating mylot guidelines even though they've been told about it for many times before, can you share the link of that specific discussion?

Hello dwetherell, We can never be too careful about the things that we say because befrindwithme is right, we cannot tell in advance how people will take our words. It could mean one way for us but it could mean the other way for some readers. So I guess it is okay to voice out your opinion as long as you know that you have no intentions of hurting anybody's feelings. Just be ready to clarify things when needed and be humble enough to apologize to people whom you have hurt feelings. Don't go deeper in an argument even if you know that you are right. Just let things be and have fun! There are so many people here in Mylot and not everyone will understand you but just try your best to help people who need your help. Don't try to please everybody just be yourself

We must be very careful in making discussions and responding to some of it. We need to investigate first if the discussion has no the same topic. It must be original. And the discussion must not break the rules of making discussions in mylot. We'd better read the guidelines in posting discussions first. Have a nice day mylotting.